![](/cs/camsoda2500.jpg")
0 views
Press right there to start video or
Room for online sex video chat MayForever
Model from:
Languages: en
Birth Date: 1920-05-06
Body Type: bodyTypeCurvy
Ethnicity: ethnicityWhite
Hair color: hairColorBlack
Eyes color: eyeColorBlue
Subculture: subcultureRomantic
Date: October 10, 2022
This sounds more like a panic attack to me combined with alcohol. I think you should just show your partner this message as it gives a really good insight on how you have experienced the event as well as how you feel about it. Other than working this out i would forgive my partner if i read this message, it shows you had no I'll intent and that it has damaged you as much as him if not more. That in itself is a lesson and “punishment” already.
Be open and straightforward. Otherwise you might come across as trying to hide something or playing some kind of power game.
You said he travelled in September back to where he lives, so if he loved you he would have traveled them to see you. He didn’t. If he didn’t love his wife and loved you he would divorce her. Sorry but this man is leading you on. He is married, he isn’t going to divorce his wife, and in fact he is currently talking about having children with her! Sure that should be a wake up call for you. If he loved you he would be making these plans with you. He would have travelled to meet you. He hasn’t, and I doubt he ever will.
What show was it? Twin Peaks?
You say your boyfriend gets angry and defensive whenever you bring this up, but how exactly do you bring it up and what does he say in response?
To me, his behaviour is a red flag, but only in the sense that it sounds like something might be going on for which he needs your support. Your post is very factual and to-the-point, but it doesn't offer any insight into whether you're actually trying to give him that.
Honestly age gaps can be weird, but this doesn’t feel like that kind of situation.
There are people with age gaps that have innocent and genuine interest in each other.
I have met hella 20-22 year olds through work who I thought were 25 or older. That part is not unbelievable. The age gap isn’t that huge either.
He’s being respectful and trying his best to show how much he likes you and not make it a creepy situation (from what you’re telling us here).
Keep up what your doing, be weary, it’s only been a month, but don’t be paranoid. If your mom is getting too pushy or nosy with her worry, keep her out of the loop until it’s serious. You guys may hang out and date for a few months and realize it won’t work out.
Don’t let assumptions on Reddit or your feelings cloud your judgment. Be on the look out for red flags like you would when getting to know anyone new that you could have an intimate relationship with.
Yes predators or creeps ALWAYS tell the younger person “you’re soooooo mature” but it is possible for someone to actually be mature for their age. EITHER WAY he just told you you look a few years older than you are. That’s completely different.
Plus 8 years when you’re both of drinking age isn’t that big of a gap. Im 32, with a partner who’s 30 and we have hella friends in their early to mid 20s still cause we are child free and like to party still. Our lives didn’t change that much except for our income and tolerance for bullshit.
It’s really not that uncommon or weird. I hope things work out for you both!
And everyone commenting “when I was 18 with a 35 year old…” that’s totally different if you ask me. 22 could be out of college and getting into the work force, or no college and years into the work force.
I get it, you still are missing life experience but a shit ton of development happens in those 4 years; it’s different, plain and simple.
If she wants to be friends… you talking to him isn't going to do anything.
Imo issue is more with your partner and why she is tolerant of this kind of behavior.
When I was younger I asked repeatedly and always had success with second, third and fourth attempts. Why quit at one? What other areas of life that you seek some goal do you try once and quit?
It’s our first relationship, so we’re just going at our own pace! I appreciate the feedback though.
The issue isn't that he did it, the issue is why he did it and why he was lying and risking you and your kids safety. That's where the biggest feelings of betrayal stem from. He broke trust in a big way. You have every right to feel as hurt as you do.
Contrary to others' mantra of the divorce bandwagon, I do think this is salvageable if you both are wanting it to be but that absolutely requires going to a good couples therapist and being vulnerable about the very hot shit. Lookup “LMFT” therapists on psychology today (their more specialized in working with couples rather than social workers, counselors, or psychologists), and find one that you jive with from their profile.
If you want things to work, you can make it happen. But it will take deep effort on both your parts to do so. Don't just stay for the kids; if you stay, stay because you want to try to work through this mess.