In John and Julie Gottman’s latest book, The Love Prescription, they talked about how although they’re both therapists, they went through couple’s therapy and the therapist favored John. When he recognized that the therapist was being rude to Julie he fired her. Point is, even therapists take a while to see when their therapist is not a good fit.
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Everyone experiences fear and anxiety, it’s how you respond to it that matters. Taking action to protect yourself is a reasonable response to the risk of harm from a threat actor. Anxiety is the body’s way of letting us know there’s a threat. Over thinking is our way of fucking it up. Lol.
While I'm not a fan of HP, I wouldn't want to be friends with someone who would leave me for buying a game. Then again, if you don't wanna put money into her pocket can try pirating it? Idk.
When I was young and broke 99% of the games I played were pirated.
I'm not that phycho, ex-coworker knows my situation and she started trying to stop this, as she does not want to be “the second one”. My girlfriend does know ex-coworker, just does not know the extent of mutual understanding.
I can’t imagine the mental gymnastics you have to do to keep up the lie to both! Your showing some real psychopathic tendencies. Maybe it’s time to visit a doctor and get formally diagnosed?
I've started seeing a therapist a week ago, but thanks for asking. I am aware I am a terrible person and I realised I should think about the consequences beforehand. But it is easy to judge when emotions are not involved.
You leave. Her mental health doesn’t give her a free pass to treat you like shit. You can try to get her to sign up for mental health services, but if she isn’t going to work on herself, leaving will only help you
Blind man moment. Thanks dog. As long as she deleted everything and doesn't do it anymore I'd be kosher with it. Obviously her continuing to do it is the problem right. A minor obsession is natural so tell her that much and just be like “I feel I'm not understood when I tell you that makes me uncomfortable.”
She planted a seed for no reason (maybe casual guilt) so you were in your rights to protect yourself. She might make it about going through her phone so just say “we can figure that out later but I just need to talk about this right now.”
Tell him to grow up and you’ll exercise how you damn well please. Just as he’s chosen to do. He also needs to backseat shit talking his wife and act like a husband. Do not give in on this. I can’t stress this enough.
Dated med student > married first year intern > divorced Specialist trainee . I'm 33F, and I spent 10 years around the medical world. Physician trainee blah blah.blah. You legit have NO life…..
I'm an attorney a couple of decades older than you and I still don't get it. It wouldn't even occur to me to care about the type of stuff my SO read unless it was like…Q-anon MLM crap.
There is no situation for you to have to deal with. You are in your home, and invited your boyfriend.
I think it’s time to end this roommate situation with her. For any chance to save the release. And your sanity. Also, you need to learn to set boundaries.
Why is this even embarrassing? Recently a neighbor put out a desk in front of her yard. It was perfect for me. I saw it while walking my dog, and went back for it with my car. She saw me and came out and helped me put it in my car. I told her what I wanted to use it for, we had a nice two minute chat, and that was that. OP, just say, hey thanks, I saw your rug and it's perfect for my place. Or say nothing at all! You didn't do anything wrong. You helped them out really. Now they don't have to get it hauled away. It's just a non-issue.
I think you're right but that also might because most my friends I dated or was interested at some point, didn't work out so now we are here.
That’s been talked about for a while. I agree.
Yikes Tbh your a psycho for hacking his IG. As If invasion of privacy isn't a thing, he dodged a missile big-time with you.
john can jump off a bridge.
an few week isn’t enough to fall deeply in love. take it show
In John and Julie Gottman’s latest book, The Love Prescription, they talked about how although they’re both therapists, they went through couple’s therapy and the therapist favored John. When he recognized that the therapist was being rude to Julie he fired her. Point is, even therapists take a while to see when their therapist is not a good fit.
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So anytime you are having problems with your SO and a short break you will start texting other girls?.
Please relook into your relationship again whether you really love or SO. If you do you will not cheat on her or text other woman when you are bored.
Tell your SO the truth of you infidelity 10 years ago and this recent once. She needs to decide whether you are worth being her man.
Everyone experiences fear and anxiety, it’s how you respond to it that matters. Taking action to protect yourself is a reasonable response to the risk of harm from a threat actor. Anxiety is the body’s way of letting us know there’s a threat. Over thinking is our way of fucking it up. Lol.
You will be better off ending it with GF and go back to looking for someone who wants a serious relationship!
While I'm not a fan of HP, I wouldn't want to be friends with someone who would leave me for buying a game. Then again, if you don't wanna put money into her pocket can try pirating it? Idk.
When I was young and broke 99% of the games I played were pirated.
I really want to block him but its awkward cause then i have to see him at the gym again. I just dont know if it'll work out.
If you really want to block him, then don't pursue anything. Next time he approaches, just say you're not interested and put your headphones on.
So neither of them know about the other?
I'm not that phycho, ex-coworker knows my situation and she started trying to stop this, as she does not want to be “the second one”. My girlfriend does know ex-coworker, just does not know the extent of mutual understanding.
I can’t imagine the mental gymnastics you have to do to keep up the lie to both! Your showing some real psychopathic tendencies. Maybe it’s time to visit a doctor and get formally diagnosed?
I've started seeing a therapist a week ago, but thanks for asking. I am aware I am a terrible person and I realised I should think about the consequences beforehand. But it is easy to judge when emotions are not involved.
You leave. Her mental health doesn’t give her a free pass to treat you like shit. You can try to get her to sign up for mental health services, but if she isn’t going to work on herself, leaving will only help you
You broke it, you replace it. Work with her to find a similar car and try to get a good deal on it instead of arguing about the value of her old car.
Blind man moment. Thanks dog. As long as she deleted everything and doesn't do it anymore I'd be kosher with it. Obviously her continuing to do it is the problem right. A minor obsession is natural so tell her that much and just be like “I feel I'm not understood when I tell you that makes me uncomfortable.”
She planted a seed for no reason (maybe casual guilt) so you were in your rights to protect yourself. She might make it about going through her phone so just say “we can figure that out later but I just need to talk about this right now.”
Tell him to grow up and you’ll exercise how you damn well please. Just as he’s chosen to do. He also needs to backseat shit talking his wife and act like a husband. Do not give in on this. I can’t stress this enough.
That’s exactly what happened to me!!! He literally said “I warned you” and said I only had myself to blame I was like whatttttt
Do you realize he is physically abusing you? That’s in addition to being a controlling asshole.
Hold him accountable how? Your BF’s friend is a grown ass man lol
It's partly hypocritical. In the dance class format she had a problem with switching partners. But in this scenario she clearly didn't mind.
She shouldn't of continued dancing with him after I made it clear I was uncomfortable with it though. Just out of respect.
“So fucking childish”. You said it yourself.
You said she was stressed out about work, money. And her son has issues at school. I think it all affects. These problems.
Dated med student > married first year intern > divorced Specialist trainee . I'm 33F, and I spent 10 years around the medical world. Physician trainee blah blah.blah. You legit have NO life…..
He sounds like a horrible person and you deserve better
Nah, you're with someone who clearly doesn't value what she has with you and being in an open marriage isn't going to fix it or make it better.
You're clearly not for this. Rip the band-aid off now. You and your kids will be better for it in the long run.
…..what?
I'm an attorney a couple of decades older than you and I still don't get it. It wouldn't even occur to me to care about the type of stuff my SO read unless it was like…Q-anon MLM crap.
The fact he's this mad is bananas.
There is no situation for you to have to deal with. You are in your home, and invited your boyfriend.
I think it’s time to end this roommate situation with her. For any chance to save the release. And your sanity. Also, you need to learn to set boundaries.
That’s what I thought about OP when I read this – hot garbage
Honestly, if I were you, I would look into the cool temporary tattoos they have these days. There are even designers who can make custom ones.
Then you can express yourself the way you like, and have the option to change your mind on placement and design. Best of both worlds.
Do you trust him?
That is so gross. Beyond gross. That is why dudes have doodoo marks in their underwear
Why is this even embarrassing? Recently a neighbor put out a desk in front of her yard. It was perfect for me. I saw it while walking my dog, and went back for it with my car. She saw me and came out and helped me put it in my car. I told her what I wanted to use it for, we had a nice two minute chat, and that was that. OP, just say, hey thanks, I saw your rug and it's perfect for my place. Or say nothing at all! You didn't do anything wrong. You helped them out really. Now they don't have to get it hauled away. It's just a non-issue.