I didn't make it clear in the post but I am 100% going to give her the rest of her shit back, was just asking mainly about what else to say to her to draw a line under the whole thing.
He asked for the break so I'd leave it to him to decide when that “break” is over. That being said, if you feel like you've waited long enough. I'd reach out and say that you're done waiting and you wish him nothing but the best.
My advice would be to ask him how he feels about procrastination as a strategy for life. If you trigger a defense mechanism, you take a deeper breath and in a more slow deliberate manner tell him that you felt that he was suffering and wondered if you could be of any assistance to him. You don't know exactly what to do so that he benefits from your desire to help, so you wanted to know if this was an area where he felt like he needed some help. If it isn't, then if he could help you by solving where you fit into the puzzle so that you can give freely without reservation.
We all agree it wasn’t intentional, but it is not more ok because it wasn’t. You need to get your anger under control, period. Punching, throwing, and knocking over inanimate objects in a fit of rage is abuse.
Ah my mistake, I misread your stance on religion. Still no touch at all is also pretty big deal, it came up with my relationship too and it was (among other things) one of the reasons we split up.
I’d talk to her about it but it seems like she’s jumping around a lot and you want something more consistent
She’s being unreasonable in that she wants you to communicate your needs, then gets upset at you for doing so. She is shaming you for your sexuality and that’s wrong. She should find someone who is asexual, and you should find someone who likes sex.
Being kind to and playing with a kid does not a good father make. He gets to be fun weekend dad every day. He's not doing any of the hot stuff.
Definitely need to split up. Your child won't appreciate the naked stuff you do til much, much later. You need to split up, get shared custody which will force him to do some of the heavy lifting. Then you can look after yourself a bit and get to be fun mum ?
My girlfriend is also more messy than me and has a higher tolerance for dirt and trash. It has gotten a lot better since we introduced the “responsibility principle”. It means that whoever is responsible for a mess, like after cooking, also has to clean it up.
She still leaves stuff everywhere, but it has gotten a lot better… probably because she knows no one will clean it up after her and she will have to do it herself eventually.
Hmmm…you probably should reconsider the marriage altogether.
He has managed to convince you that he's saved up $$, but he hasn't. Do you know if he saved up any at all?
No.1 cause of divorce (and spousal murder) is money, y'know…not saying that you'll end up divorcing, but that's a pretty HUGE deal you need to sort out b4 getting married to your partner.
I didn't make it clear in the post but I am 100% going to give her the rest of her shit back, was just asking mainly about what else to say to her to draw a line under the whole thing.
Just she a drunk, I couldn't let myself enable it, she's trying to change, gone through too many times
He asked for the break so I'd leave it to him to decide when that “break” is over. That being said, if you feel like you've waited long enough. I'd reach out and say that you're done waiting and you wish him nothing but the best.
My advice would be to ask him how he feels about procrastination as a strategy for life. If you trigger a defense mechanism, you take a deeper breath and in a more slow deliberate manner tell him that you felt that he was suffering and wondered if you could be of any assistance to him. You don't know exactly what to do so that he benefits from your desire to help, so you wanted to know if this was an area where he felt like he needed some help. If it isn't, then if he could help you by solving where you fit into the puzzle so that you can give freely without reservation.
OMG people Google all kinds of crap, like where to get a vintage comic book or car parts or porn, but your husband cannot Google how eye color works.
thank you for helping me
We all agree it wasn’t intentional, but it is not more ok because it wasn’t. You need to get your anger under control, period. Punching, throwing, and knocking over inanimate objects in a fit of rage is abuse.
Ah my mistake, I misread your stance on religion. Still no touch at all is also pretty big deal, it came up with my relationship too and it was (among other things) one of the reasons we split up.
I’d talk to her about it but it seems like she’s jumping around a lot and you want something more consistent
She’s being unreasonable in that she wants you to communicate your needs, then gets upset at you for doing so. She is shaming you for your sexuality and that’s wrong. She should find someone who is asexual, and you should find someone who likes sex.
Shh, Reddit only has two solutions — therapy and divorce.
Being kind to and playing with a kid does not a good father make. He gets to be fun weekend dad every day. He's not doing any of the hot stuff.
Definitely need to split up. Your child won't appreciate the naked stuff you do til much, much later. You need to split up, get shared custody which will force him to do some of the heavy lifting. Then you can look after yourself a bit and get to be fun mum ?
once people break up, they generally don’t stay friends. Give her space. Find a new friend.
Agree, this is a really clear communication of the issue without creating drama.
My girlfriend is also more messy than me and has a higher tolerance for dirt and trash. It has gotten a lot better since we introduced the “responsibility principle”. It means that whoever is responsible for a mess, like after cooking, also has to clean it up.
She still leaves stuff everywhere, but it has gotten a lot better… probably because she knows no one will clean it up after her and she will have to do it herself eventually.
Hmmm…you probably should reconsider the marriage altogether.
He has managed to convince you that he's saved up $$, but he hasn't. Do you know if he saved up any at all?
No.1 cause of divorce (and spousal murder) is money, y'know…not saying that you'll end up divorcing, but that's a pretty HUGE deal you need to sort out b4 getting married to your partner.
Her answers are not different in every comment. I've read them all, and they're extremely consistent. Reading comprehension is important.