I don’t mean anything bad by this…. But most women 30+ aren’t interested in guys that young. Normally you’re in two very different stages in life, with different wants/goals. And many older women would look at a 20 y/o guy and see immaturity. There’s normally a lot of growing up to do with large age gaps
Why is it that sticking to your boundaries is championed until the OPs boundaries are against cultural norms?
It really wasn't that long ago that “he won't buy the cow if he's getting the milk for free” was the prevailing sentiment. commitment phobes are even more prevalent now. Now people drag relationships out forever delaying the inevitable point where you have to jump in, take a risk and fully commit – always trying to be 100% sure even though that's impossible. The fact that successful arranged marriages exist tells me that knowing the person inside and out before marriage is not the number one predictor of success.
Anyway , there arecompromises in this situation. engagements can be long. They can get engaged pending a successful cohabitation and then move in together.
He must been tired and forgot about your name. It does sound like a genuine mistake. Most likely he still thinks about his ex but that’s normal for a relationship that’s generally new. If you’re feeling upset, I suggest you try to talk about it with him. He should be able to reassure you
She has already proven that she can cheat, lie and hide things like a pro. Almost like she has done this before. If you stay, she will know she can rinse and repeat and won't have any consequences because no matter what, you choose to stay.
That's basically how my gf tried explaining it. “It isn't really sex…” (Which it is, I'd say..). But I still mentally treated lesbian sex differently than “regular” sex.
I think think the sex part itself is less of a problem than the actual attraction if she's more bi than I/she thought. “Less of a problem” doesn't mean I'm fine with it.. just less, considering that I could see a MFF threesome somewhere in the realm of possibility. But rather me and her and someone else, than her and someone else and me.
Yea… I expected more like a slow break up on better terms. I didn’t know about this till today
I don’t mean anything bad by this…. But most women 30+ aren’t interested in guys that young. Normally you’re in two very different stages in life, with different wants/goals. And many older women would look at a 20 y/o guy and see immaturity. There’s normally a lot of growing up to do with large age gaps
I think you need to get your anxiety under control see a therapist. Once you are calmer and clearer it will be easier to figure out what to do
I think you need to get your anxiety under control see a therapist. Once you are calmer and clearer it will be easier to figure out what to do
Why is it that sticking to your boundaries is championed until the OPs boundaries are against cultural norms?
It really wasn't that long ago that “he won't buy the cow if he's getting the milk for free” was the prevailing sentiment. commitment phobes are even more prevalent now. Now people drag relationships out forever delaying the inevitable point where you have to jump in, take a risk and fully commit – always trying to be 100% sure even though that's impossible. The fact that successful arranged marriages exist tells me that knowing the person inside and out before marriage is not the number one predictor of success.
Anyway , there arecompromises in this situation. engagements can be long. They can get engaged pending a successful cohabitation and then move in together.
He must been tired and forgot about your name. It does sound like a genuine mistake. Most likely he still thinks about his ex but that’s normal for a relationship that’s generally new. If you’re feeling upset, I suggest you try to talk about it with him. He should be able to reassure you
Eww shave the beard before something festers in it.
She has already proven that she can cheat, lie and hide things like a pro. Almost like she has done this before. If you stay, she will know she can rinse and repeat and won't have any consequences because no matter what, you choose to stay.
This is awfully sus. I would dipped out.
Yes I agree.
That's basically how my gf tried explaining it. “It isn't really sex…” (Which it is, I'd say..). But I still mentally treated lesbian sex differently than “regular” sex.
I think think the sex part itself is less of a problem than the actual attraction if she's more bi than I/she thought. “Less of a problem” doesn't mean I'm fine with it.. just less, considering that I could see a MFF threesome somewhere in the realm of possibility. But rather me and her and someone else, than her and someone else and me.
Dunno if that helped to clarify