I'm so sorry but have you heard “women marry who they want, men marry when they want.” I have known too many men who have gotten married when they feel ready, regardless of partner. Usually around 28-30.
Better let anyone you date know that you won't be there for them if they get stranded or need your help because you're busy taking a dump. This is not codependency, and you clearly do not know what codependency is. This is looking out for one-another. Seriously man, who hurt you?
He's not worth dying over. So if you're feeling suicidal at times, go. It sounds like a very unsatisfying life there. It also sounds like an uneven relationship, if he's not even willing to consider a compromise.
his mom told me she was manipulated and unaware of the situation
So either her son told her about the abuse and she chose not to believe him, or he felt that he couldn't tell her about the abuse because he knew it would do no good. And she couldn't see the abuse for herself.
Also you say “technically” he was abused, as if he's exaggerating or this particular brand of abuse doesn't count.
And now he's in exactly the same situation with you – First his mother told the child “Okay if it did happen, it wasn't that bad, and you're just over-reacting.” Now his fiancee is belittling the experience and denying him a voice all over again.
I'm amazed he even bothered to tell you he's considering breaking up. In his situation I would have just dropped contact with you as well. On the positive side, you seem to value your relationship with his mother more, so you can keep her in your life.
Agreed. My ex was a horrible partner but we are now best friends. He is my rock.
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I'm so sorry but have you heard “women marry who they want, men marry when they want.” I have known too many men who have gotten married when they feel ready, regardless of partner. Usually around 28-30.
!updateme
Better let anyone you date know that you won't be there for them if they get stranded or need your help because you're busy taking a dump. This is not codependency, and you clearly do not know what codependency is. This is looking out for one-another. Seriously man, who hurt you?
Probably more than 4 years since he has no idea where he’d be matched for residency
OP, THIS IS UR ANSWER MY DUDE
First thing I thought!
super immature way of handling issues, and very likely to end in abuse in the future (this already is a type of abuse in and of itself)
and the new trolling spam…wtf do you get out of all your spam post your generate? get some professional help
He's not worth dying over. So if you're feeling suicidal at times, go. It sounds like a very unsatisfying life there. It also sounds like an uneven relationship, if he's not even willing to consider a compromise.
his mom told me she was manipulated and unaware of the situation
So either her son told her about the abuse and she chose not to believe him, or he felt that he couldn't tell her about the abuse because he knew it would do no good. And she couldn't see the abuse for herself.
Also you say “technically” he was abused, as if he's exaggerating or this particular brand of abuse doesn't count.
And now he's in exactly the same situation with you – First his mother told the child “Okay if it did happen, it wasn't that bad, and you're just over-reacting.” Now his fiancee is belittling the experience and denying him a voice all over again.
I'm amazed he even bothered to tell you he's considering breaking up. In his situation I would have just dropped contact with you as well. On the positive side, you seem to value your relationship with his mother more, so you can keep her in your life.