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I had it with a few girlfriends, it has never been a problem. It's nice to be woken up in the middle of the night once in a while by the person who wants you. Good to be desired.
The problem is when a partner is insensitive or doesn't pay attention to how you feel. That's clearly what happen.
Yes, you can wake me up for that, but it doesn't mean that anytime is the right time.
You don't want to have sex with him, you cringe when he trys to kiss you and you want him to take your last name?
What exactly is he getting out of this relationship? Are you his first girlfriend?
I'm commenting on the spirit of how marriage mattered in the 19th century. It doesn't now so no man should get married. Why make a lifelong commitment to someone who doesn't share the same values?
Just don't get married today.
Why blame your boyfriend? Be an adult, and come right out and say it: Your bf pointed out the relationship dynamics might be awkward during a getaway, and it made you realize he's right.
You can't and it's a waste of your energy to try. Abusers don't want things to be easy, they want control.
Talk to your landlord first, tell her that you're in a bad situation with your partner and you don't feel safe staying in the apartment. See if she is willing to take your name off the lease. If she is, quietly look for a place in your area and have a friend come help move you out. You don't need to convince him it's a good idea, you just need to do what you need to do.
If you can't change your locks right away you can buy a door jamb but that would only help if you're home. Itvwould protect you but not your stuff when you're gone. Do you have a friend or family member who lives near by who can keep your important stuff while you sort this out? Like birth certificate, passport, ss card, and photos or other sentimental stuff that cant be replaced?
Let me tell you something. Do NOT let guilt paralyze you. I have, and I regret having done so. Guilt is a sign of your conscience being very much alive. That in itself isn't a bad thing. But also, unchecked guilt can and will cripple you.
If you let it run its course, you may go on for YEARS without ever reconnecting, even though you want to. I promise you, it's a direct shortcut to inaction.
Do you know how to break that cycle? Message her tonight at the latest. No excuses. No delays. No mitigating factor. Do it tonight and no later, and you will do yourself a huge favor.
There is a special type of anxiety that you can develop (or at least, that was my experience) when you're stuck in a guilt loop over ghosting a close friend. I don't know if you're already in it, but you cannot allow it to take over you. It's painful, and very distracting.
You're strong, OP. Not least for surviving and besting your DV relationship. You've shown your strength to yourself before. Now is the time to summon that strength back. Make this right with your friend. I promise, it will feel entirely different after you clear the air. You will feel a hundred times better.
You can do it!
You’re not invested in your engagement so you should end it.
But don’t just go and get engaged to Clark. You could date him but keep and open mind that that might not work out either. You’re young and inexperienced and it sounds like you’re not ready to settle down. So don’t.
Yes, if he had said something about her looking lovely and to thank her for making the effort but he won't do it justice and can we plan for tomorrow?
What is he doing that’s wrong? Expressing that he isn’t ready to have kids right now? How is that wrong or bad?
If his sister is that upset she can pay to give you the kids you want.
I haven't, but that's a good point. Will do. Thank you.
Once she moves in you may never get her out. If she has no money, she wont be able to leave. If your house had a mother-in-law suite with its own entrance and bathroom, that would be one thing, but close quarters living daily for a newlywed couple, not a great idea. She is only 64. That is really young nowadays. She probably has a good 20+ years left. Is she gonna stay with you that long? If not, why move in now? If she really already took early social security, that was a mistake and reduced her payment substantially from age 67 full benefit and even more than the age 70 maximum benefit. Basically she has about $2K per month to on-line on. She isn't 65 so she cant get medicare. How is she paying for health insurance? Will you have to pay it for now? Bottom line, she is not an old invalid. 64 is the new 45. She needs to get back into life. Taking her in will probably only further enable her possible depression or issues.
”I asked him if he wants to marry me he said you know I do.”
No, actually, you don’t know. What you do know is he continues to “move the goal”, if you will, as he leaves little trail of crumbs keeping your hopes up whilst leading you on.
OP, anytime the answer is “you know I do”, take that as your sign to run far and fast.
Someone is out there hoping and praying for a woman like you as they long to start their own family. I truly hope you find that someone!
Towards the end of your post, you started to answer your question and were rational about why you need to get away from this and break off cleanly and forever. You quite correctly said this is toxic. That's a good enough reason. All of the manipulative acts that you describe and including this bizarre thing about the receipt for an engagement ring? That's all manipulation. You've just giving yourself plenty of reasons to go and find one of the other billions of men available in this world to be with and then… You say he truly loves you.
Can I just tell you right now he is not in a place where he's emotionally, mentally capable of loving anyone. He does not love you. Love is not words. Love is actions. There is nothing in his behaviour to suggest he loves you. The clear evidence is that he manipulates you, that he wants to keep you on a string. He guiltrips you. There is no genuine mature mutual love in this relationship.
The sooner you break this off, You can start living your life again it may possibly better for both of you. Certainly better for you, but he might start getting the real therapy he needs to mature as a person. He might one day be able to be capable of love. Today is not that day. Leave.
There is never an excuse to cheat. If you and your partner are drifting you either bring it up and go to therapy then, or you leave them. There is never an excuse to hurt there person you claim to love like there. There is never anything your partner can do to justify that. If you’re unhappy leave. You don’t cheat.
To me her actions aren’t justifiable. If she was unhappy she could have communicated or left. Instead she decided to break her vows and your heart.
You already know the answer to your question, otherwise you wouldn’t be asking it. But to help you, yes you should leave her. It’s time to prioritize yourself, friend.
If you feel up to it I would love an update on what happens and for you to confirm that you’re doing okay, no matter what you choose. We’re rooting for you, OP.
He did all that to you? Good reasons not to marry him. If he cared about you he wouldn't string you along for so long. You really need to leave him. This is him, this is how he treats you. Not nice.
Life’s too short to stay in a relationship like that man. You could find a woman who finds pleasure in giving you pleasure.
It’s never going to get better.