You need to tell everyone in the friend circle. They need to know that he might be fucking their partners too. If you are on good terms with the parents, apologise to them too, tell them that you are sorry but you can't be with her anymore as you can't be with a cheater. I mean they thought you were going to be a Son IL so they deserve to know why not.
Next realise that you deserve better than she could ever be on her best day. Work on making yourself happy. Find your joy in life. Get back into your hobbies, make new friends. When you are ready you can find someone 1000% better than her. And honestly now you know that there are things to look out for in a relationship. Learn to stand up for yourself. Know your worth.
I hear what you are saying but keep in mind the cost of living in CA. It is extremely expensive. Where are you moving from (general region)?
Just a suggestion. At 21 you are so very young and you have the ability to literally move anywhere you want. Can you apply to university and apply for financial aid where you currently on-line? That way you would have instate tuition and dorm housing. This would give you the foundation you need to eventualy get a well paying job in a field you are excited about and it would give you a safe place to on-line in the mean time.
Likewise, if you enjoy children, you could look for a live in nanny job. The pay is decent and it would allow you to save for a year or so in a safe environment so you can move on in the future.
I wouldn't break up with her over it. Like others have said she is probably dealing with trauma and does know how to deal with it. You should support her as long as it doesn't become too much for you. I think that's one the things relatonships are supposed to be about.
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You need to tell everyone in the friend circle. They need to know that he might be fucking their partners too. If you are on good terms with the parents, apologise to them too, tell them that you are sorry but you can't be with her anymore as you can't be with a cheater. I mean they thought you were going to be a Son IL so they deserve to know why not.
Next realise that you deserve better than she could ever be on her best day. Work on making yourself happy. Find your joy in life. Get back into your hobbies, make new friends. When you are ready you can find someone 1000% better than her. And honestly now you know that there are things to look out for in a relationship. Learn to stand up for yourself. Know your worth.
I hear what you are saying but keep in mind the cost of living in CA. It is extremely expensive. Where are you moving from (general region)?
Just a suggestion. At 21 you are so very young and you have the ability to literally move anywhere you want. Can you apply to university and apply for financial aid where you currently on-line? That way you would have instate tuition and dorm housing. This would give you the foundation you need to eventualy get a well paying job in a field you are excited about and it would give you a safe place to on-line in the mean time.
Likewise, if you enjoy children, you could look for a live in nanny job. The pay is decent and it would allow you to save for a year or so in a safe environment so you can move on in the future.
I wouldn't break up with her over it. Like others have said she is probably dealing with trauma and does know how to deal with it. You should support her as long as it doesn't become too much for you. I think that's one the things relatonships are supposed to be about.
Ok then don't sweat it. I'm not certain what you're trying to accomplish here.