Sad that she reacted defensively. All she needed to tell you is the real reason why she’s not doing it anymore and the issue would instantly die there.
I’m not a mind reader, so I can’t tell you what she’s thinking. My wildest guess is that she’s 29, “settled”, and just doesn’t want to bother that much anymore.
Does it bother you? No? Then let her be.
Is it really “grooming” anyway? It’s more of an aesthetical preference in my book. You can clean yourself thoroughly down there even if you never shave anything off. If she’s taking a shower every day and soaping up the bush properly, then everything’s fine.
You were a fool to open the relationship. Young and naive. Suggesting an open or poly relationship after you have established a monogamous one is a terrible idea and almost always leads to break up. Play stupid games get stupid prizes. Grow up and learn for this.
I saw the age difference in the title and I instantly knew that would be all everybody was talking about. This community is so predictable.
I got to say I'm impressed with your fiance still being this potent at his age though. I'm 15 years younger and already have a nude time keeping it up during sex.
That being said; it should be obvious that if you are not in the mood, you should not feel forced to have sex. Try communicating about this with your partner. Also; perhaps explain to him that it's okay to rub one out at the toilet if he just needs to get rid of an urge.
Well the fact of the matter is your friend thinks you betrayed her and can't trust you. No matter how you might want to “explain”, you pursued her ex and she ended up finding out from someone else. That tells her you tried to hide it. It's a harsh lesson, but I guess it's better to learn it now rather than later.
I mean it’s only a month deep. That’s basically peanuts. You’re way tooo invested in him. He’s not invested the same way you are. I’ve heard a lot of people say not to put all your eggs in one basket. You put all of your eggs in his basket and he’s putting his eggs in your basket, hers and maybe others. Now he has all of your eggs and you only have some of his. You should probably take some notes from his handbook to avoid disappointment in the future. And for the love of god I need y’all to stop treating your flings/new sparks like boyfriends/husbands.
She's not a slob she's just a little bit messier than me. You sound really immature and like you don't know what a healthy relationship looks like. I wish you the best and instead of insulting people you can work on yourself. It's not cool to control a woman and judge her based off on how clean she is. That's a really misogynistic and archaic way of thinking and I hope your animal brain can grow a little bit through knowledge
this is absolutely the best comment here. please stay safe, OP
Once is not on the regulator
She is being ridiculous. The baby's needs are greater than yours or hers.
Sad that she reacted defensively. All she needed to tell you is the real reason why she’s not doing it anymore and the issue would instantly die there.
I’m not a mind reader, so I can’t tell you what she’s thinking. My wildest guess is that she’s 29, “settled”, and just doesn’t want to bother that much anymore.
Does it bother you? No? Then let her be.
Is it really “grooming” anyway? It’s more of an aesthetical preference in my book. You can clean yourself thoroughly down there even if you never shave anything off. If she’s taking a shower every day and soaping up the bush properly, then everything’s fine.
You were a fool to open the relationship. Young and naive. Suggesting an open or poly relationship after you have established a monogamous one is a terrible idea and almost always leads to break up. Play stupid games get stupid prizes. Grow up and learn for this.
I saw the age difference in the title and I instantly knew that would be all everybody was talking about. This community is so predictable.
I got to say I'm impressed with your fiance still being this potent at his age though. I'm 15 years younger and already have a nude time keeping it up during sex.
That being said; it should be obvious that if you are not in the mood, you should not feel forced to have sex. Try communicating about this with your partner. Also; perhaps explain to him that it's okay to rub one out at the toilet if he just needs to get rid of an urge.
No. You should not be upset. You are 50 years old. You should be beyond petty shit like this.
Don't let your desperation for a relationship talk you out of your common sense.
This is not love.
He could be the one. Did he post them?
Well the fact of the matter is your friend thinks you betrayed her and can't trust you. No matter how you might want to “explain”, you pursued her ex and she ended up finding out from someone else. That tells her you tried to hide it. It's a harsh lesson, but I guess it's better to learn it now rather than later.
She also didn't tell you out of regret or remorse, she only told you to get ahead of someone blackmailing/seeking revenge against her.
Entirely self preservation with no consideration at all for the one she's supposed to love.
I mean it’s only a month deep. That’s basically peanuts. You’re way tooo invested in him. He’s not invested the same way you are. I’ve heard a lot of people say not to put all your eggs in one basket. You put all of your eggs in his basket and he’s putting his eggs in your basket, hers and maybe others. Now he has all of your eggs and you only have some of his. You should probably take some notes from his handbook to avoid disappointment in the future. And for the love of god I need y’all to stop treating your flings/new sparks like boyfriends/husbands.
She's not a slob she's just a little bit messier than me. You sound really immature and like you don't know what a healthy relationship looks like. I wish you the best and instead of insulting people you can work on yourself. It's not cool to control a woman and judge her based off on how clean she is. That's a really misogynistic and archaic way of thinking and I hope your animal brain can grow a little bit through knowledge