Two months ago you were a 14 year old trying to get on HRT. Two weeks ago you were dating your boyfriend for almost a year. Now you're about to marry a different boyfriend you've only been dating for 9 months?
At the time I thought it was pretty straight forward, however on reflecting it's clear that regardless of how I feel, it's going to be much more constructive to be more communicative / direct.
You will have to ask for what you want. She’s not a mind reader. ?♀️
If you would like her to make more of the plans, ask for that. It could be that you ask so often and consistently, she doesn’t really have a chance. It could be that she thinks that is the man’s role to plan dates early on.
With the physical affection, it could be she doesn’t even like it. Or doesn’t feel comfortable reciprocating. Again, you have to ask for what you want.
It may be that you two just aren’t compatible and that’s fine! The priories of dating is to see if you’re a good fit.
I can’t start a hobby yet because I live! rural and house hunting until I move 2 hours to the city where I work. So like for a whole year I’ve been full time house hunting and it’s destroying me. I want to be there now, joining clubs and doing things but I just can’t as I’m stuck in a rural village with no car. I dream of joining music clubs and sports clubs
So your boyfriend of 2 months goes on a work trip and you flip out?
It's one trip. You need to calm down.
Two months ago you were a 14 year old trying to get on HRT. Two weeks ago you were dating your boyfriend for almost a year. Now you're about to marry a different boyfriend you've only been dating for 9 months?
Nah, if you say I'm wrong and you communicated, I believe ya.
Thank you
At the time I thought it was pretty straight forward, however on reflecting it's clear that regardless of how I feel, it's going to be much more constructive to be more communicative / direct.
Or just be spoiled like that, I am assuming, but when it the last time her husband did the same? Even if it was to a small restaurant.
Given they had multiple kids, it’s probably been a while or rare to have gotten time for themselves or to have continued dating
You will have to ask for what you want. She’s not a mind reader. ?♀️
If you would like her to make more of the plans, ask for that. It could be that you ask so often and consistently, she doesn’t really have a chance. It could be that she thinks that is the man’s role to plan dates early on.
With the physical affection, it could be she doesn’t even like it. Or doesn’t feel comfortable reciprocating. Again, you have to ask for what you want.
It may be that you two just aren’t compatible and that’s fine! The priories of dating is to see if you’re a good fit.
I can’t start a hobby yet because I live! rural and house hunting until I move 2 hours to the city where I work. So like for a whole year I’ve been full time house hunting and it’s destroying me. I want to be there now, joining clubs and doing things but I just can’t as I’m stuck in a rural village with no car. I dream of joining music clubs and sports clubs