Haha trueâno, no physical compliments. Just some kind parting words basically. I just canât figure out if Iâm muddying up a clean breakup (our lives donât overlap at all, hence the breakup, I will be very surprised if I ever see him again). Or if this is just a nice thing to do and more people should follow a breakup with saying nice things about each other and wishing each other well.
What was his response when you said your sister or mom could watch the kids? They would do the exact same thing that âAshleyâ does and allow him the same luxuries heâs looking for.
Also, a 27 year old local baby sitter who is not doing anything in the morning? Wtf? Who is this person? Why is someone nearing 30 doing this?
I appreciate the response. I should clarify that I am in a serious relationship. Honestly the thought of either telling my girlfriend that my ex wants to meet for coffee, or not telling her and just going for the meet, both sound awful and exhausting
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I did tell her. I sent her a voice message saying that I was going to the club but it didn't go through. Even after showing her that I sent it, she felt like I must've done something to make it appear as if I sent her this message beforethe accusations.
Friends don't do this. Friends don't sabatoge happiness because they don't like someone & if she doesn't open her eyes to see that, I'm not sure how long me and her “friend” can last in the same circle.
The video is real. Josh did these things. You even confirmed with the clothing and shit. He's lying to you.
The kid is fake. It's a common scam. Someone posing as some woman catfishes your husband, your husband sends nudes, then “her dad” comes on and says that he sent nudes to a minor and that he'll contact the police and/or send the nudes to everyone he knows, unless he pays for silence. There was no minor, there is no dad, there is no crime, just a scammer running a common scheme.
Oooh that will be fun when he disappears for three days and you and the baby donât know where he is. You are not marrying this guy so just end it and tell him sometimes the timing just isnât right. Clearly he knows this too as proven by his up and down behavior
Sit and talk with him. Jesus. Don't have a kid if it's just to help you feel better or appease your boyfriend. Have a kid because both of you want to have a kid and want to raise it for the next 20 years and want to support a child and guide it through life to be the most successful that it can be. Don't have a child for selfish reasons.
That really really sucks, man. It will be harder to just drop her because of your lack of other relationships, but you will definitely be better for it. I donât blame you if you talk to her again. I probably would have at your age, because I was a sucker. Donât be a sucker. You will absolutely find someone who would never do that to you. If you go back to her you will never forget that moment. You probably wont be able to trust her. So I highly recommend just donât go there.
Ya no excuse for that kind of behavior whatsoever. I know it sucks but this is an easy fix in terms of staying friends. Itâll be awkward for a bit but you just be honest say that your feelings are hurt and that this wonât work out going forward but you wish her the best and that you still want to remain civil for all the friendships you share
By the way, your boyfriend doesnât love you nobody that loves you treat use treat you like this. Where are you at where you actually believe that. The only thing is missing from this is him getting money for it.
Get over yourself. His relationship with his mom is his business. My dad was abusive to me for a chunk of my life. I finally just went low contact. My wife occasionally will say something along the lines to try to repair the relationship, and I tell her to butt out. She doesn't get to tell me how I feel. I don't understand how people think it's OK to project how they want their family dynamics onto others or their partner. Stay in your own lane.
This doesnât sound like a suicide attempt, it sounds like a manipulation tactic. It sounds like you know exactly what you need to do. Use all of this evidence to ensure he doesnât get any sort of custody at all. A person who will crash their car in an attempt to get your attention could harm a baby for the same reason.
If everyone is not 100% on board before it happens, it will destroy every relationship involved.
You and husband need to sit down and discuss expectations, concerns, hard lines, safe words, etc. If you both can come to an agreement you're both comfortable with, then only then do you approach someone else and have the same discussion with them to get them on the same page also.
Ask her if she is in the process of ghosting you. Tell her that, if she doesn't to continye your thing you will accept it, but you hoped she would care about you enough to not lie to you like that.
If she denues, ask uf she is “cheating” on you. Even if she denies both (and definitely should she confirm them) you should probably break up sith her. Tell her you are considering it, if she tries to stop you, ask of her to come to meet you asap. No excuses, if she needs to cancel some plans, then so be it.
If she refuses, or agrees, but fails to arrive, just message her you break up with her, and then you move on with your life. Perhaps block her as well.
If she comes to meet you, demand answers fir her behaviour. Tell her you have no interest in lies or excuses. Tell her she either tells you truth, or you should end things then and there likw civilised people.
Why would you want to do that? Heâs already aware that he is bigger and it seems like heâs trying a lot to work out. And he listens to your advice it seems. Why would you want to make him feel bad about his body instead of encouraging his progress? What would that achieve? Just support him and try to create an environment that makes it easier to be healthy!
These things happen to people. If he commits to changing this, goes to rehab etc. I don't see why someone who proclaims they love him shouldn't give him another chance. Your life partner is supposed to be there to support you and prop you up in time of hardship.
They've been together for 14 years, and people are suggesting to just break up and leave, because of what is arguably a disease (coke addiction). Bottom line is commitment means nothing to a lot of people and they would like to turn the whole world to fit their hedonistic degenerate view. Be ashamed of yourselves.
Ok, here's my take. With one exception, I agree with the others this is odd, but I'm curious about how long have you've been together. The sub requires it, but it also might impact my answer.
The exception has to do with why she didn't know you'd been there with a gf. I assume she knew you'd been there, but you never said with whom and she never asked. It's just nude for me to picture putting together these long distance plans, with you mentioning “we” did this and that, and your travel companion not being brought up at all.
Sorry for the word vomit, but I guess I'm thinking if you haven't been together long, this might make a bit more sense.
Personally, I would go with my gut. Your instincts are there to protect you for a reason.
Who wouldn't invite their wives or girlfriend's to a work party? Chester's,that's who.
Lol
Haha trueâno, no physical compliments. Just some kind parting words basically. I just canât figure out if Iâm muddying up a clean breakup (our lives donât overlap at all, hence the breakup, I will be very surprised if I ever see him again). Or if this is just a nice thing to do and more people should follow a breakup with saying nice things about each other and wishing each other well.
What was his response when you said your sister or mom could watch the kids? They would do the exact same thing that âAshleyâ does and allow him the same luxuries heâs looking for.
Also, a 27 year old local baby sitter who is not doing anything in the morning? Wtf? Who is this person? Why is someone nearing 30 doing this?
Many anti depressants actually have âinability to orgasmâ as one of their side effectsâŚ
Ill keep this in mind!
I appreciate the response. I should clarify that I am in a serious relationship. Honestly the thought of either telling my girlfriend that my ex wants to meet for coffee, or not telling her and just going for the meet, both sound awful and exhausting
dang ur bitchless
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He was so against cheating yet he did the same. Where's the punishment for him? OP deserves alot better.
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Thanks! Everyone's been so rude around here.
Ding ding! Oh look, itâs ânew girlfriend timeâ!
Yep, if getting fired is not enough motivation for him to get up then nothing will.
I did tell her. I sent her a voice message saying that I was going to the club but it didn't go through. Even after showing her that I sent it, she felt like I must've done something to make it appear as if I sent her this message beforethe accusations.
Friends don't do this. Friends don't sabatoge happiness because they don't like someone & if she doesn't open her eyes to see that, I'm not sure how long me and her “friend” can last in the same circle.
The video is real. Josh did these things. You even confirmed with the clothing and shit. He's lying to you.
The kid is fake. It's a common scam. Someone posing as some woman catfishes your husband, your husband sends nudes, then “her dad” comes on and says that he sent nudes to a minor and that he'll contact the police and/or send the nudes to everyone he knows, unless he pays for silence. There was no minor, there is no dad, there is no crime, just a scammer running a common scheme.
Bro, you deserve better than this. Contact a lawyer and start taking steps to move on with your life. You deserve to be loved loyally and fully.
âŹď¸âŹď¸âŹď¸ i second this!!!
Oooh that will be fun when he disappears for three days and you and the baby donât know where he is. You are not marrying this guy so just end it and tell him sometimes the timing just isnât right. Clearly he knows this too as proven by his up and down behavior
Sit and talk with him. Jesus. Don't have a kid if it's just to help you feel better or appease your boyfriend. Have a kid because both of you want to have a kid and want to raise it for the next 20 years and want to support a child and guide it through life to be the most successful that it can be. Don't have a child for selfish reasons.
That really really sucks, man. It will be harder to just drop her because of your lack of other relationships, but you will definitely be better for it. I donât blame you if you talk to her again. I probably would have at your age, because I was a sucker. Donât be a sucker. You will absolutely find someone who would never do that to you. If you go back to her you will never forget that moment. You probably wont be able to trust her. So I highly recommend just donât go there.
Ya no excuse for that kind of behavior whatsoever. I know it sucks but this is an easy fix in terms of staying friends. Itâll be awkward for a bit but you just be honest say that your feelings are hurt and that this wonât work out going forward but you wish her the best and that you still want to remain civil for all the friendships you share
Back rubs dude? Really? Youâre fantasizing a whole relationship with her.. that doesnât gross you out?
By the way, your boyfriend doesnât love you nobody that loves you treat use treat you like this. Where are you at where you actually believe that. The only thing is missing from this is him getting money for it.
Get over yourself. His relationship with his mom is his business. My dad was abusive to me for a chunk of my life. I finally just went low contact. My wife occasionally will say something along the lines to try to repair the relationship, and I tell her to butt out. She doesn't get to tell me how I feel. I don't understand how people think it's OK to project how they want their family dynamics onto others or their partner. Stay in your own lane.
So, you asked her out, she acted interested and the moment you took a nap she fucked your friend?
That would be a big no from me.
This doesnât sound like a suicide attempt, it sounds like a manipulation tactic. It sounds like you know exactly what you need to do. Use all of this evidence to ensure he doesnât get any sort of custody at all. A person who will crash their car in an attempt to get your attention could harm a baby for the same reason.
No. His asks are absurd. Just do what youâre comfortable with.
Ooh, I need another Dramione fic, drop the title OP!
Then make a decision with the idea heâs not involved when he canât even give his opinion. Do YOU want a child or not.
I donât want to get married tomorrow ? But it means more to me but he is on the same page as you
If everyone is not 100% on board before it happens, it will destroy every relationship involved.
You and husband need to sit down and discuss expectations, concerns, hard lines, safe words, etc. If you both can come to an agreement you're both comfortable with, then only then do you approach someone else and have the same discussion with them to get them on the same page also.
Ask her if she is in the process of ghosting you. Tell her that, if she doesn't to continye your thing you will accept it, but you hoped she would care about you enough to not lie to you like that.
If she denues, ask uf she is “cheating” on you. Even if she denies both (and definitely should she confirm them) you should probably break up sith her. Tell her you are considering it, if she tries to stop you, ask of her to come to meet you asap. No excuses, if she needs to cancel some plans, then so be it.
If she refuses, or agrees, but fails to arrive, just message her you break up with her, and then you move on with your life. Perhaps block her as well.
If she comes to meet you, demand answers fir her behaviour. Tell her you have no interest in lies or excuses. Tell her she either tells you truth, or you should end things then and there likw civilised people.
Why would you want to do that? Heâs already aware that he is bigger and it seems like heâs trying a lot to work out. And he listens to your advice it seems. Why would you want to make him feel bad about his body instead of encouraging his progress? What would that achieve? Just support him and try to create an environment that makes it easier to be healthy!
These things happen to people. If he commits to changing this, goes to rehab etc. I don't see why someone who proclaims they love him shouldn't give him another chance. Your life partner is supposed to be there to support you and prop you up in time of hardship.
They've been together for 14 years, and people are suggesting to just break up and leave, because of what is arguably a disease (coke addiction). Bottom line is commitment means nothing to a lot of people and they would like to turn the whole world to fit their hedonistic degenerate view. Be ashamed of yourselves.
Ok, here's my take. With one exception, I agree with the others this is odd, but I'm curious about how long have you've been together. The sub requires it, but it also might impact my answer.
The exception has to do with why she didn't know you'd been there with a gf. I assume she knew you'd been there, but you never said with whom and she never asked. It's just nude for me to picture putting together these long distance plans, with you mentioning “we” did this and that, and your travel companion not being brought up at all.
Sorry for the word vomit, but I guess I'm thinking if you haven't been together long, this might make a bit more sense.