Hmm, that's really curious and unusual then. I think I would still sit him down one more time and ask him if his family has reconsidered their support because he gave them the timeframes for visits or something like that.
I honestly have no clue beyond that. The fact that he's clearly suffering, not compromising with you/trying to make it work despite his feelings and not willing to talk to his family about your expectations makes me think that he's clearly keeping something from you, though. In the end, all of us here can only guess – only he can give you the real answer.
But in the end… no answer is also an answer. A person can break up with their partner for any reason whatsoever – “I don't want to be with you anymore” itself is reason enough. And while explaining would be the morally right thing to do to give the other person as much closure as possible, it's nothing that you are owed. And that sucks. I think I personally would try one more talk, make it clear that it will be the last talk and see if that will spur him into revealing the truth.
Are you sure you can read? I mentioned twice that I've already had a serious conversation with him about it. A heart to heart if you will, and he promised me he would do this one thing for me. He went back on his word and brushes off my current attempts to bring up the subject matter, which he said he cared about. So I did talk to him and he hasn't acted on it. You've glazed over that fact…again.
I'm not really bothered by a comment from a stranger who doesn't see eye-to-eye on the issue, and glazes over info I've already mentioned. I’m not here to change your mind and change your standards. Its clear we're drastically different and that's ok.
What am I to compromise? My already compromised and violated sexual health + skin health? Thats already happened and the issue to begin with. None of these things should be compromised. To make a relationship work, speak of compromise is time, responsibilities, finances NOT anyones health. Compromise is made to IMPROVE those, NOT worsen them. Once I learned his sheets were the cause of a sexual infection + more acne, I brought it up, he listened, he promised he could and would accommodate. He didn’t thus he lied, it doesn’t sit right with me that my health can be compromised again OR that my bf is a liar.
Asking my bf to wash his sheets when I very rarely visit, is not a high standard at all. It’s a basic hygienic thing to do. Hes admitted to his room being dirty, how else can that change. Again, we have different standards & lifestyles, so your input is based on you not me. It just tells me more people are ok sleeping in filthy sheets. If you’re unhygienic too, feel like the shoe fits etc, I frankly can’t relate nor will I ever. I also will not lower my hygienic standards to ever feel ok with this. I care about cleanliness, its how I was raised. Washing your sheets is as basic as scrubbing in the shower at least once a day. If you cant relate, I’m not here to educate you on it.
I wish! I also never know when it’s going to happen because I really want to video record this.
The truck trails one he started to dig under the sofa cushions and lifted up the blankets too, so they’re somehow small enough to get lost in a sofa, like a tv remote.
I'm going w liar. He knows 17 are gone and missing or he would be like wtf?!!!! He was so calm….
Hmm, that's really curious and unusual then. I think I would still sit him down one more time and ask him if his family has reconsidered their support because he gave them the timeframes for visits or something like that.
I honestly have no clue beyond that. The fact that he's clearly suffering, not compromising with you/trying to make it work despite his feelings and not willing to talk to his family about your expectations makes me think that he's clearly keeping something from you, though. In the end, all of us here can only guess – only he can give you the real answer.
But in the end… no answer is also an answer. A person can break up with their partner for any reason whatsoever – “I don't want to be with you anymore” itself is reason enough. And while explaining would be the morally right thing to do to give the other person as much closure as possible, it's nothing that you are owed. And that sucks. I think I personally would try one more talk, make it clear that it will be the last talk and see if that will spur him into revealing the truth.
If he has conveyed that this is something he wanted to do for himself then it’s be duh much not thoughtful
Are you sure you can read? I mentioned twice that I've already had a serious conversation with him about it. A heart to heart if you will, and he promised me he would do this one thing for me. He went back on his word and brushes off my current attempts to bring up the subject matter, which he said he cared about. So I did talk to him and he hasn't acted on it. You've glazed over that fact…again.
I'm not really bothered by a comment from a stranger who doesn't see eye-to-eye on the issue, and glazes over info I've already mentioned. I’m not here to change your mind and change your standards. Its clear we're drastically different and that's ok.
What am I to compromise? My already compromised and violated sexual health + skin health? Thats already happened and the issue to begin with. None of these things should be compromised. To make a relationship work, speak of compromise is time, responsibilities, finances NOT anyones health. Compromise is made to IMPROVE those, NOT worsen them. Once I learned his sheets were the cause of a sexual infection + more acne, I brought it up, he listened, he promised he could and would accommodate. He didn’t thus he lied, it doesn’t sit right with me that my health can be compromised again OR that my bf is a liar.
Asking my bf to wash his sheets when I very rarely visit, is not a high standard at all. It’s a basic hygienic thing to do. Hes admitted to his room being dirty, how else can that change. Again, we have different standards & lifestyles, so your input is based on you not me. It just tells me more people are ok sleeping in filthy sheets. If you’re unhygienic too, feel like the shoe fits etc, I frankly can’t relate nor will I ever. I also will not lower my hygienic standards to ever feel ok with this. I care about cleanliness, its how I was raised. Washing your sheets is as basic as scrubbing in the shower at least once a day. If you cant relate, I’m not here to educate you on it.
I wish! I also never know when it’s going to happen because I really want to video record this.
The truck trails one he started to dig under the sofa cushions and lifted up the blankets too, so they’re somehow small enough to get lost in a sofa, like a tv remote.