My only advice is to address the issue head on when you face it in the future. You don’t need that hug and reassurance, you need honesty.
Until you get to areas where trust isn’t possible anymore, the only way to fix breaches of trust, is with honesty, vulnerability, and continued action to give you a reason to trust someone.
Both my gf and I talk to exes on occasion. Sometimes you end up with someone who's pretty cool and it just doesn't work for whatever reason. This was a conversation I had with her before our first date though, fuck now I'm friends with one of her exes. It's all nuanced but if you aren't comfortable with it and she keeps doing it then it's basically time to move along. Someone who doesn't talk to exes is out there, I'm sure.
I just need to know if you shit our actual worms when you start taking medication?!???!!!
He had no honesty to give you. That’s it.
My only advice is to address the issue head on when you face it in the future. You don’t need that hug and reassurance, you need honesty.
Until you get to areas where trust isn’t possible anymore, the only way to fix breaches of trust, is with honesty, vulnerability, and continued action to give you a reason to trust someone.
As it stands he’s not capable.
I dont know im pretty sure I have ocd though.
So she broke the rules under the assumption you would too. I don’t think she is your type or worthy of your respect anymore.
Both my gf and I talk to exes on occasion. Sometimes you end up with someone who's pretty cool and it just doesn't work for whatever reason. This was a conversation I had with her before our first date though, fuck now I'm friends with one of her exes. It's all nuanced but if you aren't comfortable with it and she keeps doing it then it's basically time to move along. Someone who doesn't talk to exes is out there, I'm sure.
Sell your house…it's the only way to get him out. Get a restraining order so you can move out into your new home.
At 32, you should know better. At 32, you should stop wasting your time on garbage boyfriends who gaslight you. Dump this guy and move on.