Very unacceptable. I told my ex bf once that he needs to wear deodorant and not just cologne. He realized immediately that it was good advice and we never even had to talk about it again.
I don't think so personally, why isn't it a good sign? My father works with film directors and worked as a Builder until he was 32, and then pursued that path in his early 30's and now he's living his dream. I'm supporting him on his dreams, I don't think him pursuing being an actor at 30 after various jobs in his 20's is bad, as I told him, Norman Reedus didn't become an actor until he was 30, hell I can't speak, especially considering I left school at 16 and have worked in a chip shop since.
I took a step back in June after 6 months of secretly liking him, I didn't see him the entirety of June/July and really missed him, he missed me too, we get on great. Should I take another step back?
I mean I've had him on this pedestal for the past 12 months since the moment I met him, and he has me on one too. Should I really sacrifice this relationship over the idea he might fall of that pedestal one day? what if he's the perfect guy for me and I run from him over the fear of whatever and I end up with another guy like my ex who emotionally manipulates me, controls me and doesn't let me on-line? My ex would tell me not to go to a concert as guys will be there, this guy buys me a ticket and wants to see me happy.
Why don’t you just the wife why she asked you that? You’ve been friends for a while, see what she says. She asked. You declined. I don’t see why this has to be a friendship ending situation.
I don’t know that you should pursue the ex, but I do think you should let your current bf go regardless. You obviously have doubts and are not as committed to him as you may want to be, and it’s kind of a waste of both of your time to continue. If you live with him but still think about the possibilities of someone else like this, then you’re probably never going to really be satisfied with him. Even if things don’t work out with your ex, you may find someone you feel being with is less settling or that leads to less “grass is greener” thinking.
Someone can be a good partner and still not be a partner that’s right for you, at least not at the present moment.
So you discussed it, both decided monogamous, and now she is changing her mind.
So either she’s lied to you your entire relationship, to try to get you ‘hooked’ so she could introduce it later and basically have her cake (you) and eat it too (sex with anyone who walks past)
Or she has realised that what she wanted at the beginning is no longer what she needs.
Unfortunately unless you are wanting to open the relationship, and have a non monogamous relationship with her both options end the same way – the end of the relationship.
Defend your self-worth, you are perfect as you are and your partner that truly cares for you will display that.
This is not how you want to invest your mental health into, do yourself a favor; save yourself some doctor money for the more serious stuff.
Maturity and being relationship ready on her end equals to a big fat N.O.
Keep trekking.
Very unacceptable. I told my ex bf once that he needs to wear deodorant and not just cologne. He realized immediately that it was good advice and we never even had to talk about it again.
Don’t be sorry, thank you for commenting. I’m sure they’re separated but he does have one other partner and he’s been very open about it.
I don't think so personally, why isn't it a good sign? My father works with film directors and worked as a Builder until he was 32, and then pursued that path in his early 30's and now he's living his dream. I'm supporting him on his dreams, I don't think him pursuing being an actor at 30 after various jobs in his 20's is bad, as I told him, Norman Reedus didn't become an actor until he was 30, hell I can't speak, especially considering I left school at 16 and have worked in a chip shop since.
I took a step back in June after 6 months of secretly liking him, I didn't see him the entirety of June/July and really missed him, he missed me too, we get on great. Should I take another step back?
I mean I've had him on this pedestal for the past 12 months since the moment I met him, and he has me on one too. Should I really sacrifice this relationship over the idea he might fall of that pedestal one day? what if he's the perfect guy for me and I run from him over the fear of whatever and I end up with another guy like my ex who emotionally manipulates me, controls me and doesn't let me on-line? My ex would tell me not to go to a concert as guys will be there, this guy buys me a ticket and wants to see me happy.
Why don’t you just the wife why she asked you that? You’ve been friends for a while, see what she says. She asked. You declined. I don’t see why this has to be a friendship ending situation.
I don’t know that you should pursue the ex, but I do think you should let your current bf go regardless. You obviously have doubts and are not as committed to him as you may want to be, and it’s kind of a waste of both of your time to continue. If you live with him but still think about the possibilities of someone else like this, then you’re probably never going to really be satisfied with him. Even if things don’t work out with your ex, you may find someone you feel being with is less settling or that leads to less “grass is greener” thinking.
Someone can be a good partner and still not be a partner that’s right for you, at least not at the present moment.
So you discussed it, both decided monogamous, and now she is changing her mind.
So either she’s lied to you your entire relationship, to try to get you ‘hooked’ so she could introduce it later and basically have her cake (you) and eat it too (sex with anyone who walks past)
Or she has realised that what she wanted at the beginning is no longer what she needs.
Unfortunately unless you are wanting to open the relationship, and have a non monogamous relationship with her both options end the same way – the end of the relationship.
I didn’t cheat. I’m not in their relationship and don’t owe that guy shit. If he wasn’t such a loser his wife would not have come running into my arms