I'm the first person to come in here to say that you shouldn't shit where you eat. Despite what I say next, I fundamentally believe that's correct advice in almost all cases.
In saying that, it really depends on the context. If you want to shoot your shoot at a one night stand, then go ahead and do what you need to do. If not, then you're likely just wasting your time. You're not going to develop a long term relationship with someone you have zero foundation with where your arguments to the positive are that he gives you glances, smiles, and gives you greetings that professionals, and hell even just nice people, should give each other.
“Can I talk to you for a second in private?” Good luck.
I’m being dishonest about something in my chaos of feelings. When he did show he liked me at first and flirted a lot, I was scared to respond, so I ignored him a lot. For example, he would sit next to me at meetings and I would lean away. He saw me laughing and joking with another guy and he got jealous (mentioned above). Then he started flirting with the other girl after that. I would be extremely very hot and cold with him because of how he was flirting with her. I remember one time, he got mad at me after I changed my mind again because I didn’t want to compete with her but I hated them flirting. The last thing that happened was he tried to sit next to me at a restaurant we all went to and I moved away. This was in response to him mentioning her on the ride there. It was to the point where I was jealous no matter what because of the history. But now looking back, it looks like I was also playing games with him & he may have been sick of it and trying to move on with her. With this new info, what do you think?
Info: what is your definition of emotional cheating? I ask because some people consider it emotional cheating just to be friends with the opposite sex and have convos. For others, it means that they’re sexting and flirting and what not.
If things are otherwise good with your marriage, and if this is the very first time the “D” word has ever come up, you could tell her this is her one and only second chance ever. Ever. She has to understand that there is literally no third chance. Zero tolerance. Any other physical attack will be immediate divorce. She had to be crystal clear on this. Next time you will not hesitate.
You've had a lucky escape. He's jealous and controlling. You did nothing wrong.
Just cut ties, block him and stay out of it. Keep your moral crusade to yourself and move on with your life.
I'm the first person to come in here to say that you shouldn't shit where you eat. Despite what I say next, I fundamentally believe that's correct advice in almost all cases.
In saying that, it really depends on the context. If you want to shoot your shoot at a one night stand, then go ahead and do what you need to do. If not, then you're likely just wasting your time. You're not going to develop a long term relationship with someone you have zero foundation with where your arguments to the positive are that he gives you glances, smiles, and gives you greetings that professionals, and hell even just nice people, should give each other.
“Can I talk to you for a second in private?” Good luck.
I’m being dishonest about something in my chaos of feelings. When he did show he liked me at first and flirted a lot, I was scared to respond, so I ignored him a lot. For example, he would sit next to me at meetings and I would lean away. He saw me laughing and joking with another guy and he got jealous (mentioned above). Then he started flirting with the other girl after that. I would be extremely very hot and cold with him because of how he was flirting with her. I remember one time, he got mad at me after I changed my mind again because I didn’t want to compete with her but I hated them flirting. The last thing that happened was he tried to sit next to me at a restaurant we all went to and I moved away. This was in response to him mentioning her on the ride there. It was to the point where I was jealous no matter what because of the history. But now looking back, it looks like I was also playing games with him & he may have been sick of it and trying to move on with her. With this new info, what do you think?
Info: what is your definition of emotional cheating? I ask because some people consider it emotional cheating just to be friends with the opposite sex and have convos. For others, it means that they’re sexting and flirting and what not.
I'm not saying the wife should or shouldn't know. I'm saying it is not the place of the disgusting mistress to tell.
i’m surprised people like this are actually married. talk about kiddish
If things are otherwise good with your marriage, and if this is the very first time the “D” word has ever come up, you could tell her this is her one and only second chance ever. Ever. She has to understand that there is literally no third chance. Zero tolerance. Any other physical attack will be immediate divorce. She had to be crystal clear on this. Next time you will not hesitate.