You made a boundary, he agreed and broke it. How many times does he have to do that for you to respect yourself to leave. You can try couple counseling, but doubt he'll be receptive
Sure. I'm not actually defending her position, or his for that matter. But the fact is that he did previously agree to do it and is no longer willing, and I would find walking back a decision like that rather suspicious, if I were in her shoes. I'd totally be wondering just how much he's investing in trying to patch things up, and whether he might not already be talking to that pretty intern at work.
And since he told her she could tie her tubes instead, I'd be wondering whether it's not him manipulating her into doing something to make sure that she doesn't have any more kids with someone else, to the point that he might actually have to step up and have the kids every other week instead of a couple of weekends a month.
(Years of living with somebody very manipulative have left me with a very suspicious mindset I'm afraid)
Growing up we all reach levels of awareness, that maybe we actually aren't as in control as we think we are, or maybe going with the wind doesn't always work out or whatever lies we tell ourselves to justify anything we do that may potentially hurt others.
I understand that calling it a situationship makes it seem less than would it could be, and that could very well be. It just still doesn't give a free pass to treat people however you want. That does go for your ex as well and I don't think he was justified to leave you stranded. In your case, ease off the alcohol. Can only go up from here, right?
You made a boundary, he agreed and broke it. How many times does he have to do that for you to respect yourself to leave. You can try couple counseling, but doubt he'll be receptive
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Sure. I'm not actually defending her position, or his for that matter. But the fact is that he did previously agree to do it and is no longer willing, and I would find walking back a decision like that rather suspicious, if I were in her shoes. I'd totally be wondering just how much he's investing in trying to patch things up, and whether he might not already be talking to that pretty intern at work.
And since he told her she could tie her tubes instead, I'd be wondering whether it's not him manipulating her into doing something to make sure that she doesn't have any more kids with someone else, to the point that he might actually have to step up and have the kids every other week instead of a couple of weekends a month.
(Years of living with somebody very manipulative have left me with a very suspicious mindset I'm afraid)
Break up.
You're incompatible, unless you want to remove the implants to please him.
How do you mean?
Growing up we all reach levels of awareness, that maybe we actually aren't as in control as we think we are, or maybe going with the wind doesn't always work out or whatever lies we tell ourselves to justify anything we do that may potentially hurt others.
I understand that calling it a situationship makes it seem less than would it could be, and that could very well be. It just still doesn't give a free pass to treat people however you want. That does go for your ex as well and I don't think he was justified to leave you stranded. In your case, ease off the alcohol. Can only go up from here, right?