You DO have to “accept him” as he is because people shouldn't have to change to suit a partner's whims. But he has the do the same with you. You and this person just aren't a good match. You may have been great friends but you're obviously incompatible as romantic partners.
Yeah. Was a but awkward at first and we kinda stayed out of each other's way for a while but she's part of his (and now mine) friend group so she was always going to be around. We're really good friends now, getting real close as we have a lot in common and I'm glad things have worked out that way. My bf is a lovely man and I think it's a mark of his amazing character that something that could have been so messy has been totally drama free.
I guess it's misleading to say I didn't have some doubtful moments when we all went into lockdown (they had 2 other flatmates) but ultimately this is the way I see it – if he's going to betray me or cheat then he's going to. That's got nothing to do with me really, but is a flaw in his character. Living together or going out to a club or whatever makes no difference in my mind. Whether it's premeditated or a heat of the moment thing, ultimately it's his decision to go past the point of no return and the circumstances don't really matter. It's nothing to do with me and nothing I can control, it's his choice and his consequences. He knows I will leave in a heartbeat, we've talked about it, discussed our definitions of cheating etc. I trust him implicitly until given reason not to, in which case I will be out the door
If I have to put restrictions on what my partner can or cannot do just to keep them loyal… well I'd rather not bother at all
The thing is how this is affecting the way he deals with things. If something makes him stressed, he’s gonna do it. And where we are in life , the probability of being stressed is high.
He must have really great seats … either that, or he didn’t rape her.
You DO have to “accept him” as he is because people shouldn't have to change to suit a partner's whims. But he has the do the same with you. You and this person just aren't a good match. You may have been great friends but you're obviously incompatible as romantic partners.
Yeah. Was a but awkward at first and we kinda stayed out of each other's way for a while but she's part of his (and now mine) friend group so she was always going to be around. We're really good friends now, getting real close as we have a lot in common and I'm glad things have worked out that way. My bf is a lovely man and I think it's a mark of his amazing character that something that could have been so messy has been totally drama free.
I guess it's misleading to say I didn't have some doubtful moments when we all went into lockdown (they had 2 other flatmates) but ultimately this is the way I see it – if he's going to betray me or cheat then he's going to. That's got nothing to do with me really, but is a flaw in his character. Living together or going out to a club or whatever makes no difference in my mind. Whether it's premeditated or a heat of the moment thing, ultimately it's his decision to go past the point of no return and the circumstances don't really matter. It's nothing to do with me and nothing I can control, it's his choice and his consequences. He knows I will leave in a heartbeat, we've talked about it, discussed our definitions of cheating etc. I trust him implicitly until given reason not to, in which case I will be out the door
If I have to put restrictions on what my partner can or cannot do just to keep them loyal… well I'd rather not bother at all
Just don't be friends with him.
Break up it's heading that way. She could be already cheating. Your relationship will never be the same.
I’m aware. It was a genera term
The thing is how this is affecting the way he deals with things. If something makes him stressed, he’s gonna do it. And where we are in life , the probability of being stressed is high.