The reasons she gave are called codependency and anxious attachment, which will make anyone feel miserable in a relationship. She needs to work on communication and boundary setting.
I know reddit can be quick to say “end things” and i'm sure you must love and cherish your partner very much.
But based on your updates, I don't see a way in which you both can meet halfway without one of you becoming resentful, you are just not compatible in ways that are fundamental to a relationship.
It's okay to break up a relationship because of sexual incompatibility, a big part of a relationship is sex. Most of the situations you described are deal breakers for most people. I feel bad saying this but it's best to cut your loses and move on.
Unfortunately you’re right. I should know by now that people/partners don’t change unless they want to. And I would definitely agree that he is emotionally unavailable. I’m hesitant to bring up therapy because that seems like such a huge deal for a relationship that is seemingly shallow. I would be open to it but I have the feeling he’d not be interested at all, and would just want to stay comfortable where he is. Thanks for your response
You can’t be considering that you might be ableist because you can’t tolerate verbal abuse, you’re 24 and write like you have sense. All of the shit your bf is saying is bullshit. I take care of people with disabilities. If he was autistic to the point that he was verbally attacking anyone because society at large has to maintain his mood regulation, he would be placed in a group home upon diagnosis. Who diagnosed him? What treatments does he follow besides yelling at you? So he’s unable to work or be out in public without screaming at people? My advice is to get away for a few days to think about this relationship and the odd things you believe.
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The reasons she gave are called codependency and anxious attachment, which will make anyone feel miserable in a relationship. She needs to work on communication and boundary setting.
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They're having phone sex
I know reddit can be quick to say “end things” and i'm sure you must love and cherish your partner very much.
But based on your updates, I don't see a way in which you both can meet halfway without one of you becoming resentful, you are just not compatible in ways that are fundamental to a relationship.
It's okay to break up a relationship because of sexual incompatibility, a big part of a relationship is sex. Most of the situations you described are deal breakers for most people. I feel bad saying this but it's best to cut your loses and move on.
Unfortunately you’re right. I should know by now that people/partners don’t change unless they want to. And I would definitely agree that he is emotionally unavailable. I’m hesitant to bring up therapy because that seems like such a huge deal for a relationship that is seemingly shallow. I would be open to it but I have the feeling he’d not be interested at all, and would just want to stay comfortable where he is. Thanks for your response
You can’t be considering that you might be ableist because you can’t tolerate verbal abuse, you’re 24 and write like you have sense. All of the shit your bf is saying is bullshit. I take care of people with disabilities. If he was autistic to the point that he was verbally attacking anyone because society at large has to maintain his mood regulation, he would be placed in a group home upon diagnosis. Who diagnosed him? What treatments does he follow besides yelling at you? So he’s unable to work or be out in public without screaming at people? My advice is to get away for a few days to think about this relationship and the odd things you believe.