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Neither of you should be bringing any side pieces around your kid unless you’re both CRYSTAL clear on boundaries such as no parenting by partner, no meaningful interaction between child and partner, no gifts for child from partner. I agree calling the man uncle could circumvent some awkwardness of your lifestyle getting out at her school but regardless y’all were extremely irresponsible allowing your extra curriculars into your home around your child. Go to a motel or their houses if you want to bang so badly. Your child has no place in your sex life.
Get over it or move on. This is on you, not her. You’re entitled to feel how you feel, but if you let it affect the relationship then you’re the issue.
Your FIL needs to respect your decision. But I hope you both are ready to accept your child’s decision if they ever decide to change their last name. I hope you don’t forget this moment if you’re ever put into the shoes the FIL is wearing right now.
When it comes down to it, what's the difference? They're both illegal. Puberty can happen naturally between 9 and 14 generally. So if you're going after a 12 year old who has already started puberty, you're still disgusting and breaking the law. Does it REALLY need to be gone over with a fine-toothed comb? Does it help anyone to clarify that he's probably not actually a pedophile, but a hebephile?
If she even wants a thing to do with you, you can always grow up, act like an adult and go meet her. Tell her face to face like a man that you don’t appreciate threats of self harm and that you don’t respect people who don’t value their life enough to offer it in haste (which is likely her being an exaggerating drama Queen anyhow). That is, if she even still wants to meet you. I mean if it was me, what you did, living by nonsense sentences invented just to sound witty would be a huge turn off for me. I don’t suffer stupidity gladly, and she may not either; except her kill herself comment was as ridiculous as yours so who knows, maybe you both are alike.
I will probably do this he gets out of practice in 50 minutes and I’ll probably send him that text at some point after that. I’m probably going to take my roommate with me as well.
That’s my only goal in this situation is to get healthy! I’m not where I should be health wise now, so I’m trying to fix it! I know my body will change, and so does he. We just needed to communicate things
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so an argument has him running to look at (IF NOT FIND) others on dating sites, “just to look”.
he didn't go any farther because NO ONE SWIPPED HIM????
Would he have gone out if someone would have connected with him?
Just the fact that he instantly went out and joined MORE THAN 1 dating site, over an argument is nasty.
He WANTS to cheat, he's setting it up to cheat, he went out to find someone to cheat with OVER AN ARGUMENT.
I don't trust it, no sir, not one bit.
Neither of you should be bringing any side pieces around your kid unless you’re both CRYSTAL clear on boundaries such as no parenting by partner, no meaningful interaction between child and partner, no gifts for child from partner. I agree calling the man uncle could circumvent some awkwardness of your lifestyle getting out at her school but regardless y’all were extremely irresponsible allowing your extra curriculars into your home around your child. Go to a motel or their houses if you want to bang so badly. Your child has no place in your sex life.
Get over it or move on. This is on you, not her. You’re entitled to feel how you feel, but if you let it affect the relationship then you’re the issue.
Your FIL needs to respect your decision. But I hope you both are ready to accept your child’s decision if they ever decide to change their last name. I hope you don’t forget this moment if you’re ever put into the shoes the FIL is wearing right now.
Woah. Ditch this loser for someone who will actually respect you. That should be your bday present to yourself!
When it comes down to it, what's the difference? They're both illegal. Puberty can happen naturally between 9 and 14 generally. So if you're going after a 12 year old who has already started puberty, you're still disgusting and breaking the law. Does it REALLY need to be gone over with a fine-toothed comb? Does it help anyone to clarify that he's probably not actually a pedophile, but a hebephile?
You should share it, fast.
He's at an age where maybe he sees you in a relationship and happy and doesn't want to hinder your happiness with your Fiancé.
Never leave things unsaid and open to misunderstandings. Honesty is always 100% the best way.
Put that $100 into a Roth IRA instead and invest in your future.
Seriously.
Set one up tomorrow, it takes a week or so.
And put $100 into a Vanguard total stock index fund.
Invest in yourself first.
Theatre is full of melodrama, both on and off stage. If you don't fit in that cast, it probably has more to do with them than you.
If she even wants a thing to do with you, you can always grow up, act like an adult and go meet her. Tell her face to face like a man that you don’t appreciate threats of self harm and that you don’t respect people who don’t value their life enough to offer it in haste (which is likely her being an exaggerating drama Queen anyhow). That is, if she even still wants to meet you. I mean if it was me, what you did, living by nonsense sentences invented just to sound witty would be a huge turn off for me. I don’t suffer stupidity gladly, and she may not either; except her kill herself comment was as ridiculous as yours so who knows, maybe you both are alike.
I will probably do this he gets out of practice in 50 minutes and I’ll probably send him that text at some point after that. I’m probably going to take my roommate with me as well.
That’s my only goal in this situation is to get healthy! I’m not where I should be health wise now, so I’m trying to fix it! I know my body will change, and so does he. We just needed to communicate things