They can do whatever they want. It's a bit different if your ex treated you badly but if it was 2 years ago and you're over her then you're in the wrong. You dont get to control what they do.
Ask him to show you where he got that information. Also any details about the baptist churches and when they were founded. Maybe he will discover the 1600 year gap in his thinking.
I think there's a huge misconception where many people think this “naturally” will happen in any long term relationship, and as such that you should deal with it as a result.
What far too many people fail too realize is that context is everything. Will the “spark” decrease in a relationship over time in many situations? Absolutely. The problem is a misunderstanding of what that means.
To me, reigniting the spark means reminding each other why you fell in love to begin with, and working as a team to do so. It also means acknowledging reality. In saying that, let me use two examples, but before that, we need to acknowledge that generally speaking we almost always wear rose colored glasses in the beginning of every situation which might blind us from recognizing red flags. It's all sunshine and rainbows. An awesome feeling, but one that doesn't last sometimes when reality hits.
So for the first situation, which tying back to the second paragraph is unfortunately largely the case, one or both parties recognize that they're incompatible early on but force things forward regardless. Why? Largely because of inexperience. We assume things will just magically get better over time. Then, despite all evidence presented as things continue, we still want to hope for the best. It largely ends in people ending up hurt.
For the second situation, during the dating process the individuals learned after each date and over time that things are objectively good. They are in fact compatible. Their relationship progresses as it naturally should and big relationship steps are taken. As often happens, things get stagnant as things become comfortable. Here's where the line between healthy and unhealthy relationships exists.
The healthy relationship will realize things have become stagnant and like I said earlier, will work to bring the spark back. But the healthy relationship also doesn't have fundamental incompatibilities. Those can't be fixed. That's where the misconception is with the “no relationship is perfect” argument.” No relationship is perfect, that's the truth. But there are relationships that are objectively bad.
After this long winded essay, you laid out fundamental incompatibilities. You broke up as a result. Love isn't enough. As things have gone on, you haven't lost passion because this is what “naturally happens over time.” You've lost passion because you've been presented evidence in the past, and even though changes have been made, you're skeptical because of what you know. It's not about “flame.”
No one wants their exes to get with other people. That's not why you make life decisions.
That's what I was thinking. Most of the better shows don't have much if any fan service, they don't need to.
But then it gets to a point where he could just be honest with himself and go watch a hentai, stop wasting both their time with these shit shows lmao.
They can do whatever they want. It's a bit different if your ex treated you badly but if it was 2 years ago and you're over her then you're in the wrong. You dont get to control what they do.
Ask him to show you where he got that information. Also any details about the baptist churches and when they were founded. Maybe he will discover the 1600 year gap in his thinking.
Said perfectly
No one cheated. Let's not add crap onto an already crappy situation.
I think there's a huge misconception where many people think this “naturally” will happen in any long term relationship, and as such that you should deal with it as a result.
What far too many people fail too realize is that context is everything. Will the “spark” decrease in a relationship over time in many situations? Absolutely. The problem is a misunderstanding of what that means.
To me, reigniting the spark means reminding each other why you fell in love to begin with, and working as a team to do so. It also means acknowledging reality. In saying that, let me use two examples, but before that, we need to acknowledge that generally speaking we almost always wear rose colored glasses in the beginning of every situation which might blind us from recognizing red flags. It's all sunshine and rainbows. An awesome feeling, but one that doesn't last sometimes when reality hits.
So for the first situation, which tying back to the second paragraph is unfortunately largely the case, one or both parties recognize that they're incompatible early on but force things forward regardless. Why? Largely because of inexperience. We assume things will just magically get better over time. Then, despite all evidence presented as things continue, we still want to hope for the best. It largely ends in people ending up hurt.
For the second situation, during the dating process the individuals learned after each date and over time that things are objectively good. They are in fact compatible. Their relationship progresses as it naturally should and big relationship steps are taken. As often happens, things get stagnant as things become comfortable. Here's where the line between healthy and unhealthy relationships exists.
The healthy relationship will realize things have become stagnant and like I said earlier, will work to bring the spark back. But the healthy relationship also doesn't have fundamental incompatibilities. Those can't be fixed. That's where the misconception is with the “no relationship is perfect” argument.” No relationship is perfect, that's the truth. But there are relationships that are objectively bad.
After this long winded essay, you laid out fundamental incompatibilities. You broke up as a result. Love isn't enough. As things have gone on, you haven't lost passion because this is what “naturally happens over time.” You've lost passion because you've been presented evidence in the past, and even though changes have been made, you're skeptical because of what you know. It's not about “flame.”
No one wants their exes to get with other people. That's not why you make life decisions.