What prompted him to say that he doesn't see a future with you?
I mean, if you are in college, there should be a sense of looking ahead to the end of the school year. Even if not, he should be able to see possible ways a relationship can go, even if he isn't sure which one it would take.
So if he volunteered this idea that he doesn't see a future with you beyond you moving in, I'd want to know why. What was the motivation in even saying that? It could be that he's being honest about not knowing how well you'll live together until you live together; that's fair. But why not say that instead of “I can't really see a future with you beyond you moving in”?
I'm also wondering why he has a very hot time saying he loves you. What does he think love means? What's the nature of the difficulty in talking about it? If he's trying to cope with the fact that he doesn't have the same instant-arousal with you that he did early on, that's a normal part of relationships; we don't keep that “in love” feeling over time. But this is why we talk of love being a choice, not a feeling. The question then becomes, is he willing to choose to treat you in a loving way?
My wife does the same thing to me. Even after 10+ years of marriage I still walk on egg shells. Women have very different sensibility than men. A lot of times I don’t even know what I said to upset my wife. When I ask about small bumps or rashes, it’s because I’m concerned, not deliberately pointing out imperfections. Maybe his heart is pure. Don’t know.
Fear has nothing to do with it. She doesn't have to be afraid to be hurt by his lack of trust. So deep that he's including all of the children in this spectacle. His intentions are cruel.
I think you need to get a job (if you don’t), end your relationship with him and also get some sort of therapy for your high sensitivity so that you are able to integrate into society better(sorry lack of better word). you are well within your rights to want to be a SAHM but it’s something you need to state before starting a relationship, so that the other party can have the opportunity to decide if they want to financially support you. But for now, you simply can’t just get into a relationship and expect them to look after you, as a woman and especially as someone who isn’t married.
Could've been glitter bombed, could have been something received in the mail, could be making a present/card for you.
I've done cards before but stopped after getting accused of doing something other than what I was actually doing.
What prompted him to say that he doesn't see a future with you?
I mean, if you are in college, there should be a sense of looking ahead to the end of the school year. Even if not, he should be able to see possible ways a relationship can go, even if he isn't sure which one it would take.
So if he volunteered this idea that he doesn't see a future with you beyond you moving in, I'd want to know why. What was the motivation in even saying that? It could be that he's being honest about not knowing how well you'll live together until you live together; that's fair. But why not say that instead of “I can't really see a future with you beyond you moving in”?
I'm also wondering why he has a very hot time saying he loves you. What does he think love means? What's the nature of the difficulty in talking about it? If he's trying to cope with the fact that he doesn't have the same instant-arousal with you that he did early on, that's a normal part of relationships; we don't keep that “in love” feeling over time. But this is why we talk of love being a choice, not a feeling. The question then becomes, is he willing to choose to treat you in a loving way?
My wife does the same thing to me. Even after 10+ years of marriage I still walk on egg shells. Women have very different sensibility than men. A lot of times I don’t even know what I said to upset my wife. When I ask about small bumps or rashes, it’s because I’m concerned, not deliberately pointing out imperfections. Maybe his heart is pure. Don’t know.
Fear has nothing to do with it. She doesn't have to be afraid to be hurt by his lack of trust. So deep that he's including all of the children in this spectacle. His intentions are cruel.
She’s not, she typically runs it twice (30 minutes) but she throws everything in one load so it needs a bit more time
Yeah! Fuken foul bro!
Am a man. 10/10 came here to say this. Glad I wasn’t the only one XD.
I think you need to get a job (if you don’t), end your relationship with him and also get some sort of therapy for your high sensitivity so that you are able to integrate into society better(sorry lack of better word). you are well within your rights to want to be a SAHM but it’s something you need to state before starting a relationship, so that the other party can have the opportunity to decide if they want to financially support you. But for now, you simply can’t just get into a relationship and expect them to look after you, as a woman and especially as someone who isn’t married.