He really thinks you are a prostitute and if he pays he can do whatever with your body as he pleases. If he can't he wants his money back and throws a tantrum.
These are huuuuuge red flags you need to get away from this guy asap, he is a sexual predator and all round evil. This will only escalate.
Going on vacation is one of the “tests” of a relationship and he straight up used you as a fuck puppet. Get those rose glasses off and run away from this degenerate.
She got jealous of her sister, even tho you did nothing, so her solution is to accuse you of an incredibly serious crime instead of being logical about the situation. This is one you prolly wanna stay away from
My advice is to grow a pair and be honest with her. If weed is that important, end things and move on. If you are willing to give up weed, do it and stop being a dishonest partner.
How to confront him is to tell him he is a grown man and he needs to be cleaning himself correctly.
You tell him you are embarrassed for him and that it makes you feel sick. You tell him you won’t be doing his laundry, you won’t be having sex with him, and you will not be spending time with him until he has taken care of this.
He might need to eat more fibre or fresh food. He might need a spray bottle of water next to the loo so he can use damp paper for a better clean. You can buy a spray product for this. Don’t buy him wet wipes because he’s stupid enough to flush them. I know they say they’re flushable. They’re not.
There is a subset of ridiculous toxic masculinity men who believe wiping their own bum is gay so that might be his issue.
If that’s the reason, I’d break up with him so fast his head would spin.
Lay it out for him. Wipe your bum properly. Shower properly with hot water and soap. Small children can manage this. If he refuses, get out as quickly as you can. He is not worth risking your health for.
And if he doesn’t bother cleaning his bum, I’ll bet his dick isn’t fresh and nice either. ???
Unfortunately some men do enjoy hurting other people mentally and emotionally, and it’s sadism bc they derive pleasure from watching other people hurt.
You do you re: hookups and casual sex, but be aware that men like him exist.
Are we disclosing any and all surgeries and healthcare information with strangers now?
You don’t think it’s necessary to share life-changing “healthcare information” with intimate partners? You’d be OK with it if you found out someone you had sex with had herpes or HIV?! It’s called informed consent. Wtf.
He’s not a fucking stranger, he’s her boyfriend and it’s absolutely his business to have this info prior to deciding wherever to be intimate or not. She lied to him and then she tried to guilt him into not breaking up with her after she decided to tell him the truth. That’s a red flag at the start of any relationship.
Also something to consider; reach out to all of his coworkers that you are on good terms with and ask if he had been doing alright at work. This is weird to come out all at once. Maybe this isn't the first incident, just the largest
I guess he hasn’t really committed to it, no. But yeah I would like to have that clear commitment as an expectation to hold on to. I guess I should talk to him again and request in clear terms, what his plans are for this. Waiting a few days to respond to her messages, hoping she “gets the picture” isn’t going to cut it for me.
I can’t even count the number of times guys have tried to make moves on me just because I was nice to them or showed what I would consider to be normal curiosity in them as a person. There was a time when this left me quite jaded and hesitant to be anything other than cold in social interactions with men. It was especially nude before I had the experience and maturity to set boundaries and I hated the guys I dated who treated me like it was some ding on my character instead of a fairly normal part of growing into an independent person of agency.
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This may be difficult for you don’t understand but you only control your mommy you do not control your boyfriends money if you have a problem with the way to somebody else sandals or money maybe you shouldn’t be in a relationship with them
Tell her! If she doesn’t appreciate it, then shame on her and you should be happy that you’ve done the right thing anyway
I would have broken up with her and not taken her back. Just remember she showed you her true colors.
This will most likely be the move.
Only other thing I can think of besides what everyone isnpointing out is:
Is she intorverted? Does she have social anxiety? Maybe she was nervous and anxious
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He really thinks you are a prostitute and if he pays he can do whatever with your body as he pleases. If he can't he wants his money back and throws a tantrum.
These are huuuuuge red flags you need to get away from this guy asap, he is a sexual predator and all round evil. This will only escalate.
Going on vacation is one of the “tests” of a relationship and he straight up used you as a fuck puppet. Get those rose glasses off and run away from this degenerate.
She got jealous of her sister, even tho you did nothing, so her solution is to accuse you of an incredibly serious crime instead of being logical about the situation. This is one you prolly wanna stay away from
My advice is to grow a pair and be honest with her. If weed is that important, end things and move on. If you are willing to give up weed, do it and stop being a dishonest partner.
How to confront him is to tell him he is a grown man and he needs to be cleaning himself correctly.
You tell him you are embarrassed for him and that it makes you feel sick. You tell him you won’t be doing his laundry, you won’t be having sex with him, and you will not be spending time with him until he has taken care of this.
He might need to eat more fibre or fresh food. He might need a spray bottle of water next to the loo so he can use damp paper for a better clean. You can buy a spray product for this. Don’t buy him wet wipes because he’s stupid enough to flush them. I know they say they’re flushable. They’re not.
There is a subset of ridiculous toxic masculinity men who believe wiping their own bum is gay so that might be his issue.
If that’s the reason, I’d break up with him so fast his head would spin.
Lay it out for him. Wipe your bum properly. Shower properly with hot water and soap. Small children can manage this. If he refuses, get out as quickly as you can. He is not worth risking your health for.
And if he doesn’t bother cleaning his bum, I’ll bet his dick isn’t fresh and nice either. ???
Get out of there before things get worse. You can salvage this next time he could kill you.
She’s right.
Unfortunately some men do enjoy hurting other people mentally and emotionally, and it’s sadism bc they derive pleasure from watching other people hurt.
You do you re: hookups and casual sex, but be aware that men like him exist.
Are we disclosing any and all surgeries and healthcare information with strangers now?
You don’t think it’s necessary to share life-changing “healthcare information” with intimate partners? You’d be OK with it if you found out someone you had sex with had herpes or HIV?! It’s called informed consent. Wtf.
He’s not a fucking stranger, he’s her boyfriend and it’s absolutely his business to have this info prior to deciding wherever to be intimate or not. She lied to him and then she tried to guilt him into not breaking up with her after she decided to tell him the truth. That’s a red flag at the start of any relationship.
Also something to consider; reach out to all of his coworkers that you are on good terms with and ask if he had been doing alright at work. This is weird to come out all at once. Maybe this isn't the first incident, just the largest
She doesn't deserve this.. really, she doesn't..
If your friend hates eating in front of people she doesn't know, why does she go to restaurants?
Don't let her ruin your relationship and happiness.
It is a relatively thin sliver, but about half an inch long. It feels so jaggered and horrible.
Oh God, 9/10 those ucs and the video are on the Internet. Good job you were face down. Hopefully you have no identifying marks/tats.
Dump this piece of shit now.
Why do you need a Bf so badly that you'd put up with being treated on-line (what human traffkers call) 'livestock'.
I guess he hasn’t really committed to it, no. But yeah I would like to have that clear commitment as an expectation to hold on to. I guess I should talk to him again and request in clear terms, what his plans are for this. Waiting a few days to respond to her messages, hoping she “gets the picture” isn’t going to cut it for me.
I always keep almonds in my pocket just in case
I can’t even count the number of times guys have tried to make moves on me just because I was nice to them or showed what I would consider to be normal curiosity in them as a person. There was a time when this left me quite jaded and hesitant to be anything other than cold in social interactions with men. It was especially nude before I had the experience and maturity to set boundaries and I hated the guys I dated who treated me like it was some ding on my character instead of a fairly normal part of growing into an independent person of agency.
I’m not disagreeing but can you help me point out where & why you’d think this because I’ve head everything under the sun on how it’s in my head.
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I appreciate that feedback. And I totally feel pathetic so glad to see that it’s not just me – I absolutely will not send it
Your gf is handling it. You really want to push her to the point she does go out to see?
If your wife can ask her to write letters for the important milestones in their lives
Don’t see him again, it’s not worth it
The fact you think you did anything wrong is scary to me.
You went to her to tell her, she wasn't available.
You went to tell someone else.
This is such a nothing burger that she is being overly dramatic about. Does she do this often?
This may be difficult for you don’t understand but you only control your mommy you do not control your boyfriends money if you have a problem with the way to somebody else sandals or money maybe you shouldn’t be in a relationship with them