While you can’t change how you feel, that’s no excuse to act the way you do. Making unreasonable demands and getting into fights because boobs exist in his vicinity is absolutely not okay.
Your boyfriend also has issues that aren’t your fault here, and you both need to sort this stuff out in therapy. This relationship does not sound healthy at all.
You can tell him you’d prefer he be around for the anniversary (though why you’re not interested in being with him on his bday is a mystery), but don’t be upset if the trip happens over that day. You can celebrate another day.
B and I were already friends and fwb when we met E and tried a threesome and to be friends. stuff happened and I had to distance myself for my mental health. I saw them getting closer and I was going to leave, when B forced me into a relationship, which he cheated on me with E. we broke up in August 2021, they started dating in July. B broke up with E in march, moved in with me, and we started dating a week after when everything blew up.
B did all of that because I was putting all my mental issues on him, traumatizing him in the process, which I understand. he has issues being alone and she was there and he needed someone so he went along with what she wanted. Jan 2022 he told me they were talking and thinking of dating, so I believed they had just been dating for a few weeks when everything went down. he had told me it wasn't going to last and that he didn't want to work on it, which is why he started planning things with me, but I was against it cause I didn't want him to hurt her. I was wrong
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Just keep telling her she’s beautiful.
I’d feel the same way about my wife.
Tbh there could have been earlier signs, some resentment building etc. Seems odd that this was an issue, more likely he snapped.
That’s a decision only you can make. But I wouldn’t tolerate that behavior.
While you can’t change how you feel, that’s no excuse to act the way you do. Making unreasonable demands and getting into fights because boobs exist in his vicinity is absolutely not okay.
Your boyfriend also has issues that aren’t your fault here, and you both need to sort this stuff out in therapy. This relationship does not sound healthy at all.
Most guys aren’t interested in dating-versaries.
You can tell him you’d prefer he be around for the anniversary (though why you’re not interested in being with him on his bday is a mystery), but don’t be upset if the trip happens over that day. You can celebrate another day.
B and I were already friends and fwb when we met E and tried a threesome and to be friends. stuff happened and I had to distance myself for my mental health. I saw them getting closer and I was going to leave, when B forced me into a relationship, which he cheated on me with E. we broke up in August 2021, they started dating in July. B broke up with E in march, moved in with me, and we started dating a week after when everything blew up.
B did all of that because I was putting all my mental issues on him, traumatizing him in the process, which I understand. he has issues being alone and she was there and he needed someone so he went along with what she wanted. Jan 2022 he told me they were talking and thinking of dating, so I believed they had just been dating for a few weeks when everything went down. he had told me it wasn't going to last and that he didn't want to work on it, which is why he started planning things with me, but I was against it cause I didn't want him to hurt her. I was wrong
Why are you making this difficult. You guys got engaged at 8 months and you’re not compatible just move on
This “ADHD” excuse is complete BS. He’s just selfish in bed and/or sucks at it.
Fellow person with ADHD here and I completely agree with this. Whether or not my partner is experiencing pleasure is huge to me.
Did he know he was the father when he told you he wasn't?
The only thing that sounds ridiculous is that you’re putting up with it