I think the issue comes from you not understanding what confidentiality means in a business sense. I wrote this for another comment, but I’ll copy it here:
You believe the trust that business entities have in professionals revolves around not speaking about confidential information, when in reality, they have trust in professionals to keep their information safe.
They need their information safe from competitors so they don’t lose a market advantage. They need their information safe from investors so there won’t be any market manipulation or trading on confidential information. Similar issues are present for IT consultants.
As a professional, it is in my discretion to divulge confidential information to anyone I see fit. I am held liable for who I share information with. If that info is misused, I have systems and contracts in place to hedge my exposure to criminal/civil liability.
We aren’t talking about a moral imperative to never utter confidential information that is made available to us in the way that a crisis counselor or doctor would. There are no implications of human emotions being manipulated or feelings of betrayal.
Thats the issue though, it's really only for my benefit. She seems understanding, but is clearly very upset about it and I want to soften the blow somehow
This hurts, I know, but seriously—this is GOOD. He wasn’t the one. If he comes crawling back with some manipulative bullshit please, please stay strong. ♥️
You are enough whether or not you can have sex with him. ?
I think the issue comes from you not understanding what confidentiality means in a business sense. I wrote this for another comment, but I’ll copy it here:
You believe the trust that business entities have in professionals revolves around not speaking about confidential information, when in reality, they have trust in professionals to keep their information safe.
They need their information safe from competitors so they don’t lose a market advantage. They need their information safe from investors so there won’t be any market manipulation or trading on confidential information. Similar issues are present for IT consultants.
As a professional, it is in my discretion to divulge confidential information to anyone I see fit. I am held liable for who I share information with. If that info is misused, I have systems and contracts in place to hedge my exposure to criminal/civil liability.
We aren’t talking about a moral imperative to never utter confidential information that is made available to us in the way that a crisis counselor or doctor would. There are no implications of human emotions being manipulated or feelings of betrayal.
Hope this helps.
Thanks for the advice. I just think I lost momentum now and will let it go. But definitely all advices are taken.
Thats the issue though, it's really only for my benefit. She seems understanding, but is clearly very upset about it and I want to soften the blow somehow
This hurts, I know, but seriously—this is GOOD. He wasn’t the one. If he comes crawling back with some manipulative bullshit please, please stay strong. ♥️
So she had sex with both of you the same night. That's some shady behavior.