I have a female best friend for 16 years. We met when we were both single, we have never dated, we have never complimented each others body, we don't detail sexual talk (she doesnt know how big mine is, how long i last in bed, what my fetishes are), we have always supported each others relationship, we have always given each other plenty of space like there's times we dont even talk for a whole month. She is just my best friend, she's not an important icon on my personal life but a trustworthy person on my public one. This is key when guys and girls are friends. Friends are public, near 100% keeping secrets from your partner just because they are just best friend is just asking for trouble and honestly don't date anyone that hypes how special their opposite gender friend is.
I get your point of view in this comment. And yes you make sense about the restrictions. Although there weren’t necessarily restrictions that he gave me in this relationship as i’ve kept to myself and made my own decision to not game with my guy friends as much, I’ve uphold the promises that I made to him such as “eating breakfast every morning” (as I’m battling eating disorders) and also I’ve made changes in myself by talking it out and not going quiet/ avoiding him during an argument.
I guess the entire ordeal I might be affected because I thought he would uphold his promises to me as well or at the very least talk about it with me if it gets too overwhelming. Again, instead of saying I’m blaming him for being unable to change, I’m more upset that he lied to me about it.
But on the other hand, yes, age could’ve played a part in this as well. & whether it’s fair or not, I think it’s about whether your partner would be comfortable or not. Because ultimately even though nobody is perfect, I think its important to respect one another’s feeling.
This has been a whole ordeal for me I am most certainly not making this up. I have been near suicidal at this point.
I can’t explain it but I am so in love with him. We get along better than I have ever gotten along with someone, my friend literally said we are ‘made for eachother’.
The herpes doesn’t change the fact he slept with someone. I needed to figure out if the sleeping with someone alone gets the same reaction from people when leaving the herpes side out – as I have accepted that part.
You can explain to her it won't be easy, and you can't guarentee you will be able to. If she's willing to do her best for the relationship; you can choose to try and do the same.
But be realistic with that and give yourself a fair timeframe. Perhaps take a short break so you can think. If she's really willing to work on that; she'll give you that space.
That said, trust won't come back for everyone. Even if you want to forgive someone, doesn't mean you can truly do so from the bottom of your heart. That however, is an answer you have to find on your own
This isn't support this is playing therapist and enabling his behavior. Why would he even attempt to better himself? He's also not a child to be coddled and encouraged to do things just to even attempt achieving something for himself. And you're supposed to be aroused by this after? Just gross.
It's hot but what made it easier for me is reminding myself why would I want to be with someone who doesn't actually want to be with me. I hope OP can leave
Growing up female you soon learn that when you tell a man 'I don't want to' they don't give a shit as they don't respect you or your wants, if you tell a man 'another man already has position of me' they tend to respect that more, even that didn't work in this case but most women would attest to what I've just said.
I have zero feelings for the guy, I wouldn't have had no contact for 10 years if I did.
I have a female best friend for 16 years. We met when we were both single, we have never dated, we have never complimented each others body, we don't detail sexual talk (she doesnt know how big mine is, how long i last in bed, what my fetishes are), we have always supported each others relationship, we have always given each other plenty of space like there's times we dont even talk for a whole month. She is just my best friend, she's not an important icon on my personal life but a trustworthy person on my public one. This is key when guys and girls are friends. Friends are public, near 100% keeping secrets from your partner just because they are just best friend is just asking for trouble and honestly don't date anyone that hypes how special their opposite gender friend is.
MY DUDE!!
I get your point of view in this comment. And yes you make sense about the restrictions. Although there weren’t necessarily restrictions that he gave me in this relationship as i’ve kept to myself and made my own decision to not game with my guy friends as much, I’ve uphold the promises that I made to him such as “eating breakfast every morning” (as I’m battling eating disorders) and also I’ve made changes in myself by talking it out and not going quiet/ avoiding him during an argument.
I guess the entire ordeal I might be affected because I thought he would uphold his promises to me as well or at the very least talk about it with me if it gets too overwhelming. Again, instead of saying I’m blaming him for being unable to change, I’m more upset that he lied to me about it.
But on the other hand, yes, age could’ve played a part in this as well. & whether it’s fair or not, I think it’s about whether your partner would be comfortable or not. Because ultimately even though nobody is perfect, I think its important to respect one another’s feeling.
This has been a whole ordeal for me I am most certainly not making this up. I have been near suicidal at this point.
I can’t explain it but I am so in love with him. We get along better than I have ever gotten along with someone, my friend literally said we are ‘made for eachother’.
The herpes doesn’t change the fact he slept with someone. I needed to figure out if the sleeping with someone alone gets the same reaction from people when leaving the herpes side out – as I have accepted that part.
Life has already kicked my ass plenty.. so thanks? ??♀️
Forgiveness is a step towards rebuilding trust.
You can explain to her it won't be easy, and you can't guarentee you will be able to. If she's willing to do her best for the relationship; you can choose to try and do the same.
But be realistic with that and give yourself a fair timeframe. Perhaps take a short break so you can think. If she's really willing to work on that; she'll give you that space.
That said, trust won't come back for everyone. Even if you want to forgive someone, doesn't mean you can truly do so from the bottom of your heart. That however, is an answer you have to find on your own
That's the thing! Even if it was just a selfie with the city in the background, I could kinda understand that
But this pic is obviously supposed to show off her ass in tight pants. And she has a nice ass too….
This is the 3rd time
You are right. I have tunnel vision. Clearly. Thank you.
That sounds like a mother / sex worker situation.
You don't even leave together ?
This isn't support this is playing therapist and enabling his behavior. Why would he even attempt to better himself? He's also not a child to be coddled and encouraged to do things just to even attempt achieving something for himself. And you're supposed to be aroused by this after? Just gross.
It's hot but what made it easier for me is reminding myself why would I want to be with someone who doesn't actually want to be with me. I hope OP can leave
Growing up female you soon learn that when you tell a man 'I don't want to' they don't give a shit as they don't respect you or your wants, if you tell a man 'another man already has position of me' they tend to respect that more, even that didn't work in this case but most women would attest to what I've just said.
I have zero feelings for the guy, I wouldn't have had no contact for 10 years if I did.