I wonder if her moving out has anything to do with avoiding being a live-in free babysitter, OP also doesn't mention a single word of how is her relationship with her stepmother.
Because you're reaching. His oldest is only 6, so she would have been 19 when the kid was born. She was an adult when she moved out.
So, if you find yourself in a similar situation in the future:
1) Do not get in a car that someone who is beligerently, incoherently drunk is driving.
2) Don't get in a car with someone who is being a beligerent asshole even if that person is sober. Cabs exist; call one.
3) Call the police to report the drunk driver; endangering everyone else on the road is terribly antisocial.
So, yeah, you should have made better decisions – well before the point of snapping from being yelled at and grabbed and kicked out if the car. Given where you are now, I'd seriously consider breaking up with someone who would treat me so poorly in your place.
All the love in the world isn’t going to make this relationship work. She’s cheated multiple times as revenge and she makes you feel bad every day. She’s vindictive and hurting you on purpose. You don’t need it. Love yourself more and walk away.
You've been together for 10 years. At this point he should know whether he wants to marry you or not. He should be happy and excited to marry you, it isnt something that you should ask him to do you know? It doesn't seem like he wants to marry you to me.
I think you should have a serious conversation about your future goals. If you want to get married and have kids, and he isn't ready for that kind of commitment then you aren't compatible. I don't know if waiting more years for him to propose is the right decision, you don't want to end up in your late 20s or 30s still unmarried or single, since at that age it is harder to date, and if you want kids I'd say right now its a good time to look for a serious relationship so you can be married or have kids (if thats what you want) in your 30s.
You’re 19. Do yourself a favor and take the advice of the top comment here and work on yourself. Or in the words of an old meme… “disregard females, acquire currency”.
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I wonder if her moving out has anything to do with avoiding being a live-in free babysitter, OP also doesn't mention a single word of how is her relationship with her stepmother.
Because you're reaching. His oldest is only 6, so she would have been 19 when the kid was born. She was an adult when she moved out.
So, if you find yourself in a similar situation in the future:
1) Do not get in a car that someone who is beligerently, incoherently drunk is driving.
2) Don't get in a car with someone who is being a beligerent asshole even if that person is sober. Cabs exist; call one.
3) Call the police to report the drunk driver; endangering everyone else on the road is terribly antisocial.
So, yeah, you should have made better decisions – well before the point of snapping from being yelled at and grabbed and kicked out if the car. Given where you are now, I'd seriously consider breaking up with someone who would treat me so poorly in your place.
You’re gonna get pregnant and be stuck coparenting with a useless lazy idiot. What about that sounds appealing to you, OP?
Hmm
All the love in the world isn’t going to make this relationship work. She’s cheated multiple times as revenge and she makes you feel bad every day. She’s vindictive and hurting you on purpose. You don’t need it. Love yourself more and walk away.
You've been together for 10 years. At this point he should know whether he wants to marry you or not. He should be happy and excited to marry you, it isnt something that you should ask him to do you know? It doesn't seem like he wants to marry you to me.
I think you should have a serious conversation about your future goals. If you want to get married and have kids, and he isn't ready for that kind of commitment then you aren't compatible. I don't know if waiting more years for him to propose is the right decision, you don't want to end up in your late 20s or 30s still unmarried or single, since at that age it is harder to date, and if you want kids I'd say right now its a good time to look for a serious relationship so you can be married or have kids (if thats what you want) in your 30s.
You’re 19. Do yourself a favor and take the advice of the top comment here and work on yourself. Or in the words of an old meme… “disregard females, acquire currency”.
You can't help him, yeah he is a mess but not your mess, focus on your healing and leave him in the rear view.