Hopefully your dude doesn’t end up at a bachelor party. I can’t imagine being at one where the best man has surprise strippers and when they show up I go “I have to leave my wife has a rule”
If you continue this relationship, you are signing up for persistent religious harassment. Think carefully about that.
Culture and religion will always be an issue no matter how accepting you are. That doesn't mean cross cultural or interreligious relationships can't work. But denial does not serve them well. Both these things offer many additional issues for a couple to navigate in order to succeed.
Parents who are rigid about their faith and/or culture will cause problems. It can be any religion and any culture. This happens with all of them. Some people are fundamentalist and unable to tolerate differences. Those people do not make good inlaws and will cause serious problems for you.
No-one gets that much debt by mistake, especially if she has a well payed job. She has a problem and it is not easily fixed. Since she waited until the last second to spring this on you, she is probably hoping that you both let her live! for free and also help pay off the debt “for the sake of your future together”. This will not help her, and she will probably not stop spending. She needs therapy, and to sort out her situation on her own.
You can either be the bad guy now or the bad guy later, but this will break your relationship.
From what I understand, I need to include him in the birth certificate as we are still married. By the time baby gets here the divorce will most likely not be finalized
First off it's not your fault, there is nothing you be guilty about. You can tell whoever you want too or no one it's up to you. Next you just need to find a healthy way to process it all, and come to a decision whether you want your family involved. Next up find positive activities to focus on, and continue developing upwards, be it the gym or school. Talk to friends about it if you want, how you process and deal with it, is up to you, just avoid any coping mechanisms that are negative i.e drugs, drinking, league of legends. It's okay.
I have seen that excat thing happen twice.
Hopefully your dude doesn’t end up at a bachelor party. I can’t imagine being at one where the best man has surprise strippers and when they show up I go “I have to leave my wife has a rule”
If you need more of a reason to break up beyond just not wanting to be in the relationship then you truly are juvenile.
Basically I need advice: should I tell my husband, or keep it to myself,
?? You’re the one that asked. Tell your husband and stop playing with this man.
If you continue this relationship, you are signing up for persistent religious harassment. Think carefully about that.
Culture and religion will always be an issue no matter how accepting you are. That doesn't mean cross cultural or interreligious relationships can't work. But denial does not serve them well. Both these things offer many additional issues for a couple to navigate in order to succeed.
Parents who are rigid about their faith and/or culture will cause problems. It can be any religion and any culture. This happens with all of them. Some people are fundamentalist and unable to tolerate differences. Those people do not make good inlaws and will cause serious problems for you.
Girl you can’t be serious. Ditch this old man. He’s playing. Why are you allowing that.
Why are you so insecure to think she'll be remembering her exes specifically?
She might remember herself being happy at certain points of her life.
No, current relationship doesn't erase the past.
No, your dick is not a solution to all the problems and people are allowed to reminisce.
Keep this up and you'll be that – just a memory.
Man I am looking forward for an update. That is a number 1 relationship killer
No-one gets that much debt by mistake, especially if she has a well payed job. She has a problem and it is not easily fixed. Since she waited until the last second to spring this on you, she is probably hoping that you both let her live! for free and also help pay off the debt “for the sake of your future together”. This will not help her, and she will probably not stop spending. She needs therapy, and to sort out her situation on her own.
You can either be the bad guy now or the bad guy later, but this will break your relationship.
Disgusting.
where should it go? I feel that too – wanted to share as relationship relevant (it’s like giving advice?)
From what I understand, I need to include him in the birth certificate as we are still married. By the time baby gets here the divorce will most likely not be finalized
First off it's not your fault, there is nothing you be guilty about. You can tell whoever you want too or no one it's up to you. Next you just need to find a healthy way to process it all, and come to a decision whether you want your family involved. Next up find positive activities to focus on, and continue developing upwards, be it the gym or school. Talk to friends about it if you want, how you process and deal with it, is up to you, just avoid any coping mechanisms that are negative i.e drugs, drinking, league of legends. It's okay.