That's just it. Up until this big confrontation yesterday and her baffling reaction, I was willing to look past his ridiculous mom because I thought the future will eventually be just the two of us sharing a life. We weren't gonna get married until he get a wedding property for us and he move out of there. BUT now I'm seriously reconsidering this whole relationship because I don't ever want to be involved with a MIL that shows so little respect and reacts so poorly to a conversation.
Do you believe he might have a mental illness of some kind? Or perhaps that he is neurodivergent?
This level of commitment to a specific cause is not necessarily pathological, but the extreme disrespect for the impact on you of how he tries to achieve his goal suggest it is something he is not equipped to control even if he wanted to.
Do you think he would rather divorce you than talk about this issue in a calm and respectful manner?
Contact your apartment administration and ask if they have another unit ready for lease. If you like it ask if you can get a week of overlap to move. Don't tell him anything until it's all lined up.
The week you have two apartments you move ASAP. Try to do it in one day, without his knowledge. Don't tell him where you are going. Just say your current apartment needs to be emptied by Sunday and make him sign a notice, as advised by others.
This way you don't need to deal with him during this time when the apartment needs to be vacated. Both of you leave this apartment at the same time with the least amount of friction.
Personally I would pay extra for this solution. Best of luck!
If it was me I’d cook all the foods he hates, put on tv he hates and just live! my life knowing he can’t say anything about it while he’s being a child.
Where in the UK? This is awful, good luck. You need a break
Or she truly didn’t think this was a big deal?
But I totally agree it’s time to get away. Run OP!
I'm working on getting help currently
That's just it. Up until this big confrontation yesterday and her baffling reaction, I was willing to look past his ridiculous mom because I thought the future will eventually be just the two of us sharing a life. We weren't gonna get married until he get a wedding property for us and he move out of there. BUT now I'm seriously reconsidering this whole relationship because I don't ever want to be involved with a MIL that shows so little respect and reacts so poorly to a conversation.
Geez sorry to hear, I sympathise with OP on the high sex drive but I lack that godlike charisma XD
You can lead a horse to water, however you cannot make them drink.
Your boyfriend will only be able to change when HE wants to change.
It doesn't look very promising.
If his weed use and other issues are a deal-breaker for you, then that's okay. You can walk away knowing you gave ample time and were patient.
Do you believe he might have a mental illness of some kind? Or perhaps that he is neurodivergent?
This level of commitment to a specific cause is not necessarily pathological, but the extreme disrespect for the impact on you of how he tries to achieve his goal suggest it is something he is not equipped to control even if he wanted to.
Do you think he would rather divorce you than talk about this issue in a calm and respectful manner?
Since you want a break-up I would:
Contact your apartment administration and ask if they have another unit ready for lease. If you like it ask if you can get a week of overlap to move. Don't tell him anything until it's all lined up.
The week you have two apartments you move ASAP. Try to do it in one day, without his knowledge. Don't tell him where you are going. Just say your current apartment needs to be emptied by Sunday and make him sign a notice, as advised by others.
This way you don't need to deal with him during this time when the apartment needs to be vacated. Both of you leave this apartment at the same time with the least amount of friction.
Personally I would pay extra for this solution. Best of luck!
If it was me I’d cook all the foods he hates, put on tv he hates and just live! my life knowing he can’t say anything about it while he’s being a child.
Have you guys talked about this?