i guess i should’ve mentioned that i have had a lot of sexual partners in the past, and while i’m not necessarily proud of it that’s not my issue. i am also physically active and in college, which i know is a great place to meet people but i’ve tried for years trust me. my people isn’t my body, my looks, or being sexually active. i do regularly get female attention, and that’s cool and all but that’s not what i want. i don’t want one night stands or yay situationships. my issue is that i can’t build something real and long term. i don’t wanna sleep with a bunch of random females to feel good about myself, i want to be in a committed relationship with someone who takes me seriously and wants what i want. i want to plan a life with somebody and not only plan it out but to live! it with them as well. i’m ready to settle down, fall in love and start a family in the next 3-5 years and it just seems like nobody wants what i want
Make sure you get yourself to therapy soon OP. I mean this very kindly but you don't seem mentally well and this is obviously having a big effect on you. Please seek help from a therapist. They can help you process your pain.
What a stupid comment. She wants adult time with her best friend..so that means she wants her to put the kids up for adoption???? Sounds like you have deep issue on friends abandoning you after kids to make such ridiculous comments. Babysitters apparently don't exist. Nor helpful husbands…..
RIGHT!! THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT I'M PLANNING ON DOING.
Hell, if I can motivate someone into oblivion and have them turn into the douchiest form of themselves, what harm will a little self-confidence do for me? What's the worst-case scenario going to be? Me knowing my worth? :33
Okay. He’s 9 years older than you but you’re the only grown up in the relationship. He is who he is. He isn’t going to change. Not with you and not anytime soon. You’re 24 and you started dating him when you were 17 so he can bluff you and make you feel like he’s the best life has to offer? I have news for you. There are plenty of better fish in the sea than someone like him. Everything you mention about him is a No in my eyes. Dump him and move on. I don’t care what it takes. Believe me every minute you’re with him is a complete waste of time.
Everyone handles things differently. Some people bump one curb and never try again. Maybe she needs a little therapy to get past her fear.
It’s going to get so much worse now that they’ve actually met irl.
i guess i should’ve mentioned that i have had a lot of sexual partners in the past, and while i’m not necessarily proud of it that’s not my issue. i am also physically active and in college, which i know is a great place to meet people but i’ve tried for years trust me. my people isn’t my body, my looks, or being sexually active. i do regularly get female attention, and that’s cool and all but that’s not what i want. i don’t want one night stands or yay situationships. my issue is that i can’t build something real and long term. i don’t wanna sleep with a bunch of random females to feel good about myself, i want to be in a committed relationship with someone who takes me seriously and wants what i want. i want to plan a life with somebody and not only plan it out but to live! it with them as well. i’m ready to settle down, fall in love and start a family in the next 3-5 years and it just seems like nobody wants what i want
Make sure you get yourself to therapy soon OP. I mean this very kindly but you don't seem mentally well and this is obviously having a big effect on you. Please seek help from a therapist. They can help you process your pain.
After reading your responses to the comments and your expectations in life.
To me, you sound like someone who wants to feel free and uncontrolled. You make appropriate decisions and value yourself as a person.
Which is why you're so disappointed that you have to cater to your partner and give up something that you know is totally innocent on your side.
You have a spark, don't let someone smother that side of you.
I believe you would be much happier finding someone more in tune with you. Someone who appreciates your passion for music instead of shutting it down.
They're are plenty of fish in the sea.
What a stupid comment. She wants adult time with her best friend..so that means she wants her to put the kids up for adoption???? Sounds like you have deep issue on friends abandoning you after kids to make such ridiculous comments. Babysitters apparently don't exist. Nor helpful husbands…..
RIGHT!! THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT I'M PLANNING ON DOING.
Hell, if I can motivate someone into oblivion and have them turn into the douchiest form of themselves, what harm will a little self-confidence do for me? What's the worst-case scenario going to be? Me knowing my worth? :33
If I was him, I wouldn’t want to hear from you. You tried to ruin his life, what are you expecting? Leave him alone and keep on working on yourself.
Dump the loser
Okay. He’s 9 years older than you but you’re the only grown up in the relationship. He is who he is. He isn’t going to change. Not with you and not anytime soon. You’re 24 and you started dating him when you were 17 so he can bluff you and make you feel like he’s the best life has to offer? I have news for you. There are plenty of better fish in the sea than someone like him. Everything you mention about him is a No in my eyes. Dump him and move on. I don’t care what it takes. Believe me every minute you’re with him is a complete waste of time.
Thanks for this dude, I'll give it a read