So In essence you’re shaming him for his libido being higher than yours. Instead of just having an adult conversation. You’re turning sex into a tit for tat. You legit complain about his libido but then complain about not getting more action. He asks for head, doesn’t sulk or complain…do you ever ask for oral, on your own as in not as an answer to him asking for it?
I regret not asking , the thing is that I could never imagine. Before the marriage we made plans to open a company in a specific country and etc … but right after we got married we move to his home town, he is not accepting any work and I am stuck here
It's not a robbery at gunpoint at a random gas station. This is directly related to his treatment of her. He violated the women he supposedly loved. He posted her online f*cking, without her knowledge.
Yep, I don't for one minute believe that after getting away with (AND being ok with) cheating and carrying on a whole other secret relationship for this many years, that out of the blue he suddenly decided to end it and make an unprompted confession due to guilt and his need to finally be truthful with OP.
Nope, no way. I think it was done under duress and he was attempting to get ahead of the sh*tstorm he knew might be coming his way. He was trying to spin the narrative and mitigate the damage. I think he ended it, blocked and ghosted the other woman in the hopes of being able to keep her from ever contacting OP, but knew he had to confess in case she figured out a way around him. She's probably a scorned woman/other woman, at this point.
This probably went down one of two ways. Either: A) She was a side chick and knew about his relationship with OP but thought he'd eventually pick her, and when she saw their relationship become really serious as of late (they moved in together) and he was choosing a life with OP, she threatened to out him. So he dumped and blocked her, then confessed.
Or: B) She didn't know she was a side chick and that he was in a long term relationship, and thought she was his girlfriend, and when she caught him and discovered she wasn't, went ballistic and threatened to track down and contact OP to let her know what a POS he is. So he blocked and ghosted her.
Seems to me that OP really needs to contact this woman to see if she can get her side of the story. However, she does need to take the things this woman may tell her with a grain of salt unless there's proof offered. She shouldn't believe a word coming out of her lying, cheating boyfriend's mouth.
Two questions to ask yourself, and an observation:
Q1: what do you hope to accomplish by doing telling him?
Q2: How do you honestly expect him to react to the news that you aren’t able to shake this off? Or another way of looking at the same thing, how would you react to finding out he was obsessing over someone else that he found attractive? Would you expect that reaction – his or yours – to be positive?
Observation: with practically four billion women on the planet, the variability between women renders differentiating between bi attractions and straight attractions moot. You’re attracted to the whole person, not just their genitalia.
Going back to her won’t work the way you think it might. We’ve got one life.
Going back to her won’t work the way you think it might. We’ve got one life.
Let a man come to you. Or he was never yours.
So In essence you’re shaming him for his libido being higher than yours. Instead of just having an adult conversation. You’re turning sex into a tit for tat. You legit complain about his libido but then complain about not getting more action. He asks for head, doesn’t sulk or complain…do you ever ask for oral, on your own as in not as an answer to him asking for it?
I regret not asking , the thing is that I could never imagine. Before the marriage we made plans to open a company in a specific country and etc … but right after we got married we move to his home town, he is not accepting any work and I am stuck here
It's not a robbery at gunpoint at a random gas station. This is directly related to his treatment of her. He violated the women he supposedly loved. He posted her online f*cking, without her knowledge.
Yep, I don't for one minute believe that after getting away with (AND being ok with) cheating and carrying on a whole other secret relationship for this many years, that out of the blue he suddenly decided to end it and make an unprompted confession due to guilt and his need to finally be truthful with OP.
Nope, no way. I think it was done under duress and he was attempting to get ahead of the sh*tstorm he knew might be coming his way. He was trying to spin the narrative and mitigate the damage. I think he ended it, blocked and ghosted the other woman in the hopes of being able to keep her from ever contacting OP, but knew he had to confess in case she figured out a way around him. She's probably a scorned woman/other woman, at this point.
This probably went down one of two ways. Either: A) She was a side chick and knew about his relationship with OP but thought he'd eventually pick her, and when she saw their relationship become really serious as of late (they moved in together) and he was choosing a life with OP, she threatened to out him. So he dumped and blocked her, then confessed.
Or: B) She didn't know she was a side chick and that he was in a long term relationship, and thought she was his girlfriend, and when she caught him and discovered she wasn't, went ballistic and threatened to track down and contact OP to let her know what a POS he is. So he blocked and ghosted her.
Seems to me that OP really needs to contact this woman to see if she can get her side of the story. However, she does need to take the things this woman may tell her with a grain of salt unless there's proof offered. She shouldn't believe a word coming out of her lying, cheating boyfriend's mouth.
Two questions to ask yourself, and an observation:
Q1: what do you hope to accomplish by doing telling him?
Q2: How do you honestly expect him to react to the news that you aren’t able to shake this off? Or another way of looking at the same thing, how would you react to finding out he was obsessing over someone else that he found attractive? Would you expect that reaction – his or yours – to be positive?
Observation: with practically four billion women on the planet, the variability between women renders differentiating between bi attractions and straight attractions moot. You’re attracted to the whole person, not just their genitalia.