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Impossible to say. Yes, it could mean he's checked out of your relationship… But you have a newborn. It's normal for first-time parents to be completely overwhelmed at that time.
That being said, I want to know more about what your relationship was like before you had a baby. For that matter, what's the division of labor like right now? Your post makes it sound like you're following the baby 24/7, which is absolutely ridiculous; he should be way, way, way more involved, regardless of the fact that you're on FMLA and he isn't. (Why aren't the two of you trading overnight feedings so that each of you can get longer segments of consecutive sleep? I mean, assuming that works: if one of you has insomnia and can't go back to bed for another 4 hours, it makes sense for the other one to do all the nighttime feedings. Now you know why I haven't gotten much sleep for the last 19 months.) To be clear, none of this conflicts with my previous statement — it's overwhelming as all heck; and, even with what seems to be a comparatively reduced workload, it could be that your husband feels completely swamped. But I'd still question this division of labor.
We have a belief in our culture that good parents are dedicated parents — that the proper way to parent is to have no other identity. This is not only wrong, it's backwards. As you've just discovered, self-care is incredibly important; it's the foundation of being a good parent. So, while I wouldn't be pointing fingers or lofting accusations, I would point out to him that putting your relationship, as husband and wife, off to one side in favor of the child is fundamentally harmful to the marriage and therefore to the child by proxy. And, if you've been doing the same — which would be understandable; a child is still overwhelming — this would be a good opportunity to confront that and question it.
You need to separate from that aspect of her life. Heretofore she was your fuck buddy. She no longer occupies that role. What or who she does is not your concerned unless you have kids in common and her conduct is negatively impacting them.
So you don't stalk her social media- keep communication solely to business and brass tacks and don't wander into discussions about who/what she is doing on the side, nor vice versa. Same thing with weepy, sad and emotional breaking up discussions. I would curtail those and prepare for emotionally separating.
Had she ever been/did oral with someone else? Not making excuses but if she hadn't maybe her drunk mind thought this was her last shot to try it on with someone else.
I just had to add this part in case anybody else wanted to know more, I met S through my partner. The day that I met S, she told me drunkenly that she’s always been into my partner and asked if she could sleep with him. It threw me off, and he isn’t close to her anymore. She got with her boyfriend a month later. This might add more to the story, I think she’s always been jealous.
Why is her happiness more important than yours? If she’s not the right person she’s not the right person. Staying with her is doing both of you a disservice. Break ups are nude, but you’ll both get over it and move on with your lives. You don’t have to hate each other, but you can’t set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.
Impossible to say. Yes, it could mean he's checked out of your relationship… But you have a newborn. It's normal for first-time parents to be completely overwhelmed at that time.
That being said, I want to know more about what your relationship was like before you had a baby. For that matter, what's the division of labor like right now? Your post makes it sound like you're following the baby 24/7, which is absolutely ridiculous; he should be way, way, way more involved, regardless of the fact that you're on FMLA and he isn't. (Why aren't the two of you trading overnight feedings so that each of you can get longer segments of consecutive sleep? I mean, assuming that works: if one of you has insomnia and can't go back to bed for another 4 hours, it makes sense for the other one to do all the nighttime feedings. Now you know why I haven't gotten much sleep for the last 19 months.) To be clear, none of this conflicts with my previous statement — it's overwhelming as all heck; and, even with what seems to be a comparatively reduced workload, it could be that your husband feels completely swamped. But I'd still question this division of labor.
We have a belief in our culture that good parents are dedicated parents — that the proper way to parent is to have no other identity. This is not only wrong, it's backwards. As you've just discovered, self-care is incredibly important; it's the foundation of being a good parent. So, while I wouldn't be pointing fingers or lofting accusations, I would point out to him that putting your relationship, as husband and wife, off to one side in favor of the child is fundamentally harmful to the marriage and therefore to the child by proxy. And, if you've been doing the same — which would be understandable; a child is still overwhelming — this would be a good opportunity to confront that and question it.
Best wishes, and happy belated birthday!
With my ex we had fun when we were drinking and partying together, but when I was sober he just irritated me
Your boyfriend dropped a lifelong friend for a girl he just met? Thats a red flag.
Yeah thats probably the only thing i can do now in this state.
The worst part is that her boyfriend is the only victim and he doesn't even know it and i am unsure if she will ever tell
You need to separate from that aspect of her life. Heretofore she was your fuck buddy. She no longer occupies that role. What or who she does is not your concerned unless you have kids in common and her conduct is negatively impacting them.
So you don't stalk her social media- keep communication solely to business and brass tacks and don't wander into discussions about who/what she is doing on the side, nor vice versa. Same thing with weepy, sad and emotional breaking up discussions. I would curtail those and prepare for emotionally separating.
Had she ever been/did oral with someone else? Not making excuses but if she hadn't maybe her drunk mind thought this was her last shot to try it on with someone else.
I just had to add this part in case anybody else wanted to know more, I met S through my partner. The day that I met S, she told me drunkenly that she’s always been into my partner and asked if she could sleep with him. It threw me off, and he isn’t close to her anymore. She got with her boyfriend a month later. This might add more to the story, I think she’s always been jealous.
What about “douchebag”. Are we allowed that one? Or does your Reddit Highness have a monopole on that one also? ?
Why is her happiness more important than yours? If she’s not the right person she’s not the right person. Staying with her is doing both of you a disservice. Break ups are nude, but you’ll both get over it and move on with your lives. You don’t have to hate each other, but you can’t set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.