Most of the comments in here are jumping right to “leave him”, which might ultimately be the right move, but first: have you tried having an honest conversation with him about this or the way you have been feeling in general?
If you haven't I would try to tell him about everything you've mentioned to us here, how you are perceiving his actions (or lack thereof) as him not caring about you or your relationship. Try to get his perspective and see if he views these things as important or not.
Sometimes when people neglect their partner's needs it is because they are selfish or lazy, but other times it may be because there is something else going on (depression, other stressors, etc). There could also be things bothering him about the relationship as well, leading to a lack of effort/enthusiasm. Whether it's him or you, bottling things up helps no one. It may be difficult, but communicating about these things is the only way they can get better.
If you talk to him and he gives you excuses or chastises you for your feelings, give him the boot. Otherwise if he's struggling with something maybe you can both help each other and work things out. In either case I wish you the best of luck
That seems like the perfect solution. A lot of women feel that if their SO watches porn, that she won't measure up and he will want more. However, if she doesn't agree to this, I would see a counselor or sex therapist. Your libido is what it is and masturbation is healthy if your wife isn't available. Your wife needs to understand that she is always your first choice, but if she isn't available your body needs a physical release.
I believe that's the sticking point as well because she mentioned the “sneaking off to see a lover.” OP, I think the idea of you masturbating without porn would work. However, maybe discuss with your doctor the fact that you have this type of insomnia that requires orgasm to achieve sleep. It's not an addiction necessarily, but it's also not normal. They may be able to recommend treatment.
I don’t think he’s a child rapist or molester. But I do think every adult in their lives failed them. No 15 should be sleeping with an 18 year old. No matter the grade in school. If they had dated and not had sex, that’s one thing. But a 15 year old should not be having consensual sex with an 18 year old.
Yes definitely and this dude just doesn't seem like he gives a shit about her financial situation like not everyone is living like you.
The dedication you have to keep reposting this is impressive. ?
Most of the comments in here are jumping right to “leave him”, which might ultimately be the right move, but first: have you tried having an honest conversation with him about this or the way you have been feeling in general?
If you haven't I would try to tell him about everything you've mentioned to us here, how you are perceiving his actions (or lack thereof) as him not caring about you or your relationship. Try to get his perspective and see if he views these things as important or not.
Sometimes when people neglect their partner's needs it is because they are selfish or lazy, but other times it may be because there is something else going on (depression, other stressors, etc). There could also be things bothering him about the relationship as well, leading to a lack of effort/enthusiasm. Whether it's him or you, bottling things up helps no one. It may be difficult, but communicating about these things is the only way they can get better.
If you talk to him and he gives you excuses or chastises you for your feelings, give him the boot. Otherwise if he's struggling with something maybe you can both help each other and work things out. In either case I wish you the best of luck
That seems like the perfect solution. A lot of women feel that if their SO watches porn, that she won't measure up and he will want more. However, if she doesn't agree to this, I would see a counselor or sex therapist. Your libido is what it is and masturbation is healthy if your wife isn't available. Your wife needs to understand that she is always your first choice, but if she isn't available your body needs a physical release.
I believe that's the sticking point as well because she mentioned the “sneaking off to see a lover.” OP, I think the idea of you masturbating without porn would work. However, maybe discuss with your doctor the fact that you have this type of insomnia that requires orgasm to achieve sleep. It's not an addiction necessarily, but it's also not normal. They may be able to recommend treatment.
I don’t think he’s a child rapist or molester. But I do think every adult in their lives failed them. No 15 should be sleeping with an 18 year old. No matter the grade in school. If they had dated and not had sex, that’s one thing. But a 15 year old should not be having consensual sex with an 18 year old.
Maybe. But I've know girls just mean hearted enough to do something like that…just to add another layer of hurt.
How the hell do u not talk to a co worker? ?