Since it’s an unplanned pregnancy and the reason you didn’t replace your birth control is due to cost, I’m not sure why your surprised that your bf is not happy about it.
If you’re barely keeping it together financially as it is how does the idea of an extra kid not make you feel uncomfortable?
He may come around when the baby actually arrives but if I were him I would have a sour attitude too – a combination of annoyance at both of you for putting yourselves in this position and at the additional financial burden this baby will entail.
It’s a lot of money to spend to not have a good time! Maybe try talking to your sister about how she’s acting and why she feels so strongly about your bf. I don’t have a great relationship with my sister and I don’t wish the toxic BS on anyone.
You can always get an abortion and said it was a false positive or you had a miscarriage.
But… I think you should dump him. I really hate guys who don’t wear condom.
I ghosted men for way less that that. Once a guy complaint about wearing a condom (he lost his ere.tion and blamed on the condom) … I never saw him again. Because if during the first time he said that, I bet he would try without soon or later.
Second: he may have get you pregnant on purpose. I’m sorry, but he may want to trap you or get a child with you and used the condom as an excuse to do it, specially if he thinks you’re not that into him.
I have lots of self esteem issues due to dealing with a very traumatic past relationship and an ab*sive home life that i can working on daily to over come, but it is a slow process. He knows about my struggles and has helped me throughout the years, except for this.
Look…yes, it would be nice for your bf to regularly come to the gym with you, however, you can't just use him as a crutch. Yes, it's tough when you have self-esteem issues, yes, it's tough when you have a traumatic past….but if this still has such a big impact on your day-to-day life…..maybe you need to consider having more professional support.
Have you got friends you could go to the gym with weekly?
. I am also worried about other women approaching him while hes there, as hes a tall attractive man.
Are you also afraid your bf is being approached at work? At the bank? In the supermarket? Even if he does get approached, he will just say that he's not interested.
My dude, this is not how most people with mental health issues behave. This sounds more like a brain damage thing to me. Not saying that to be mean, but when she's 22 years old and behaves like
she started to hit her legs and head and pulling her own hair.
she lost it. she said she will jump out the door and proceeded to do it after refusing to put her seatbelt back on. as she open the door on the highway
she can often turn erratic and violent when angry/upset.
Then she's clearly not 22 years old mentally. More like 3, and even that's a stretch because most 3 year Olds would not behave like this normally.
It sounds like she went because charity is her passion and it has nothing to do with the guy. And she brought you along to the event too.
I would suggest working on yourself and your self esteem. Getting a fertility diagnosis can really impacts one’s confidence. Perhaps talk to a therapist on how to navigate these complex emotions.
Well in the time it took you to write this post you could do a chore. Also when you see a messy bed then make it. When your hungry then make a meal. And when you see an empty fridge go buy some groceries. Simple.
I wouldn't say it was a “decision” to lie exactly, but you're not wrong. I'm really ashamed that I lied and while I do have reasons for it (based on past behaviour) that doesn't make it anywhere near ok.
You’re not getting her back, and you shouldn’t. Sometimes the lessons you learn when you mess up isn’t going to save your current relationship. But if you actually change your ways you may not loose the next relationship as well.
No they don’t – Not In SEA countries , getting a part time job and paying the bills while on moms is not doable. Part time work here pays pennies- I’m not kidding I have a “part time” job and it pays me $218 a month . I work night shifts ( 50 hrs a week )- and study live until I go to uni later this year and even this is possible coz my parents support me financially and I’m in my early twenties.
Things just aren’t that simple here. Our exams are incredibly tough put that together with our huge population the competition is insane , only the best and those who have the space and time to study get in.
Op is better off reverse threatening the dad. Also Op is expected to look after the parents in their old age so his money would go to that too
Read closely. They had sex. They talked about it. But then she ghosted him when it was time to set up second ‘eeting. Thats ghosting. This aint about the friend. I just wanted a direct answer to my question
My statements remain relevant. Regardless of whether she is in a LDR or long-term relationship, she is still cheating and you are still helping her cheat.
If anything it is worse. You are being used for physical companionship, physical intimacy, emotional support, etc. You're doing all the things her bf would be doing if they were in the same city. The only reason why she'd doing them with you is because they're LDR and you continuously make yourself available for her.
Red Flag.
Delete Her.
She is only saying this now as her new boy toy isn’t cutting it…. Heck no!!!! She must lie in the bed she made…. With someone else.
What do his quarterly ejaculation reports say?
I thinks she already watched YOU and is borrowing the plot.
I am not surprised at all that the peanut masquerading as a functional brain interpreted my comment in that way.
Since it’s an unplanned pregnancy and the reason you didn’t replace your birth control is due to cost, I’m not sure why your surprised that your bf is not happy about it.
If you’re barely keeping it together financially as it is how does the idea of an extra kid not make you feel uncomfortable?
He may come around when the baby actually arrives but if I were him I would have a sour attitude too – a combination of annoyance at both of you for putting yourselves in this position and at the additional financial burden this baby will entail.
Highschool is over and so is your relationship.
It’s a lot of money to spend to not have a good time! Maybe try talking to your sister about how she’s acting and why she feels so strongly about your bf. I don’t have a great relationship with my sister and I don’t wish the toxic BS on anyone.
You can always get an abortion and said it was a false positive or you had a miscarriage.
But… I think you should dump him. I really hate guys who don’t wear condom.
I ghosted men for way less that that. Once a guy complaint about wearing a condom (he lost his ere.tion and blamed on the condom) … I never saw him again. Because if during the first time he said that, I bet he would try without soon or later.
Second: he may have get you pregnant on purpose. I’m sorry, but he may want to trap you or get a child with you and used the condom as an excuse to do it, specially if he thinks you’re not that into him.
Get an abortion and run. Soon and fast.
I have lots of self esteem issues due to dealing with a very traumatic past relationship and an ab*sive home life that i can working on daily to over come, but it is a slow process. He knows about my struggles and has helped me throughout the years, except for this.
Look…yes, it would be nice for your bf to regularly come to the gym with you, however, you can't just use him as a crutch. Yes, it's tough when you have self-esteem issues, yes, it's tough when you have a traumatic past….but if this still has such a big impact on your day-to-day life…..maybe you need to consider having more professional support.
Have you got friends you could go to the gym with weekly?
. I am also worried about other women approaching him while hes there, as hes a tall attractive man.
Are you also afraid your bf is being approached at work? At the bank? In the supermarket? Even if he does get approached, he will just say that he's not interested.
And shes a liar
My dude, this is not how most people with mental health issues behave. This sounds more like a brain damage thing to me. Not saying that to be mean, but when she's 22 years old and behaves like
she started to hit her legs and head and pulling her own hair.
she lost it. she said she will jump out the door and proceeded to do it after refusing to put her seatbelt back on. as she open the door on the highway
she can often turn erratic and violent when angry/upset.
Then she's clearly not 22 years old mentally. More like 3, and even that's a stretch because most 3 year Olds would not behave like this normally.
It sounds like she went because charity is her passion and it has nothing to do with the guy. And she brought you along to the event too.
I would suggest working on yourself and your self esteem. Getting a fertility diagnosis can really impacts one’s confidence. Perhaps talk to a therapist on how to navigate these complex emotions.
You are not compatible. Would be incredibly foolish to stay in this relationship.
Dude don’t even stress yourself out . Just find a girl who’s single and knows what she wants ( easier said then done ) but less headache/heart ache
Well in the time it took you to write this post you could do a chore. Also when you see a messy bed then make it. When your hungry then make a meal. And when you see an empty fridge go buy some groceries. Simple.
I wouldn't say it was a “decision” to lie exactly, but you're not wrong. I'm really ashamed that I lied and while I do have reasons for it (based on past behaviour) that doesn't make it anywhere near ok.
You’re not getting her back, and you shouldn’t. Sometimes the lessons you learn when you mess up isn’t going to save your current relationship. But if you actually change your ways you may not loose the next relationship as well.
This guy is a creep stay away
No they don’t – Not In SEA countries , getting a part time job and paying the bills while on moms is not doable. Part time work here pays pennies- I’m not kidding I have a “part time” job and it pays me $218 a month . I work night shifts ( 50 hrs a week )- and study live until I go to uni later this year and even this is possible coz my parents support me financially and I’m in my early twenties.
Things just aren’t that simple here. Our exams are incredibly tough put that together with our huge population the competition is insane , only the best and those who have the space and time to study get in.
Op is better off reverse threatening the dad. Also Op is expected to look after the parents in their old age so his money would go to that too
Sadie had to be told.
She could not possibly be asked to consent to a marriage without knowing this.
Read closely. They had sex. They talked about it. But then she ghosted him when it was time to set up second ‘eeting. Thats ghosting. This aint about the friend. I just wanted a direct answer to my question
Can y'all leave me alone already I get it
There’s usually more than one if it’s a big enough store.
Cool! What are you going to do about it?
My statements remain relevant. Regardless of whether she is in a LDR or long-term relationship, she is still cheating and you are still helping her cheat.
If anything it is worse. You are being used for physical companionship, physical intimacy, emotional support, etc. You're doing all the things her bf would be doing if they were in the same city. The only reason why she'd doing them with you is because they're LDR and you continuously make yourself available for her.
Know your worth!