Thank you. We actually talked about premarital counseling after this all happened but we never took it further. I have been thinking about it for myself though. I know that if this were the other way around I would have absolutely no problem standing up for him to my best friend. Doesn’t matter how close someone is to me, I wouldn’t put up with them disrespecting my fiancé
Is this one of these bro-code violations bullshit?
There is nothing wrong in sleeping with someone's ex. Just because a woman used to be somebody's girlfriend doesn't mean you need to ask his permission to have sex with her.
She probably shouldn’t have lied, but I don’t think it should be indicative of who she is as a person.
You’ve got to realise that she didn’t know you that well. Start of relationships is such a rocky stage, trying to figure out if the other person is what you really want, if they share the same feelings… etc…
A lot of people talk to multiple people at once, esp at the start of relationships, and seeing as you were both not in a relationship yet, I don’t see this as a problem. Although she shouldn’t have lied about it, I understand why she wouldn’t want to hurt your feelings.
Talk it out, let her know it hurt, but I wouldn’t suggest she is untrustworthy or not committed because of this
Yeah I am making it a big deal… it’s the anxious attachment i think. The ‘I only feel as safe as our last interaction’ always hits me
Thank you. We actually talked about premarital counseling after this all happened but we never took it further. I have been thinking about it for myself though. I know that if this were the other way around I would have absolutely no problem standing up for him to my best friend. Doesn’t matter how close someone is to me, I wouldn’t put up with them disrespecting my fiancé
The texts are likely her trying to get with him.
He is avoiding a fight between you too.
The relationship sounds broken tbh. Not that you can’t overcome this. But you have 0 trust in him and that won’t work
Op, please know this stranger is rooting for you and your happiness!
Is this one of these bro-code violations bullshit?
There is nothing wrong in sleeping with someone's ex. Just because a woman used to be somebody's girlfriend doesn't mean you need to ask his permission to have sex with her.
She probably shouldn’t have lied, but I don’t think it should be indicative of who she is as a person.
You’ve got to realise that she didn’t know you that well. Start of relationships is such a rocky stage, trying to figure out if the other person is what you really want, if they share the same feelings… etc…
A lot of people talk to multiple people at once, esp at the start of relationships, and seeing as you were both not in a relationship yet, I don’t see this as a problem. Although she shouldn’t have lied about it, I understand why she wouldn’t want to hurt your feelings.
Talk it out, let her know it hurt, but I wouldn’t suggest she is untrustworthy or not committed because of this