I think you have a wonderful dream. Please don't steal that money and go to prison or worse. He would hunt your ass down and you know it.
Small rant: He picked you because you were an easy mark. Unfortunately for you bad guys will find you because you are vulnerable. Find a women's shelter and start from scratch. Search “how to get child support” for your state information. A form usually is the start. I am sorry I was so blunt with you before. Take a picture of his money before you leave. You have to be done with him to achieve you dream. Baby steps from here.
I would suggest finding a state/county level job that can get you rocking n rolling (like a custodian). If there is a local university check there. You need housing first so find a women's shelter or battered women's shelter nearby.
I wish you all the luck on your little house. Baby steps. Don't step the wrong way.
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Hey y’all.
My husband has made it very clear to me that he will not continue to be with me if I don’t lose weight. He doesn’t find me attractive like he did when he first met me.
So I’ve been trying to lose weight. I actually went for a few weeks stretch where I was working out every day, and watching what I ate.
These past few weeks however, I messed up and wasn’t counting calories or working out.
Yesterday while I was making dinner, my husband was eating and he left a hash brown and a half on his plate. He was going to put it back in the fridge and I said it’s okay just leave it out because I’ll eat it.
He then asked me if I was watching what I was eating. I said yes, but not counting calories like I had been. I’ve been watchful though and not eating mindlessly.
He was upset and asked me to go weigh myself. I didn’t want to because I have anxiety with weighing myself. He was so gloomy and just sitting there on the sofa. So I was like whatever I’ll just weigh myself.
We have a smart scale and it says I gained 2.3kg of fat, and also gained 800 grams of muscle.
So yeah, because I fell off my routine I had gained some fat 🙁
I’m disappointed in myself.
My husband isn’t happy with me. He says we’ll check my progress in two weeks. I’m planning to eat 1200 calories every day and workout every day to fix this.
I hate that I’m scared of losing my relationship over my weight.
I asked him for a hug yesterday and he jokingly said he doesn’t give hugs to fatties.
He gave me a lecture this morning on how he has high expectations for everyone in his life.
For context, he’s really successful and has big plans for his life.
I feel like I’m worthless and will never be enough for him 🙁 I feel like he doesn’t see what I do because he always wants me to be better.
He told me he’s going to ask me everyday at the end of the day to tell him what I’ve done.
I’m not a great mom, but I try to be. I try to be a good housewife. Is my house always clean? No. Is there always freshly cooked dinner? No.
I think I’m just a little tired of this happening, that’s all. I want him to just love me no matter what. I love him no matter what.
A lot of guys are like this. It probably won't change until you're much older. You need a woman who understands that your commitment to her is about honor, not desire. I just hope she gets it, because many women don't.
Sampling/notability bias – you mostly hear about open marriages when they don't work because the people for whom they aren't working complain about it, while people for whom they are working mostly just go about their lives without moralizing to everyone else about their relationships.
I never said that he can't change, I just warned you that if he has a history of cheating, and has regularly told you how difficult it is to stop himself from cheating on you, then you shouldn't be surprised if it does happen. The risks and dangers are right there on the tin and you are acting like I am picking out the next trillion dollar company or next world cup winners. I hope he changes, I really do, and I know that he is fighting a massive uphill struggle, but ignorance and denial will only hurt you and make it harder to support him.
It’s not that I don’t like being around her, it’s more so the fact that she has a problem with handling her alcohol on any setting. In that sense. In the other sense, for example you’re not gonna be like “damn bro she gotta nice ass over there” while your girl is right behind you. That’s what I mean by “censored”. There’s certain shit you talk about with your boys, just like women have certain things they talk about with their girls
She has the people, specifically the guy, in mind.
She’s going to do it, as I’d wager a bet that negotiations via “jokes” have already taken place.
Do not have until you begin a “relationship” . If you go through dating websites write in your bio you are not up to casual sex.
Are you the guy she cheated on him with?
I think you have a wonderful dream. Please don't steal that money and go to prison or worse. He would hunt your ass down and you know it.
Small rant: He picked you because you were an easy mark. Unfortunately for you bad guys will find you because you are vulnerable. Find a women's shelter and start from scratch. Search “how to get child support” for your state information. A form usually is the start. I am sorry I was so blunt with you before. Take a picture of his money before you leave. You have to be done with him to achieve you dream. Baby steps from here.
I would suggest finding a state/county level job that can get you rocking n rolling (like a custodian). If there is a local university check there. You need housing first so find a women's shelter or battered women's shelter nearby.
I wish you all the luck on your little house. Baby steps. Don't step the wrong way.
Cheaters aren't always that thorough. It's still worth a shot to try I think.
And how do you know he didn't cheat???
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Hey y’all.
My husband has made it very clear to me that he will not continue to be with me if I don’t lose weight. He doesn’t find me attractive like he did when he first met me.
So I’ve been trying to lose weight. I actually went for a few weeks stretch where I was working out every day, and watching what I ate.
These past few weeks however, I messed up and wasn’t counting calories or working out.
Yesterday while I was making dinner, my husband was eating and he left a hash brown and a half on his plate. He was going to put it back in the fridge and I said it’s okay just leave it out because I’ll eat it.
He then asked me if I was watching what I was eating. I said yes, but not counting calories like I had been. I’ve been watchful though and not eating mindlessly.
He was upset and asked me to go weigh myself. I didn’t want to because I have anxiety with weighing myself. He was so gloomy and just sitting there on the sofa. So I was like whatever I’ll just weigh myself.
We have a smart scale and it says I gained 2.3kg of fat, and also gained 800 grams of muscle.
So yeah, because I fell off my routine I had gained some fat 🙁
I’m disappointed in myself.
My husband isn’t happy with me. He says we’ll check my progress in two weeks. I’m planning to eat 1200 calories every day and workout every day to fix this.
I hate that I’m scared of losing my relationship over my weight.
I asked him for a hug yesterday and he jokingly said he doesn’t give hugs to fatties.
He gave me a lecture this morning on how he has high expectations for everyone in his life.
For context, he’s really successful and has big plans for his life.
I feel like I’m worthless and will never be enough for him 🙁 I feel like he doesn’t see what I do because he always wants me to be better.
He told me he’s going to ask me everyday at the end of the day to tell him what I’ve done.
I’m not a great mom, but I try to be. I try to be a good housewife. Is my house always clean? No. Is there always freshly cooked dinner? No.
I think I’m just a little tired of this happening, that’s all. I want him to just love me no matter what. I love him no matter what.
A lot of guys are like this. It probably won't change until you're much older. You need a woman who understands that your commitment to her is about honor, not desire. I just hope she gets it, because many women don't.
Sampling/notability bias – you mostly hear about open marriages when they don't work because the people for whom they aren't working complain about it, while people for whom they are working mostly just go about their lives without moralizing to everyone else about their relationships.
I never said that he can't change, I just warned you that if he has a history of cheating, and has regularly told you how difficult it is to stop himself from cheating on you, then you shouldn't be surprised if it does happen. The risks and dangers are right there on the tin and you are acting like I am picking out the next trillion dollar company or next world cup winners. I hope he changes, I really do, and I know that he is fighting a massive uphill struggle, but ignorance and denial will only hurt you and make it harder to support him.
It’s not that I don’t like being around her, it’s more so the fact that she has a problem with handling her alcohol on any setting. In that sense. In the other sense, for example you’re not gonna be like “damn bro she gotta nice ass over there” while your girl is right behind you. That’s what I mean by “censored”. There’s certain shit you talk about with your boys, just like women have certain things they talk about with their girls
No
Yeah either the story is fake or the pregnancy is