OP, You are destroying your marriage by not understanding your wife's POV. You should be prioritizing your wife's comfort over your relationship with your ex.
You say that you are hurt because your wife doesn't trust you enough to have a friendship with your ex. It has nothing to do with trust here. It's all about respecting the marriage. She feels disrespected by you. You better change your attitude or else you are going to regret for your disgusting behavior towards your wife.
You need to stop having sex until after you had a vasectomy because trust me she's going to try for an accident and it doesn't matter if you have legal abortions in your state–she's not going to get one.
If we all stay very quiet, and if OP stops sobbing long for us to hear, on a quiet night, if we all listen very closely, we can still hear the words “If that's what you want” carried on the wind, through the dark.
In keeping with the rules of this sub, here's some gentle advice: OP, it's time to stop looking. It's very clear he's gone, and he's not interested in further talk.
If he’s being such a dick during your “honeymoon period” think of how much worse he can get. You’re allowed to be as dramatic as you feel and if he doesn’t like it, you guys are not a good match. It shouldn’t be this much work.
Very insensitive saying this is a “non-problem”, as it is a problem in our sex life, one we have discussed. Penetration is a preference and one that I enjoy, but it is not the whole of sex or emotional connection in a relationship. Good sex doesn't make a relationship, but bad sex can ruin one. Maybe to you it's not a big deal, and that's great, but people can have difference preferences. This apparent “non-problem” has bothered the BOTH of us for months now, and call me crazy but I thought to seek advice as to whether there's 1. A point to continue trying when so far we have been unsuccessful, and 2. What can we try. The two of us have talked about how this is more than just a physical issue now. I feel like I'm over this interaction as you've decided to not only disrespect me, judge my character, berate me as a person, claim the problems in my relationship are not legitimate, but also not offer any helpful advice or words of substance. I'd recommend introspection.
He deserve better.
OP, You are destroying your marriage by not understanding your wife's POV. You should be prioritizing your wife's comfort over your relationship with your ex.
You say that you are hurt because your wife doesn't trust you enough to have a friendship with your ex. It has nothing to do with trust here. It's all about respecting the marriage. She feels disrespected by you. You better change your attitude or else you are going to regret for your disgusting behavior towards your wife.
What's your involvement here?
If she was “anti kids”, she wouldn’t have wanted anything to do with yours. Writing was on the wall.
You need to stop having sex until after you had a vasectomy because trust me she's going to try for an accident and it doesn't matter if you have legal abortions in your state–she's not going to get one.
I do understand, thank you.
Dude's a legend. An actual ghost
If we all stay very quiet, and if OP stops sobbing long for us to hear, on a quiet night, if we all listen very closely, we can still hear the words “If that's what you want” carried on the wind, through the dark.
In keeping with the rules of this sub, here's some gentle advice: OP, it's time to stop looking. It's very clear he's gone, and he's not interested in further talk.
If he’s being such a dick during your “honeymoon period” think of how much worse he can get. You’re allowed to be as dramatic as you feel and if he doesn’t like it, you guys are not a good match. It shouldn’t be this much work.
You're most welcome. I think you should just cut ties and focus on yourself. Have fun! The best years of your life are in view. Don't waste them ?
Okay. You’re obviously a troll.
Very insensitive saying this is a “non-problem”, as it is a problem in our sex life, one we have discussed. Penetration is a preference and one that I enjoy, but it is not the whole of sex or emotional connection in a relationship. Good sex doesn't make a relationship, but bad sex can ruin one. Maybe to you it's not a big deal, and that's great, but people can have difference preferences. This apparent “non-problem” has bothered the BOTH of us for months now, and call me crazy but I thought to seek advice as to whether there's 1. A point to continue trying when so far we have been unsuccessful, and 2. What can we try. The two of us have talked about how this is more than just a physical issue now. I feel like I'm over this interaction as you've decided to not only disrespect me, judge my character, berate me as a person, claim the problems in my relationship are not legitimate, but also not offer any helpful advice or words of substance. I'd recommend introspection.