I'm a very light sleeper and I didn't realise how much waking up when my ex was coming to bed late affected me until he became my ex. I would wake up every time he did that, sometimes I'd fall asleep again, sometimes I wouldn't. I was so exhausted every day and couldn't believe how much better I'm feeling now when I can actually sleep through the night. And I don't even have kids! Your poor fiance is probably exhausted and wants to get as much sleep as possible, the baby probably wakes her up a few times a night anyway. If anything, her constant lack of sleep would affect the relationship more than you sleeping in the guest room. I wouldn't read too much into this, if your relationship is good, I'm sure it's not the case of her not wanting you in the same bed, she just needs sleep. It's temporary anyway, the baby won't be sleeping with her forever.
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THIS. You should have all that were there when you accused him in the chat and just offer a sincere apology.
The fallout will be what it will be but that is what you need to do at this point. Maybe after see if you can talk in person, or at least on phone if in person isn't possible, to sister and fiance and try to clear up any bad air remaining.
You didn't overreact, and unfortunately you will have to deal with a lot of guys who like “jailbait” and will celebrate when young celebrity women turn 18 because now it's “OK.”
If you're not in therapy yet, go to therapy. It will be very very hot to get into a healthy relationship without unpacking a lot of your trauma. While the trigger may be considered an over-reaction, I would caution you to trust your gut and don't ignore red flags just to stay in a relationship.
The truck driver has gone through his insurance already but unfortunately due to having no collision coverage on my car, insurance will not cover any vehicle damage costs for my car
You set a boundary clearly with Emily. Tell her you will not be discussing her ex husband or his business with her, and if she is unable to accept that for whatever reason, you are going to have a problem. You’re still happy to discuss and participate with other activities and topics because you are friends.
Then you go hang out with Greg and Miranda. If they want to gossip, you give them the same rejection.
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I'm a very light sleeper and I didn't realise how much waking up when my ex was coming to bed late affected me until he became my ex. I would wake up every time he did that, sometimes I'd fall asleep again, sometimes I wouldn't. I was so exhausted every day and couldn't believe how much better I'm feeling now when I can actually sleep through the night. And I don't even have kids! Your poor fiance is probably exhausted and wants to get as much sleep as possible, the baby probably wakes her up a few times a night anyway. If anything, her constant lack of sleep would affect the relationship more than you sleeping in the guest room. I wouldn't read too much into this, if your relationship is good, I'm sure it's not the case of her not wanting you in the same bed, she just needs sleep. It's temporary anyway, the baby won't be sleeping with her forever.
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THIS. You should have all that were there when you accused him in the chat and just offer a sincere apology.
The fallout will be what it will be but that is what you need to do at this point. Maybe after see if you can talk in person, or at least on phone if in person isn't possible, to sister and fiance and try to clear up any bad air remaining.
It sounds like your boyfriend was to intoxicated to give consent.
I would say in that instance he may have been r***** .
You are treating this as if he intentionally cheated when it may be deeper.
If the roles were reversed this entire thread would be in an uproar.
I'm so sorry, but I feel that there's more to the story (on his side) that you don't know about and no one will tell you either. Good luck to you
Communicate all of this to her immediately.
You didn't overreact, and unfortunately you will have to deal with a lot of guys who like “jailbait” and will celebrate when young celebrity women turn 18 because now it's “OK.”
If you're not in therapy yet, go to therapy. It will be very very hot to get into a healthy relationship without unpacking a lot of your trauma. While the trigger may be considered an over-reaction, I would caution you to trust your gut and don't ignore red flags just to stay in a relationship.
Take care of yourself first.
The truck driver has gone through his insurance already but unfortunately due to having no collision coverage on my car, insurance will not cover any vehicle damage costs for my car
She got busted and did and said what you needed to hear not to leave her.
If she really cared would she have been “peer pressured” into it in the 1st place? I assume she is aware she has a child…
If he’s like this at the beginning of the relationship just imagine when he’s actually “comfortable” around you what his requests (demands) will be.
He views relationships as transactional. He will say anything to get what he wants but only follow through if it benefits him.
I promise you he does not respect you as an equal.
You set a boundary clearly with Emily. Tell her you will not be discussing her ex husband or his business with her, and if she is unable to accept that for whatever reason, you are going to have a problem. You’re still happy to discuss and participate with other activities and topics because you are friends.
Then you go hang out with Greg and Miranda. If they want to gossip, you give them the same rejection.