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I don’t know what else goes on in your relationship but he could be trying to isolate you from your dad so he can mistreat you. This is a common abuser tactic. I’m not saying that’s absolutely what’s going on here based on not very much context. But I had a boyfriend like this who hated my mom, who is a single parent, I have no siblings, she moved out of state to live! near me so we could see each other often and keep connected. I feel safer having my mom this close to me. My ex was a very manipulative person and I realized at the end of our five year relationship I had been badly psychologically abused by him. My mom could tell that was happening, she tried to be there for me and at the same time tried to support my relationship with him when things were going well. She was warm and welcoming to him, she provided for him a lot, and he felt very entitled to it. It damaged my relationship with my mom, and I felt so much better after healing from the breakup and feeling free to do what I wanted with my mom and not having to protect her from his shitty attitude and bad personality. I think what you’re talking about has some similarities and I feel sad for your dad. Boyfriends come and go, your dad will always be there. He loves you unconditionally. Don’t let your boyfriend harm your relationship with your dad.
I wish I could offer more good advice, but yeah, I got nothing – I wouldn't be considered fully disabled if I would have figured out a way to deal with all this OCD garbage.
Six years is a long time. I got into therapy which definitely didn't help because it was only once a week after “only” a year of OCD, but it then took me three more until I was so close to suicide that I allowed inpatient treatment. And it was bad, I had compulsions over 20 hours each day, not even time to sleep…
OCD only ever gets worse. And I'll also let you know: The therapy will be hell and your therapist will tell your husband to stop assuring you. The reason I failed therapy is because it's called “confrontation therapy” in my language for a reason. It means that you will be required to suffer through the anxiety and panic because you are supposed to learn that the world doesn't end even if you don't get the relief from the outside (be it for you by your husband or for me by doing compulsions).
The reason this apparently needs to be done because the way our brains function is that they basically “build roads”. It goes something like this: Your brain wrongly decides you should panic about something which is objectively harmless. You then deal with the issue by asking your husband for reassurance. Your brain learns: “Okay, she needed help, so this was indeed a thing to be concerned about! I should definitely keep this in mind! And the correct way to deal with it is to ask the husband for help!” So the next time this harmless thing happens, your brain will go “Danger is back! Run to husband!” And it will do that again and again and every single time, this “path of thinking” gets bigger. The first time, it was like a path in the wilderness. The tenth time, it's already a paved path. The 20th time, it's a highway. Your brain trained himself that not only there is danger, but that the correct way to deal with it is to seek reassurance to calm down instead of letting the feeling pass. Confrontation therapy wants to “erase” those roads. But the bigger the roads are, the longer it takes to erase them and “re-route” the brain to not just accept the uncertainties as not-danger, but also teach you to not seek reassurance from others. And yeah, this will be shit. Obviously, I failed because it was so shit. But not everyone has it as bad as me, so you might very well succeed!
Honestly, this is all I got. Therapy will be super-tough and I think it's really important that your husband is on board – both when it comes to very likely not reassuring you anymore, but also with understanding that you will be a damn wreck and be kind to you in other ways then. So definitely take him along to the therapy!
Some extra therapy for you to help process everything that has happened lately.
Definitely scrutinise the CC bill. It’s fair as she made you do it in the past, and it’s your money that has to pay it off anyway, so you deserve to know what it was spent on.
Depending on how the therapy goes, and how the scrutiny of the cc bill goes, then I’d skip the STD tests, and just go straight to divorce.
You have a kid, you've been with her for years and you're having thoughts about cheating.
Your poor girlfriend, you're acting like a real deadbeat boyfriend.
Just think about her leaving you and having a lifetime of restricted access to your kid, parental payments and lifestyle change just for a little pussy.
Usually I'd say talk to your girlfriend about opening the relationship but with a 2 month old she's going to need all the help she can get, so stop texting you ex, stop kissing her neck and pretending that's nothing and suck it up and be faithful, if that's what you promised to do.
Slip out the back Jack. Make a new plan Stan. No need to be coy Roy, just get yourself free. Hop on the bus Gus. You don’t need to discuss much. Just drop off the key, Lee. And get yourself free.
She is willing to lose her boyfriend for a random dude met on the internet for solely sexual intercourse. She made it clear when she said “I refuse to stop interacting with the dude I plan to fuck, even if it bothers you so deeply you start feeling insecure about yourself”. She doesn't give the slightest fuck about OP or their relationship.
Here's the thing. Let's say I kick your dog every day, and it hurts you. But, I say, that's how I grew up. My family and I went out daily and kicked dogs. That is not an excuse. If he knows it hurts you, he should stop. If he won't, you have to break up with him. Tell him in no uncertain terms it hurts, and you are not okay with it. If he still does it, then end it.
Yep. It doesn’t seem to occur to him at all that she doesn’t want to be stuck at home alone whilst he travels.
Sure, he’ll be working 8 hours a day… but does anyone REALLY believe he’ll go home and stare at the wall in his spare time like he wants HER to when he’s away?
Other people are suggesting divorce… sounds like that would work out for her! Because she STILL gets to travel on his dime whilst he travels for work, instead of sitting at home alone! ??
I don’t know what else goes on in your relationship but he could be trying to isolate you from your dad so he can mistreat you. This is a common abuser tactic. I’m not saying that’s absolutely what’s going on here based on not very much context. But I had a boyfriend like this who hated my mom, who is a single parent, I have no siblings, she moved out of state to live! near me so we could see each other often and keep connected. I feel safer having my mom this close to me. My ex was a very manipulative person and I realized at the end of our five year relationship I had been badly psychologically abused by him. My mom could tell that was happening, she tried to be there for me and at the same time tried to support my relationship with him when things were going well. She was warm and welcoming to him, she provided for him a lot, and he felt very entitled to it. It damaged my relationship with my mom, and I felt so much better after healing from the breakup and feeling free to do what I wanted with my mom and not having to protect her from his shitty attitude and bad personality. I think what you’re talking about has some similarities and I feel sad for your dad. Boyfriends come and go, your dad will always be there. He loves you unconditionally. Don’t let your boyfriend harm your relationship with your dad.
Make a shiv and stay awake one night if he tries something stab him
I wish I could offer more good advice, but yeah, I got nothing – I wouldn't be considered fully disabled if I would have figured out a way to deal with all this OCD garbage.
Six years is a long time. I got into therapy which definitely didn't help because it was only once a week after “only” a year of OCD, but it then took me three more until I was so close to suicide that I allowed inpatient treatment. And it was bad, I had compulsions over 20 hours each day, not even time to sleep…
OCD only ever gets worse. And I'll also let you know: The therapy will be hell and your therapist will tell your husband to stop assuring you. The reason I failed therapy is because it's called “confrontation therapy” in my language for a reason. It means that you will be required to suffer through the anxiety and panic because you are supposed to learn that the world doesn't end even if you don't get the relief from the outside (be it for you by your husband or for me by doing compulsions).
The reason this apparently needs to be done because the way our brains function is that they basically “build roads”. It goes something like this: Your brain wrongly decides you should panic about something which is objectively harmless. You then deal with the issue by asking your husband for reassurance. Your brain learns: “Okay, she needed help, so this was indeed a thing to be concerned about! I should definitely keep this in mind! And the correct way to deal with it is to ask the husband for help!” So the next time this harmless thing happens, your brain will go “Danger is back! Run to husband!” And it will do that again and again and every single time, this “path of thinking” gets bigger. The first time, it was like a path in the wilderness. The tenth time, it's already a paved path. The 20th time, it's a highway. Your brain trained himself that not only there is danger, but that the correct way to deal with it is to seek reassurance to calm down instead of letting the feeling pass. Confrontation therapy wants to “erase” those roads. But the bigger the roads are, the longer it takes to erase them and “re-route” the brain to not just accept the uncertainties as not-danger, but also teach you to not seek reassurance from others. And yeah, this will be shit. Obviously, I failed because it was so shit. But not everyone has it as bad as me, so you might very well succeed!
Honestly, this is all I got. Therapy will be super-tough and I think it's really important that your husband is on board – both when it comes to very likely not reassuring you anymore, but also with understanding that you will be a damn wreck and be kind to you in other ways then. So definitely take him along to the therapy!
So in order.
Marriage therapy.
Some extra therapy for you to help process everything that has happened lately.
Definitely scrutinise the CC bill. It’s fair as she made you do it in the past, and it’s your money that has to pay it off anyway, so you deserve to know what it was spent on.
Depending on how the therapy goes, and how the scrutiny of the cc bill goes, then I’d skip the STD tests, and just go straight to divorce.
You have a kid, you've been with her for years and you're having thoughts about cheating.
Your poor girlfriend, you're acting like a real deadbeat boyfriend.
Just think about her leaving you and having a lifetime of restricted access to your kid, parental payments and lifestyle change just for a little pussy.
Usually I'd say talk to your girlfriend about opening the relationship but with a 2 month old she's going to need all the help she can get, so stop texting you ex, stop kissing her neck and pretending that's nothing and suck it up and be faithful, if that's what you promised to do.
Slip out the back Jack. Make a new plan Stan. No need to be coy Roy, just get yourself free. Hop on the bus Gus. You don’t need to discuss much. Just drop off the key, Lee. And get yourself free.
There was nothing wrong with your message. Bob is being a little bitch and trying to play victim.
She is willing to lose her boyfriend for a random dude met on the internet for solely sexual intercourse. She made it clear when she said “I refuse to stop interacting with the dude I plan to fuck, even if it bothers you so deeply you start feeling insecure about yourself”. She doesn't give the slightest fuck about OP or their relationship.
This chick belongs to the streets.
Here's the thing. Let's say I kick your dog every day, and it hurts you. But, I say, that's how I grew up. My family and I went out daily and kicked dogs. That is not an excuse. If he knows it hurts you, he should stop. If he won't, you have to break up with him. Tell him in no uncertain terms it hurts, and you are not okay with it. If he still does it, then end it.
I would leave for just him suggesting this, fuck that.
That’s not a girlfriend that’s a child
Who cares why she’s such a useless slob, the real question is why are you still with a useless slob?
10 years?!?
I’d have been gone after months not years
So he knows what he wants to commit to for the future, which is spending a week or two every year at this ashram.
He's not sure whether he wants to commit to you for the future.
Hear what he's saying here, not what it want to hear.
Yep. It doesn’t seem to occur to him at all that she doesn’t want to be stuck at home alone whilst he travels.
Sure, he’ll be working 8 hours a day… but does anyone REALLY believe he’ll go home and stare at the wall in his spare time like he wants HER to when he’s away?
Other people are suggesting divorce… sounds like that would work out for her! Because she STILL gets to travel on his dime whilst he travels for work, instead of sitting at home alone! ??