I don’t know, I think the feelings aren’t the issue, it’s the behaviours and attitudes she has around her feelings. She is making them her partners problem rather than developing better strategies for dealing with them herself. For sure, therapy is needed, but sometimes we just feel stuff that is shit. It’s on us to not make it shot for everyone else though.
Just tell her that you're not going and she can either invite someone else or waste the ticket. You don't have to convince her, you just have to tell her you won't be there. If she decides not to invite someone else that's her business.
Honestly it doesn't sound like staying friends is a good idea for you if it's been “devastating” and she already has a new partner. It might help if you cut contact with her so she realizes that you are not going to be her concert buddy.
As someone who had genuine problems controlling themselves as a child, this sort of self analysis was extremely helpful.
And pre arranged code words can help kind of shock yourself out of the “natural” response
I don’t know, I think the feelings aren’t the issue, it’s the behaviours and attitudes she has around her feelings. She is making them her partners problem rather than developing better strategies for dealing with them herself. For sure, therapy is needed, but sometimes we just feel stuff that is shit. It’s on us to not make it shot for everyone else though.
I’d talk. The break isn’t doing anything.
Not to mention, an ass like this is the kind of person to “accidentally” sllip the condom off midway. ?
He's not trying to use the recording in an official capacity.
Just tell her that you're not going and she can either invite someone else or waste the ticket. You don't have to convince her, you just have to tell her you won't be there. If she decides not to invite someone else that's her business.
Honestly it doesn't sound like staying friends is a good idea for you if it's been “devastating” and she already has a new partner. It might help if you cut contact with her so she realizes that you are not going to be her concert buddy.