I would send her links to shelters, and only that. I helped a friend leave an abusive relationship, and he came after me, and tried really naked to get me fired from my job, stalked my house, followed me around town.
It was bizarre. I called the police every time I saw him, and let my management and he know what he was doing.
He’s lost interest in me(thank goodness).
She went back to him several times after I helped her move out.
I distanced myself from her also. When her bad decisions effect my home and my job, I’m done.
She's talking to you. That's a good thing. It's all you need to know at this point. Don't read too much into situations like this. If you treat interactions like this as though they're the DaVinci code, it will make you less confident and unlikely to take action.
I’m sorry that it’s happened to you. Have both of you gone for couple therapy?
If not, you have to do something to take care of yourself. I’m not saying that you should break up with him. Just take a break away from him for a while. For instance, stay at your parents’ home and don’t contact your bf for a week. And see if he will start noticing and change himself. Self care comes first. Take care.
No no no no no. Him leaving is a good thing for you. He punches walls? He blames you for bringing out anger in him? Girl, you're not safe there. Let him move out, change the locks, cut your losses. Less cleaning too.
He punched a wall? Anger issues? Classic gaslighting that you are the issue. This will not get better.
Pls talk to a friend/relative about staying with them, an break it off immediately. Consult a lawyer about the property, the earlier the better.
You deserve better than someone who treats you this way, and when you find it you will wonder why on earth you put up with this man's behaviour. You are not a punching bag. Trust me, if you stay, next time he hits it will be aimed at you, not the wall.
What a bastard. The only good thing about this story is it looks like we've determined the cause of your depression.
DTMFA.
I would send her links to shelters, and only that. I helped a friend leave an abusive relationship, and he came after me, and tried really naked to get me fired from my job, stalked my house, followed me around town.
It was bizarre. I called the police every time I saw him, and let my management and he know what he was doing.
He’s lost interest in me(thank goodness).
She went back to him several times after I helped her move out.
I distanced myself from her also. When her bad decisions effect my home and my job, I’m done.
I don’t actually mind that she’s a mormon. She’s been raised like that, same as I’ve been raised as an atheist.
She's talking to you. That's a good thing. It's all you need to know at this point. Don't read too much into situations like this. If you treat interactions like this as though they're the DaVinci code, it will make you less confident and unlikely to take action.
Ask her out on a proper date.
Yeah but anecdotes don’t change the fact that they usually are. Her neediness is likely extremely unnecessary.
I’m sorry that it’s happened to you. Have both of you gone for couple therapy?
If not, you have to do something to take care of yourself. I’m not saying that you should break up with him. Just take a break away from him for a while. For instance, stay at your parents’ home and don’t contact your bf for a week. And see if he will start noticing and change himself. Self care comes first. Take care.
he could end up trying to rape* actual children.
children cannot consent to sex. no one “has sex” with a child. it is rape. pedophiles rape children.
No no no no no. Him leaving is a good thing for you. He punches walls? He blames you for bringing out anger in him? Girl, you're not safe there. Let him move out, change the locks, cut your losses. Less cleaning too.
He punched a wall? Anger issues? Classic gaslighting that you are the issue. This will not get better.
Pls talk to a friend/relative about staying with them, an break it off immediately. Consult a lawyer about the property, the earlier the better.
You deserve better than someone who treats you this way, and when you find it you will wonder why on earth you put up with this man's behaviour. You are not a punching bag. Trust me, if you stay, next time he hits it will be aimed at you, not the wall.
Except she uses him for rides, so she knows what's going on.