You actually CAN be happy (or happier) and you deserve better. So does your wife. It’s hot when you’ve been depressed since you’re a teen and it just feels like who you are, but I assure you, what you are describing is not a typical, healthy way of being. Fingers crossed you get answers that help you find the real you buried under your mental health.
I never considered my mental health in all this, but I can see what you describe, and others have noted, I never thought this was not typical, but then I have no one to compare it to, because I don't have a social circle.
One thing you need to learn is that you are not your partner’s therapist. It’s not your job to fix her. That’s way too much responsibility for you.
It sounds like you two aren’t on the same page as far as needs, and that’s always going to cause stress. You deserve to have your needs met in a relationship, and feel safe, loved, and respected.
Because it's not only that, I suspect he had complained to her alot, tried to get her attention etc. He needs to pull back his attention anyways..
I'm just trying to figure out the mindset of it being sexy to sleep with someone else when your SO isn't around.
Well, she played with fire and got burned.
Wondering if OP got laid while on the trip because if there was any chance for redemption, she lost it there
You actually CAN be happy (or happier) and you deserve better. So does your wife. It’s hot when you’ve been depressed since you’re a teen and it just feels like who you are, but I assure you, what you are describing is not a typical, healthy way of being. Fingers crossed you get answers that help you find the real you buried under your mental health.
I never considered my mental health in all this, but I can see what you describe, and others have noted, I never thought this was not typical, but then I have no one to compare it to, because I don't have a social circle.
Poor guy but at least he got out relatively unscathed.
One thing you need to learn is that you are not your partner’s therapist. It’s not your job to fix her. That’s way too much responsibility for you.
It sounds like you two aren’t on the same page as far as needs, and that’s always going to cause stress. You deserve to have your needs met in a relationship, and feel safe, loved, and respected.