No hair picking that I’ve ever seen her do. She does pop pimples while doing her plucking, but she’s never picked up the tweezers to just pop pimples. I’ll certainly remember the “I” statements when it comes up again. Getting into couples therapy would be a great starting point too.
She’s getting the big D and probably calls him daddy too if that makes you sick to your stomach you’re right to feel that way, leave her without saying goodbye
Tell your stbx that you are not going to marry someone who is the emotional support animal of his completely codependent brother, and consistently prioritizes him above you/ your potential children. This would not be a happy marriage – take this as the giant wake-up call it is! I hope you'll have a blast at the party tomorrow, and a wonderful time on your impromptu vacation! You have really awesome friends!
By the way, what are your fiancé's objection to you traveling with your friends? After he just canceled your wedding, he shouldn't object to anything you plan to minimize the impact/ consequences.
This is pretty cut and dry a hostile workplace and sexual harassment.
Your office is openly pushing for you to have a relationship with a woman who you have no interest in being with.
Staying late to follow you around would be creepy if it was a man doing it, so it's creepy if a woman's doing it.
You are well within your rights to have HR step in here on your behalf. In fact, it would be protecting the company's ass at this point. If they don't help you help the company, then it's lawyer time.
I’ve been in this situation before, as someone who comes from a family full of addiction I’m incredibly transparent about not wanting to be with someone who does drugs.
Her lying to you and going out of her way to hide this from you speaks volumes. Our boundaries, ultimately, tell us when the situation isn’t right for us and this situation doesn’t sound like it’s right for you.
You need to realize that there's absolutely no information necessary here. He cheated. There's no excuse for it.
The worst part here is he's not even sorry. All he's done is try to excuse it. You wouldn't understand because you're not a man? What the fuck does that mean? Men aren't inherently wired to cheat (source: am a man). Your boyfriend is just a scumbag. You could even ask him what he means by that. I assure you he has no logical answer for it, because it's absolute nonsense. He in addition to that said a lot of shitty things. He's an awful person.
Also keep in mind that he didn't come clean; someone else told you. As such, if that didn't happen, you still wouldn't know. He feels like a piece of shit? Good. He is one. He's going to change? Time will tell.
His dad's death is irrelevant. I'm honestly sorry for him that it happened. Losing a parent is awful. But it doesn't make you cheat. He's separately a veteran. I want to say thank you for his service. I'm sure it comes with problems depending on what he experienced. That doesn't make you cheat. You're not trying to convince yourself that it being “just sex” is ok. The guy fucked another woman. You good with that? He's conflicted about his daughter? That doesn't make you cheat.
We all logically understand that you've built a life with him and leaving someone is incredibly difficult. That's not lost on any of us. But you're in a situation where your partner doesn't respect you You're in an objectively unhealthy relationship. You can't give up on that? If you can't, you're setting yourself up for a lifetime of misery, because you'll have shown him there's no consequences for his actions. This person you say is in love with you has been fucking someone else, and you only know about it because someone else told you. That's behavior of someone who loves you? I genuinely apologize again for being blunt because I understand this is an absolutely horrible situation you're in. But you need to recognize reality, because you deserve better. Good luck.
A dinner is a good idea! Thank you!
It’s the office set
No hair picking that I’ve ever seen her do. She does pop pimples while doing her plucking, but she’s never picked up the tweezers to just pop pimples. I’ll certainly remember the “I” statements when it comes up again. Getting into couples therapy would be a great starting point too.
I want my hoodie back
She’s getting the big D and probably calls him daddy too if that makes you sick to your stomach you’re right to feel that way, leave her without saying goodbye
Honestly I have no idea why she wouldn’t tell her friend either…
Tell your stbx that you are not going to marry someone who is the emotional support animal of his completely codependent brother, and consistently prioritizes him above you/ your potential children. This would not be a happy marriage – take this as the giant wake-up call it is! I hope you'll have a blast at the party tomorrow, and a wonderful time on your impromptu vacation! You have really awesome friends!
By the way, what are your fiancé's objection to you traveling with your friends? After he just canceled your wedding, he shouldn't object to anything you plan to minimize the impact/ consequences.
This is pretty cut and dry a hostile workplace and sexual harassment.
Your office is openly pushing for you to have a relationship with a woman who you have no interest in being with.
Staying late to follow you around would be creepy if it was a man doing it, so it's creepy if a woman's doing it.
You are well within your rights to have HR step in here on your behalf. In fact, it would be protecting the company's ass at this point. If they don't help you help the company, then it's lawyer time.
If you’re gonna comment at least read better. Wasn’t OPs friends but a friend of the sister.
So he was basically the reason why you have to find a new apartment and now he is mad bc you found a new one? You had no choice. What did he expect?
Also, your boyfriend caused you to be kicked out of your apartment. Think long and very hot about that before continuing with him.
Honestly, I would leave.
I’ve been in this situation before, as someone who comes from a family full of addiction I’m incredibly transparent about not wanting to be with someone who does drugs.
Her lying to you and going out of her way to hide this from you speaks volumes. Our boundaries, ultimately, tell us when the situation isn’t right for us and this situation doesn’t sound like it’s right for you.
You should be questioning everything – RUN
The relationship is over. Gather up your dignity and move on.
Make some excursions by yourself!! Go have fun and get drunk in the sand!! Ignore both of them and have a blast!
You need to realize that there's absolutely no information necessary here. He cheated. There's no excuse for it.
The worst part here is he's not even sorry. All he's done is try to excuse it. You wouldn't understand because you're not a man? What the fuck does that mean? Men aren't inherently wired to cheat (source: am a man). Your boyfriend is just a scumbag. You could even ask him what he means by that. I assure you he has no logical answer for it, because it's absolute nonsense. He in addition to that said a lot of shitty things. He's an awful person.
Also keep in mind that he didn't come clean; someone else told you. As such, if that didn't happen, you still wouldn't know. He feels like a piece of shit? Good. He is one. He's going to change? Time will tell.
His dad's death is irrelevant. I'm honestly sorry for him that it happened. Losing a parent is awful. But it doesn't make you cheat. He's separately a veteran. I want to say thank you for his service. I'm sure it comes with problems depending on what he experienced. That doesn't make you cheat. You're not trying to convince yourself that it being “just sex” is ok. The guy fucked another woman. You good with that? He's conflicted about his daughter? That doesn't make you cheat.
We all logically understand that you've built a life with him and leaving someone is incredibly difficult. That's not lost on any of us. But you're in a situation where your partner doesn't respect you You're in an objectively unhealthy relationship. You can't give up on that? If you can't, you're setting yourself up for a lifetime of misery, because you'll have shown him there's no consequences for his actions. This person you say is in love with you has been fucking someone else, and you only know about it because someone else told you. That's behavior of someone who loves you? I genuinely apologize again for being blunt because I understand this is an absolutely horrible situation you're in. But you need to recognize reality, because you deserve better. Good luck.