She needs professional medical help. “I can't help it” is not an excuse to abuse your partner. She knows she's doing it but is excusing her behavior. If she's not willing to get help it says a lot.
Your GF is clearly not interested in “training” someone new. She is claiming to have a low libido / lack of interest (this may have been deflection from the real issue, nude to tell. You are not being as sensitive to her wants/desires as you should be When you fail, she is not constructive You are inexperienced and insecure
1 & 4 are the real issues here. She's stuck by you for a year despite not being very satisfied sexually, so you clearly got something going for you. However, at a certain point, you do need to consider that maybe there's some real compatibility issues here. You clearly need some constructive criticism, if not outright instruction. She doesn't seem willing to put in that effort. Does that sound like the kind of sex life you want for the forseeable future?
If not, then you need to have a calm, reasonable discussion with her about what kind of sex life you DO want.
If you were to tell her.. I would tell her before school. Because she will be upset and unhappy for a time, and that can mess with her school performance/attendance.
And in that case, I would call her now, yes. Because the longer you wait, the harder it will feel to do it. But before you do, think of what you're going to say. You'll apologize, but what else? Will you ask if she wants to stay with you? What will you say if she says no? Will you show grace or will you get angry and say something mean?
Take a minute and think over what you'll say carefully.
She needs professional medical help. “I can't help it” is not an excuse to abuse your partner. She knows she's doing it but is excusing her behavior. If she's not willing to get help it says a lot.
So humiliating and disrespectful and she doesn't even get it.
So it seems to me there's a few issues here:
Your GF is clearly not interested in “training” someone new. She is claiming to have a low libido / lack of interest (this may have been deflection from the real issue, nude to tell. You are not being as sensitive to her wants/desires as you should be When you fail, she is not constructive You are inexperienced and insecure
1 & 4 are the real issues here. She's stuck by you for a year despite not being very satisfied sexually, so you clearly got something going for you. However, at a certain point, you do need to consider that maybe there's some real compatibility issues here. You clearly need some constructive criticism, if not outright instruction. She doesn't seem willing to put in that effort. Does that sound like the kind of sex life you want for the forseeable future?
If not, then you need to have a calm, reasonable discussion with her about what kind of sex life you DO want.
If you were to tell her.. I would tell her before school. Because she will be upset and unhappy for a time, and that can mess with her school performance/attendance.
And in that case, I would call her now, yes. Because the longer you wait, the harder it will feel to do it. But before you do, think of what you're going to say. You'll apologize, but what else? Will you ask if she wants to stay with you? What will you say if she says no? Will you show grace or will you get angry and say something mean?
Take a minute and think over what you'll say carefully.