Honestly I would feel the same way you feel. His response to this sounds like excuses a predator would say. I’m 21 right now and laugh at the idea of me forming a really close bond with a 15 year old, let alone having sexual tension. Your bf is a red flag and for me that would be a complete deal breaker. What would he think when you guys have a daughter who’s 15? How would he feel if a 21 year old was inappropriately close to her? Im sorry you’re going through this :/
Would you be able to exercise instead 9f drinking? My brother and husband both ramp up the physical activity when going through really tough emotional times.
I'm sorry this happened to you. You'll get through it.
I know and feel your pain with you. I am so sorry this happened but please, do yourself a favor and try your best to think about this situation clearly. 8 years is a long time and no one likes to say it but everyday you wake up, you and your significant other make a decision to fight for your relationship because it is some HARD work. She did not fight for you on that day. If you choose to continue your relationship, this is the foundation you are setting your marriage on. I do believe people change but the ball is in your court – You make that decision to stay and she damn well better put 110% into fixing the damage she has caused. Sending you a virtual hug & mindful clarity.
My ex left me for another woman while my mother was dying. Your post infuriated me. Dump this POS loser and tell him to never come near you again, you deserve someone who respects and supports you during this tough time in your life.
I have counselling in general as I have anxiety, s
Was this the reason why you never “travelled” to see your ld bf at the time?
To be honest, she did admit to it in an email I saw, and having had a previous counselor fall asleep in a session I know how disheartening it can be …nd he is mocked (gently) a lot for how much he likes to talk – hes not comfortable in silence and he's very friendly – s
I hope your bf reported her to the board. This is not acceptable at all.
Make love to your wife more, 5 days a week like when you to gym, compliment her frequently and go out on dates with her, aside from helping out as much as you can in the house. This is to take her mind off you cheating on her, and hopefully with the extra care.you put on your wife, will reduce your time to do any cheating yourself.
I think if you continue to act distant and weird, it’ll just make him wonder if there’s something wrong. You apologized, let him know he has nothing to be sorry for, and it was a dumb drunk moment. Then move on and stop hyperfocusing on it.
Understandable, I don’t think I was trying to manipulate the situation. I’m not good with conflict and I recognize that. I just need advice on how to fix this
You have plenty of feedback. There’s a lot going on.
If I was you. I would bring her flowers everyday. Tell her you love her. Hug her, ask if there is anything you can do for her daily. Expect nothing in return.
I did this for 3 weeks. When the wife and I hit a tough spot. She finally submitted and said “ okay I will have sex with you” I told her “I have-a headache maybe some other day” She said “don’t be an asshole” I then told her “actually I have a real headache, rain check?”
Honestly I would feel the same way you feel. His response to this sounds like excuses a predator would say. I’m 21 right now and laugh at the idea of me forming a really close bond with a 15 year old, let alone having sexual tension. Your bf is a red flag and for me that would be a complete deal breaker. What would he think when you guys have a daughter who’s 15? How would he feel if a 21 year old was inappropriately close to her? Im sorry you’re going through this :/
Would you be able to exercise instead 9f drinking? My brother and husband both ramp up the physical activity when going through really tough emotional times.
I'm sorry this happened to you. You'll get through it.
I know and feel your pain with you. I am so sorry this happened but please, do yourself a favor and try your best to think about this situation clearly. 8 years is a long time and no one likes to say it but everyday you wake up, you and your significant other make a decision to fight for your relationship because it is some HARD work. She did not fight for you on that day. If you choose to continue your relationship, this is the foundation you are setting your marriage on. I do believe people change but the ball is in your court – You make that decision to stay and she damn well better put 110% into fixing the damage she has caused. Sending you a virtual hug & mindful clarity.
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My ex left me for another woman while my mother was dying. Your post infuriated me. Dump this POS loser and tell him to never come near you again, you deserve someone who respects and supports you during this tough time in your life.
If she really wanted an open relationship she can have one now. Seems like she would rather be with you.
I have counselling in general as I have anxiety, s
Was this the reason why you never “travelled” to see your ld bf at the time?
To be honest, she did admit to it in an email I saw, and having had a previous counselor fall asleep in a session I know how disheartening it can be …nd he is mocked (gently) a lot for how much he likes to talk – hes not comfortable in silence and he's very friendly – s
I hope your bf reported her to the board. This is not acceptable at all.
Why are you dating him then?
I wouldn't say anything if you are not prepared to commit to giving her a ride on a regular basis.
If she ends up living near to you, it will be harder and harder to conjure reasons why you can't give her a ride.
I think it is a nice thought, but that you can end up overcommitting yourself.
Make love to your wife more, 5 days a week like when you to gym, compliment her frequently and go out on dates with her, aside from helping out as much as you can in the house. This is to take her mind off you cheating on her, and hopefully with the extra care.you put on your wife, will reduce your time to do any cheating yourself.
I think if you continue to act distant and weird, it’ll just make him wonder if there’s something wrong. You apologized, let him know he has nothing to be sorry for, and it was a dumb drunk moment. Then move on and stop hyperfocusing on it.
Understandable, I don’t think I was trying to manipulate the situation. I’m not good with conflict and I recognize that. I just need advice on how to fix this
You have plenty of feedback. There’s a lot going on.
If I was you. I would bring her flowers everyday. Tell her you love her. Hug her, ask if there is anything you can do for her daily. Expect nothing in return.
I did this for 3 weeks. When the wife and I hit a tough spot. She finally submitted and said “ okay I will have sex with you” I told her “I have-a headache maybe some other day” She said “don’t be an asshole” I then told her “actually I have a real headache, rain check?”
It broke the ice. She came back to me.