OP, I'm sorry you're in this situation. Although it will hurt, you need to tell her that until she's free, you are not going to be available for her. She can contact you when that happens.
This will get her to commit to a course of action to either leave her current relationship or not. It will give you the opportunity to pursue other relationships. Don't waste your time waiting for her to make a decision. You'll be 35 and wondering why you waited so long to find someone else.
Sometimes when people are insecure in their own attractiveness, they seek outside validation that they are attractive from any source, regardless of how they feel. They may not even be aware that she’s doing it.
But, it is impacting you, and you need to talk to her about how it makes you feel. Not in an accusing way, just in the same way she’s mentioned things to you as well. I get the sense from how you’ve written this that you’ll approach it well. And that her own experiences of feeling insecure will hopefully help her to see it from your side as well. Good luck!
It would be foolish for you to move cross country for a man that doesn't even want to live! with you. While he is pursuing his dreams you will be waiting for him to give you attention. Stay where you are and pursue your own dreams.
I’m not interested in pressuring him to date me – I don’t want to date someone who wants to be pressured into it lol. I know he doesn’t want more, I’m having a hot time moving on.
You aren't a match OP. Right away he was disrespectful and called you a slur. He has his porn and you have yours, but he knows what he lacks in your relationship but chooses to just be selfish.
I wouldn't stay with a person like this and we all know it's BS that he friends had something to say about it. Your bf thought it's a point in this argument and he will be on top.
OP just break it off and find someone that wants you for you and can match your needs on your levels, as you can do for them.
I would feel the same tbh but it’s him to him
That is pretty common. People are social, your SO is part of the family.
The intentions question is a weird one….but asking him where he is from is pretty standard socialization.
OP, I'm sorry you're in this situation. Although it will hurt, you need to tell her that until she's free, you are not going to be available for her. She can contact you when that happens.
This will get her to commit to a course of action to either leave her current relationship or not. It will give you the opportunity to pursue other relationships. Don't waste your time waiting for her to make a decision. You'll be 35 and wondering why you waited so long to find someone else.
He threw a tantrum because she wouldn't give him food from her fork.
He sounds like an asshole.
Sometimes when people are insecure in their own attractiveness, they seek outside validation that they are attractive from any source, regardless of how they feel. They may not even be aware that she’s doing it.
But, it is impacting you, and you need to talk to her about how it makes you feel. Not in an accusing way, just in the same way she’s mentioned things to you as well. I get the sense from how you’ve written this that you’ll approach it well. And that her own experiences of feeling insecure will hopefully help her to see it from your side as well. Good luck!
Not normal behavior whatsoever. Lose this dick.
It would be foolish for you to move cross country for a man that doesn't even want to live! with you. While he is pursuing his dreams you will be waiting for him to give you attention. Stay where you are and pursue your own dreams.
“He got me pregnant”
No, you got you pregnant, he was just the club you used to get knocked up.
You don’t have a relationship, you are co-parents and he has never been interested in parenting.
Exactly this. If sex was important to OP's girlfriend at all, she would be having it with him or pushing for marriage years ago.
I’m not interested in pressuring him to date me – I don’t want to date someone who wants to be pressured into it lol. I know he doesn’t want more, I’m having a hot time moving on.
You aren't a match OP. Right away he was disrespectful and called you a slur. He has his porn and you have yours, but he knows what he lacks in your relationship but chooses to just be selfish.
I wouldn't stay with a person like this and we all know it's BS that he friends had something to say about it. Your bf thought it's a point in this argument and he will be on top.
OP just break it off and find someone that wants you for you and can match your needs on your levels, as you can do for them.
Pfff i live! all my life on credit, everything is borrowed, even this phone i’m typing on, borrowed…
What is wrong with borrowed? Liquid money you have now are more valuable than liquid money you’ll have in the future