I knew you worked on the letter for weeks but it just seem weird that you knowing your gf, having a short attention span, absent-minded etc., expect her to read it.
Does she always read letters? Is she even the reading type?
I know of people proposing to their partners via everyday common activities, because that is a sure way that the partner will be involved in the activity and be surprised by the proposal.
(that may be fast for some people but it feels natural in our relationship)
Have you and your gf talked about marriage, living together etc.? What is her take on it?
Their partner actively did things the OP did not want/like, like a public proposal and big dinner. I like the sounds of the dinner but a public proposal is a big no no for me.
It sounds like he made an exception before and didn’t feel pressured to break his boundaries again because he’s comfortable with you. This isn’t going backwards, it’s him feeling comfortable in the limits he’s clearly communicated to you. If you want a midnight kiss then take him away from your family. It’s a very easy compromise where you could have gotten your kiss and he didn’t need to be made uncomfortable.
My thoughts are that if you stay, understand that she is not going to stop. You’re telling her that regardless of what she does, you’ll not do anything about it.
Nothing needy about this at all. Just keep it simple – “the feelings I have towards you are the type of feelings I reserve for people I'm in an exclusive, defined relationship with. Totally respect that you don't feel the same way – if you change your mind I'd love to discuss, but this is where I'm at and this is what I need to continue”.
They LOVE to spin the “needy” angle. Cool, fine. Be needy, there's nothing wrong with having needs – and bouncing when they aren't met!
She wasn't joking, that's not something you joke about.
Hate to said it, but she likely already has one in the pipe ready to go. May have even already cheated and just feels guilty so is trying to justify it.
Don't go against your morals just because some plebs on Reddit want to absolve all women of all accountability.
This is the dumbest comment I've ever seen lmfao. People really need to have those kinds of conversations before they get married and find out their values/parenting styles don't align because of their respective faith/atheistic views.
I'm an atheist and would never, EVER date/marry someone who's religious and it's definitely something I always bring up on the first date lol.
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I knew you worked on the letter for weeks but it just seem weird that you knowing your gf, having a short attention span, absent-minded etc., expect her to read it.
Does she always read letters? Is she even the reading type?
I know of people proposing to their partners via everyday common activities, because that is a sure way that the partner will be involved in the activity and be surprised by the proposal.
(that may be fast for some people but it feels natural in our relationship)
Have you and your gf talked about marriage, living together etc.? What is her take on it?
Their partner actively did things the OP did not want/like, like a public proposal and big dinner. I like the sounds of the dinner but a public proposal is a big no no for me.
It sounds like he made an exception before and didn’t feel pressured to break his boundaries again because he’s comfortable with you. This isn’t going backwards, it’s him feeling comfortable in the limits he’s clearly communicated to you. If you want a midnight kiss then take him away from your family. It’s a very easy compromise where you could have gotten your kiss and he didn’t need to be made uncomfortable.
Yea definitely up to you where/when you draw the line
Wait, is she your half-cousin or your half-niece? You say both.
You apparently don’t know how to read because she said “we met when I was 18” in the post.
Why do you need to trust him? You have not need to trust her. Unless you think he'll rape her?
No matter how you dress it up you obviously don't trust her. If she wanted to cheat with him she could, she doesn't need to be driven home.
My thoughts are that if you stay, understand that she is not going to stop. You’re telling her that regardless of what she does, you’ll not do anything about it.
Nothing needy about this at all. Just keep it simple – “the feelings I have towards you are the type of feelings I reserve for people I'm in an exclusive, defined relationship with. Totally respect that you don't feel the same way – if you change your mind I'd love to discuss, but this is where I'm at and this is what I need to continue”.
They LOVE to spin the “needy” angle. Cool, fine. Be needy, there's nothing wrong with having needs – and bouncing when they aren't met!
She wasn't joking, that's not something you joke about.
Hate to said it, but she likely already has one in the pipe ready to go. May have even already cheated and just feels guilty so is trying to justify it.
Don't go against your morals just because some plebs on Reddit want to absolve all women of all accountability.
This is the dumbest comment I've ever seen lmfao. People really need to have those kinds of conversations before they get married and find out their values/parenting styles don't align because of their respective faith/atheistic views.
I'm an atheist and would never, EVER date/marry someone who's religious and it's definitely something I always bring up on the first date lol.
Can you get an eye patch? I'm sure you could get one at a pharmacy.
1) It covers your eye and you can just say you've got s bit of an ugly shiner for whatever reason.
2) if you get a black one, it will not look too bad. Hell, style yourself appropriately and you'll look like a fancy villain.