Your post was removed for the following reason(s):
Your title did not include at least two ages/genders or was not formatted correctly
Posts must:
include details about the involved parties including ages, genders, and length of relationship, and
request advice in real situations involving two or more people
We are enforcing the two rules listed above by making all titles use the following formatting:
[##X][##X], [## X][## X], or [##-X][##-X] where ## is the age and X is the gender (currently M, F, T, A, NB, FTM, MTF but more can be added). You can have more than two ages/genders listed, but you must have at least two. Here is an example:
It is a little bit weird, but that’s ok. You’re allowed to be a little bit weird. Tell your mum it makes you happy to do this, why doesn’t she want you to be happy?
So wait, she’s ok you’ve done porn but because it was scat she draws a line there? Get fucked. I can see if she’s upset about you not telling and that’s what she’s upset about but it’s not. With her telling your children it’s made it intensely personal slight against you. What the fuck is wrong with her? “Oh I draw the line at pay for poop?” grow the fuck up. It’s not high-school anymore where we pretend girls don’t fart for Christ’s sake. Sorry this isn’t really advice but more of a “JFC” moment for me. Like some imaginary line, only in her head was crossed … She’s ruining your relationship. Seriously, she’s told YOUR kids (adult) that’s not her fucking business. That’s personal and that’s petty. Normally I would give the benefit of the doubt but Christ this irked me.
For more context : ever since we have been together, it's NOTHING close to what she is used to. The KNOWN territory for her is (emotional unavailability, low communication, manipulation, trauma, verbal abuse etc), among all those things, none of those apply to us. She's sees me as not having any red flags, AS a red flag. That's why I was begging to think she did not want to be intimate. She knows the outcome of us being intimate : being in her head the whole time (trying to compare what we have to what she is used to). She has no frame of reference for us and her past, and when she can't find a comparison (she compares herself to other people), she breaks.
She hasn't been open about what her therapist had suggested, but I do know that before she met me, she was working very very hot on just being alone, no relationship for awhile. And then 2 months after her start, I came into the picture, and she realized that GOOD relationships are possible, but she has no idea what that territory looks or feels like.
I just feel like she's missing what's right in front of her ( a good relationship with no catch ). Instead she's trying to find a catch.
u/taurusmidheaven, it looks like you're trying to post a throwaway submission. Your account is too young and/or your comment karma is too low.
The right way to do it is to create a brand new Reddit account that begins with ThrowRA.
Please create a new account that starts with ThrowRA in the username and try again. Please note that we will not make exceptions to this rule.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
Hey, you suck. But the dude deserves to know so try to be half way kind when you implode his life with this information. If you can manage it.
Hello /u/ThrowRA_alexandra,
Your post was removed for the following reason(s):
Your title did not include at least two ages/genders or was not formatted correctly
Posts must:
include details about the involved parties including ages, genders, and length of relationship, and
request advice in real situations involving two or more people
We are enforcing the two rules listed above by making all titles use the following formatting:
[##X][##X], [## X][## X], or [##-X][##-X] where ## is the age and X is the gender (currently M, F, T, A, NB, FTM, MTF but more can be added). You can have more than two ages/genders listed, but you must have at least two. Here is an example:
[34NB][88-F] We are two people in an example post
Please resubmit with a corrected title.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
Leave him. You want a good man not a creeper.
It is a little bit weird, but that’s ok. You’re allowed to be a little bit weird. Tell your mum it makes you happy to do this, why doesn’t she want you to be happy?
Does he fart in front of you?
I think this is overall a really, really, REALLY bad idea, Op.
You have only known this person for 18 months! And all you know about her is what she has told you. People tend to tell only the best of themselves.
And you ALREADY know that she is
*admittedly not the most proactive about financial / logistical stuff and tends to “wing it.”*
In addition, she
*also had trouble with keeping jobs due to health issues*
I think you even considering having her move in with you is extremely bad judgement on your part.
I wouldn't do it if you put a gun to my head, Op.
So wait, she’s ok you’ve done porn but because it was scat she draws a line there? Get fucked. I can see if she’s upset about you not telling and that’s what she’s upset about but it’s not. With her telling your children it’s made it intensely personal slight against you. What the fuck is wrong with her? “Oh I draw the line at pay for poop?” grow the fuck up. It’s not high-school anymore where we pretend girls don’t fart for Christ’s sake. Sorry this isn’t really advice but more of a “JFC” moment for me. Like some imaginary line, only in her head was crossed … She’s ruining your relationship. Seriously, she’s told YOUR kids (adult) that’s not her fucking business. That’s personal and that’s petty. Normally I would give the benefit of the doubt but Christ this irked me.
For more context : ever since we have been together, it's NOTHING close to what she is used to. The KNOWN territory for her is (emotional unavailability, low communication, manipulation, trauma, verbal abuse etc), among all those things, none of those apply to us. She's sees me as not having any red flags, AS a red flag. That's why I was begging to think she did not want to be intimate. She knows the outcome of us being intimate : being in her head the whole time (trying to compare what we have to what she is used to). She has no frame of reference for us and her past, and when she can't find a comparison (she compares herself to other people), she breaks.
She hasn't been open about what her therapist had suggested, but I do know that before she met me, she was working very very hot on just being alone, no relationship for awhile. And then 2 months after her start, I came into the picture, and she realized that GOOD relationships are possible, but she has no idea what that territory looks or feels like.
I just feel like she's missing what's right in front of her ( a good relationship with no catch ). Instead she's trying to find a catch.
Yeah, why would you joke like that?
Bro doesn’t know what a fan is