He knows exactly how to deal with her, he should move out. But he won't, because living with mummy suits him. This is what you need to understand – this scenario isn't just what his mum wants, it's what HE wants. If it wasn't, he wouldn't be there.
Maybe see if you have some kind of sex addiction? I don't know. If you can get your head in the right place here then maybe that's not necessary, but be warned that in a long term relationship, there will be other times where you go a while without sex…
I have no idea how many people any of my friends’ or coworkers’ partners have slept with. You don’t need to be a prude to think it’s really weird for a friend’s partner you just met to start telling you about their body count. It seems like she’s more uncomfortable with it than you are.
That's the stupidest thing I've ever heard. That's a surefire way for her to accept a date from someone else. Text her and tell her you had a great time.
You have a fully developed adult brain. He is one year older than a teenager. I think he's too young for you. Of course, if you are only fuck-buddies, maybe it doesn't matter, but often someone develops feelings.
She's in a relationship. The time to experiment isn't when you're committed to someone else. She is/wants to cheat, or she's looking for a way out of your relationship without looking like the bad guy for wanting to break up.
There are two factors at play here: 1) crazy work schedules and no time/energy for the relationship, 2) does she have a realistic expectation of what married, adult life is like?
1) Unless you make actionable plans to reduce your workload and/or plan days off together, these feelings aren't going away. You both work demanding careers and difficulty in maintaining relationships might be the reality you both signed up for unless you work twice as nude at it.
2) The early 20's are an exciting time, so many fun changes: living on your own, university, meeting new people, partying and making tons of plans with friends, a new job, maybe a new city to explore. Now that all of that has settled down and the real world of bills, stress, work, less free time, and obligations has kicked in, are you sure she isn't just feeling disenchanted with life in general? Maybe this feeling of mundane “blah” is not truly because of you. Sometimes young people have this vision of what adult life is like, but the sad truth is that many adults and couples lead boring, lonely, repetitious lives and don't have money/time to do the fun things they dreamed about. Hence why the midlife crisis exists! Haha. Perhaps she needs to explore the true source of these feelings of disconnect. And then look at changes and self care.
Don't give up on each other. Identify the underlying issues and work naked to fix them. The love and attraction you had for each other is still there, it's just buried. Work on enjoying the little moments together first, like go for a walk, play a board game, try a new recipe, smile and hug, send a joke to brighten each other's day, plan “romance” in advance, etc. Then make a longer term, sustainable plan to improve some barriers to you getting your marriage back on track.
No. That would make it worse. You can carry it. She doesn’t need to know.
He knows exactly how to deal with her, he should move out. But he won't, because living with mummy suits him. This is what you need to understand – this scenario isn't just what his mum wants, it's what HE wants. If it wasn't, he wouldn't be there.
Haha nice of you to say but he’s a friend from home and my housemate so not sure how true that would be here
Keep telling yourself that, and when you actually experience something healthy you'll understand.
Get some help in what sense?
Maybe see if you have some kind of sex addiction? I don't know. If you can get your head in the right place here then maybe that's not necessary, but be warned that in a long term relationship, there will be other times where you go a while without sex…
no one waltzes into an abortion clinic, six months along, looking to terminate for this purpose. so silly
I have no idea how many people any of my friends’ or coworkers’ partners have slept with. You don’t need to be a prude to think it’s really weird for a friend’s partner you just met to start telling you about their body count. It seems like she’s more uncomfortable with it than you are.
I would expect a couple of hundred dollars, but call and ask first.
the typos in this are great
That's the stupidest thing I've ever heard. That's a surefire way for her to accept a date from someone else. Text her and tell her you had a great time.
He proposed to go from 3 to 2, yes. My mental illness causes me to express affection in, sometimes, unhealthy ways
1) stop dating a creepy man old enough to literally be your dad. It's disgusting.
2) Leave your job if you can, if you can't just leave then find another job ASAP.
3) is just 1) again but in capitals. LEAVE HIM.
You have a fully developed adult brain. He is one year older than a teenager. I think he's too young for you. Of course, if you are only fuck-buddies, maybe it doesn't matter, but often someone develops feelings.
She's in a relationship. The time to experiment isn't when you're committed to someone else. She is/wants to cheat, or she's looking for a way out of your relationship without looking like the bad guy for wanting to break up.
There are two factors at play here: 1) crazy work schedules and no time/energy for the relationship, 2) does she have a realistic expectation of what married, adult life is like?
1) Unless you make actionable plans to reduce your workload and/or plan days off together, these feelings aren't going away. You both work demanding careers and difficulty in maintaining relationships might be the reality you both signed up for unless you work twice as nude at it.
2) The early 20's are an exciting time, so many fun changes: living on your own, university, meeting new people, partying and making tons of plans with friends, a new job, maybe a new city to explore. Now that all of that has settled down and the real world of bills, stress, work, less free time, and obligations has kicked in, are you sure she isn't just feeling disenchanted with life in general? Maybe this feeling of mundane “blah” is not truly because of you. Sometimes young people have this vision of what adult life is like, but the sad truth is that many adults and couples lead boring, lonely, repetitious lives and don't have money/time to do the fun things they dreamed about. Hence why the midlife crisis exists! Haha. Perhaps she needs to explore the true source of these feelings of disconnect. And then look at changes and self care.
Don't give up on each other. Identify the underlying issues and work naked to fix them. The love and attraction you had for each other is still there, it's just buried. Work on enjoying the little moments together first, like go for a walk, play a board game, try a new recipe, smile and hug, send a joke to brighten each other's day, plan “romance” in advance, etc. Then make a longer term, sustainable plan to improve some barriers to you getting your marriage back on track.