I’m sending you a bunch of love. You seem so stressed about this. I consider myself straight, but find women attractive, some incredibly attractive. I’ve experimented and am only interested in women aesthetically. I’m a woman who lives in a left wing city, so this has caused zero stress or confusion to me. I wish you had the same opportunity. Please don’t beat yourself up.
Girl. It's not you. This is the first thing you must learn in order to set yourself up for some healthy future relationships. Let's count his red flags:
1) pestering you repeatedly to come to his apartment 2) you're 12 years younger and at a completely different stage of life 3) “can't keep his hands off you” on the date (super ick) 4) desperate to get you back to his place 5) pulls a nuclear 180 as soon as you step foot in the apartment (you shouldn't have gone) and immediately begins to gaslight the s out of you 6) continues to pursue you even after all of the above craziness with minimum self-accountability
These are just the ones you've mentioned in your post, as I'm sure there were more. Please, please learn to recognize these flags, for your own good, safety, and emotional well-being. Talk with your friends and/or family. Talk with a therapist. Subscribe to appropriate subreddits and do a boat-load of reading. Do what you must.
Also… I would warn the gym about his behavior. Tell them exactly what happened and that you'd like their help to ensure a safe space to exercise. Also tell them that you've blocked him on every platform. Best ??
Meet someone else
Your boyfriend sucks and location shit is super controlling and you suck for cheating, just end it and move on.
I’m sending you a bunch of love. You seem so stressed about this. I consider myself straight, but find women attractive, some incredibly attractive. I’ve experimented and am only interested in women aesthetically. I’m a woman who lives in a left wing city, so this has caused zero stress or confusion to me. I wish you had the same opportunity. Please don’t beat yourself up.
Yes, it is.
That ship had sailed. Lawyer up.
That it the entire point we are all making.
Girl. It's not you. This is the first thing you must learn in order to set yourself up for some healthy future relationships. Let's count his red flags:
1) pestering you repeatedly to come to his apartment 2) you're 12 years younger and at a completely different stage of life 3) “can't keep his hands off you” on the date (super ick) 4) desperate to get you back to his place 5) pulls a nuclear 180 as soon as you step foot in the apartment (you shouldn't have gone) and immediately begins to gaslight the s out of you 6) continues to pursue you even after all of the above craziness with minimum self-accountability
These are just the ones you've mentioned in your post, as I'm sure there were more. Please, please learn to recognize these flags, for your own good, safety, and emotional well-being. Talk with your friends and/or family. Talk with a therapist. Subscribe to appropriate subreddits and do a boat-load of reading. Do what you must.
Also… I would warn the gym about his behavior. Tell them exactly what happened and that you'd like their help to ensure a safe space to exercise. Also tell them that you've blocked him on every platform. Best ??