This evening he asked for some alone time, said he thinks his jealousy is getting out of his hand, and that he needs to reflect on his actions, and that on Monday we will see each other for sure.
You have to change the way you look at things and the things you look at change. Be kind and gentle with yourself. Give yourself some slack you have a lot on your plate and is causing you distress. The thing about alcohol it’s a depressant I know your busy numbing your negative feelings but the same time your doing that your also numbing your positive ones, which can cause us to lash out…
You sound very caring. We can get lost in our loved ones and forget about ourselves we are so busy making everyone else happy that we forget about our own happiness. We put our dreams on hold to help other peoples dream come true. It’s time to focus on you…
You are on a journey of healing and healing isn’t always linear far from it. Remember it’s a process and not an event and everybody’s journey is different. Refocus your time and energy and start investing in yourself. It will be the best investment you ever make!
None of this is healthy. Postpone the wedding because you will be miserable if you start a marriage like you currently are.
You have tons of unresolved trauma which is why a song is triggering for you.
Your fiancé feels completely left in the dark because you won’t talk to her about said trauma. And is now trying to put a happier meaning to something horribly traumatic and doesn’t understand what is going on because you haven’t processed or confided in her.
This isn’t about a song.
This is about you not processing your grief and your trauma from a very difficult time in your life and it is now poisoning your future.
Talk to a therapist, talk to your SO, just talk about that time and that pain and process it. Stop trying to bury that suffering young man because he needs to come out and heal or you will never have a future.
If you just cover over a wound and never clean it, an infection will form. And that infection will eventually kill you. Your trauma is that wound and you have to open it up and flush it out and let it heal.
This evening he asked for some alone time, said he thinks his jealousy is getting out of his hand, and that he needs to reflect on his actions, and that on Monday we will see each other for sure.
I don’t know how to think about that.
You have to change the way you look at things and the things you look at change. Be kind and gentle with yourself. Give yourself some slack you have a lot on your plate and is causing you distress. The thing about alcohol it’s a depressant I know your busy numbing your negative feelings but the same time your doing that your also numbing your positive ones, which can cause us to lash out…
You sound very caring. We can get lost in our loved ones and forget about ourselves we are so busy making everyone else happy that we forget about our own happiness. We put our dreams on hold to help other peoples dream come true. It’s time to focus on you…
You are on a journey of healing and healing isn’t always linear far from it. Remember it’s a process and not an event and everybody’s journey is different. Refocus your time and energy and start investing in yourself. It will be the best investment you ever make!
None of this is healthy. Postpone the wedding because you will be miserable if you start a marriage like you currently are.
You have tons of unresolved trauma which is why a song is triggering for you.
Your fiancé feels completely left in the dark because you won’t talk to her about said trauma. And is now trying to put a happier meaning to something horribly traumatic and doesn’t understand what is going on because you haven’t processed or confided in her.
This isn’t about a song.
This is about you not processing your grief and your trauma from a very difficult time in your life and it is now poisoning your future.
Talk to a therapist, talk to your SO, just talk about that time and that pain and process it. Stop trying to bury that suffering young man because he needs to come out and heal or you will never have a future.
If you just cover over a wound and never clean it, an infection will form. And that infection will eventually kill you. Your trauma is that wound and you have to open it up and flush it out and let it heal.
Did you miss the part he said he was in a queer relationship with this man? It's in a comment.
Thank you for your reply! I agree with you and wanted to know if live! strangers would feel the same before I stuck to any decisions.
goddamn he sounds like a huge piece of shit. I would NEVER stand for that.