Hey, I’m glad it helped. Don’t be afraid to express what you need here. What you’re asking from her is beyond reasonable and necessary for your relationship to be balanced and fulfilling for you going forward. Best of luck.
I understand all this. I had just left an abusive relationship, lost my only parent and got cancer in my ovaries when we met. I had no one else to talk to, no family or friends. He showed me love no one else had. I knew its was not the logical choice and i knew the dangers, but it felt like we were meant to be.
Back in the day, when I was your GF’s age, my BF & I had a similar dynamic. We met in Uni, where I was the actor, he was backstage…& I adored him! No, he wasn’t “typically” good looking but he did it for me. Besides that, he was brilliant at his career path, was thoughtful, kind & romantic to me.
Yes, I also had people asking (telling) me “Why are you with THAT Guy”. My response was that clearly they had a lot to learn about what’s truly important in a relationship.
Now if it were a fairly tale, we would have stayed together forever…but sadly, when he decided he wanted children and I did not, i knew I had to let him go…because I loved him that much.
Wordy, sorry, but point being I bet your GF sees you the same way I saw my BF…that you just fits what she need in a real relationship.
It's probably down to the stereotypes that the man is supposed to be gbr provider and it's made him really insecure that he can't provide for you in the way you're used to having money. I think it's wise to say something akin to, “I would love you if you made 40k a year for the rest of your life. Money isn't love and can't buy it. I love you.”
I wouldn't advise investing a significant amount of money into his business. Instead, offer to help him go (back?) to college to pursue a career that will allow him to earn more so he feels more like your partner in the future. Idk. But regardless, that IS your money. If you mix it, it becomes a marital asset and in the event of a divorce he'd get half. Protect yourself, too.
I get that. I'd say just talk to her about it. Share your feelings. Ask her about her feelings. Just explore it and see where it goes. She's being honest with you. That's no small thing.
Oh my god, let him go! Re-read what you havebwritten and imagine it was written but a friend instead. Would you encourage them to stay and work it out??
Seriously, there are so manybred flags there you NEED to get out.
You definitely would knowingly transmit a disease to a person under the guise of it being “unserious”…
Hey, I’m glad it helped. Don’t be afraid to express what you need here. What you’re asking from her is beyond reasonable and necessary for your relationship to be balanced and fulfilling for you going forward. Best of luck.
I understand all this. I had just left an abusive relationship, lost my only parent and got cancer in my ovaries when we met. I had no one else to talk to, no family or friends. He showed me love no one else had. I knew its was not the logical choice and i knew the dangers, but it felt like we were meant to be.
Throw her out. Let him have her.
Back in the day, when I was your GF’s age, my BF & I had a similar dynamic. We met in Uni, where I was the actor, he was backstage…& I adored him! No, he wasn’t “typically” good looking but he did it for me. Besides that, he was brilliant at his career path, was thoughtful, kind & romantic to me.
Yes, I also had people asking (telling) me “Why are you with THAT Guy”. My response was that clearly they had a lot to learn about what’s truly important in a relationship.
Now if it were a fairly tale, we would have stayed together forever…but sadly, when he decided he wanted children and I did not, i knew I had to let him go…because I loved him that much.
Wordy, sorry, but point being I bet your GF sees you the same way I saw my BF…that you just fits what she need in a real relationship.
It's probably down to the stereotypes that the man is supposed to be gbr provider and it's made him really insecure that he can't provide for you in the way you're used to having money. I think it's wise to say something akin to, “I would love you if you made 40k a year for the rest of your life. Money isn't love and can't buy it. I love you.”
I wouldn't advise investing a significant amount of money into his business. Instead, offer to help him go (back?) to college to pursue a career that will allow him to earn more so he feels more like your partner in the future. Idk. But regardless, that IS your money. If you mix it, it becomes a marital asset and in the event of a divorce he'd get half. Protect yourself, too.
So what do you do all day? What are your responsibilities?
What does he expect from you?
I get that. I'd say just talk to her about it. Share your feelings. Ask her about her feelings. Just explore it and see where it goes. She's being honest with you. That's no small thing.
Oh my god, let him go! Re-read what you havebwritten and imagine it was written but a friend instead. Would you encourage them to stay and work it out??
Seriously, there are so manybred flags there you NEED to get out.